As the saying goes: A kind word warms you for three winters, but a bad word hurts you for six months. Speaking is indeed a science.

For those who can speak, blessings come from heaven; for those who cannot speak, disaster comes from their mouths.

Emperor Qianlong visited the south of the Yangtze River six times. Once, while visiting Suzhou, he was attracted by a rockery in a lion forest. He was so happy that he wanted to show off his calligraphy, so he mentioned "It's really interesting" on the rockery. "Three big words.

Everyone knows that Qianlong loved to write and write. He wrote nearly 40,000 poems in his life, but the quality was not very good.

Anyone who has read the three words "so interesting" knows that they are too ordinary and have no technical content. But everyone thinks so in their hearts but dare not say it with their mouths. If they do, they might lose their heads.

Qianlong knew it in his heart, but the words had been written, so he couldn't go back on his words.

At this time, a eloquent champion came up to flatter him, praised Qianlong for his good handwriting, and begged him to be given the word "you" in it. This would be a supreme honor.

Qianlong also understood the meaning and gave him the word "you". In this way, the remaining two words "true interest" seem particularly high-end.

The number one scholar not only saved Qianlong's face, but also got the emperor's imperial pen. Both of them were very happy.

Gui Guzi once said: The mouth is the gateway to the heart. The heart is the Lord of God. Will, desire, thought, and wisdom all come in and out through the door. Therefore, the gates are closed and closed to control entry and exit.

The mouth is the window to the soul, and the soul is the master of the spirit. Will, thought and ingenuity all enter and exit through this door and window. Therefore, open and close are used to guard this pass to control access. That’s why we say “be careful what you say”.

As we all know, if you are successful, everything you say is right and reasonable.

If you are down, you must be cautious in your words and deeds. Even if you say and do the right thing, others will ask: Why did you fail?

So, if you are poor, you should not talk nonsense, and if you have no money, try to do as little as possible. This is great wisdom.

In the book "Guiguzi", there are three sentences that a poor person should never say to help you learn how to behave in the world and avoid detours.

1. Don’t say angry words

The reason why people are human is because they know how to control their emotions. As the old saying goes: Only those who can tolerate others who cannot tolerate others will become great talents in the future. If you try for a short time, you will regret it for the rest of your life.

Nine times out of ten when life is unsatisfactory, you will get angry. It is unwise for you to express your anger and vent it on others. People who talk angrily often like to express their quick words for a while, which can easily offend others and also allow them to be manipulated.

Even if Mount Tai collapses in front of us, our appearance will not change. Only in this way can we be able to face major events without being seen through by others and be a wise person.

During the Three Kingdoms period, Cao Cao defeated Yuan Shao and captured Jizhou because of Xu You's help.

When Xu You first came to seek refuge, Cao Cao went out barefoot to greet Xu You, treating him as an honored guest. However, after taking Jizhou, Xu You was no longer of use, and Cao Cao was inherently suspicious, making it even less likely to entrust the traitor Xu You with important tasks.

So Xu You had a huge inner gap and was very angry. He drank drunkenly at the gate of Jizhou City every day and did not want to make progress. Thinking that at the beginning, he was a highly regarded military advisor under Yuan Shao's sect, but now he was ignored and was extremely depressed, so Xu You felt very unhappy.

One day, Xu You saw Cao Cao at the city gate and said: Cao A'ao, without me, you can't get Jizhou.

In fact, this is also true, but it is also an angry statement, which is a taboo for being a minister.

For the first time, Cao Cao thought that he was a meritorious official, so he didn't care about him.

Unexpectedly, the more Xu You thought about it, the more angry he became, so he cursed Cao Cao on the tower all day long.

Cao Cao had a tiger general named Xu Chu. Prime Minister Cao could bear it, but Xu Chu couldn't. He raised his sword and dropped it, and Xu You died.

2. Don’t talk big words

Everyone has vanity, but exaggerating one’s abilities is just talking big words. Such people are extremely unconfident and want to be recognized by others.

But the truth is often the opposite. As we get along with each other over time, everyone will think that this person is fake and are unwilling to associate with him. People who tell lies are like clowns who only make people laugh.

Furthermore, people who like to talk big are usually incompetent, while truly capable people are often low-key. If you tell a big story, you may need to use many lies to cover it up. If a bottle is not half full, you are likely to be isolated and shunned by everyone. What's more, they may make big mistakes because of their big words.

During the Warring States Period, there were Taoist priests in the State of Zhao, commonly known as Jianghu Taoists, who mostly told people's fortunes and made elixirs. He wanders the streets every day without enough to eat, and he especially likes to tell lies in order to deceive others and make ends meet. He claimed that he was a half-immortal and had lived for thousands of years. He had met Yao, Shun, Yu, Huangdi, Yandi and others. Everyone was dubious about this and didn't take it to heart.

One day, King Zhao went out hunting and accidentally fell. The injury was serious. The doctor suggested drinking blood that had lasted for thousands of years to cure the disease. At this time, King Zhao remembered that there was an alchemist in Zhao who claimed to have lived for thousands of years, so King Zhao sent people to capture him and take his blood.

The alchemist was so frightened that he knelt down and begged for mercy, saying that he had been lying before and that he would not live that long at all. But King Zhao didn't believe him and thought he was lying to save his life, so he killed him anyway.

It’s easy to talk big, but how to round it off? This is indeed difficult.

3. Don’t say depressing words

There are always ups and downs in life, and if you face difficulties, if you choose to blame others and surrender, then you will never be able to get out of the predicament.

At this time, you should reflect on yourself, why you failed, sum up your experience, and try again. Failure is the mother of success. Failure is not terrible. What is terrible is losing the courage to start all over again.

Those who only have eyes for themselves and complain about others all day long will naturally be far away from good luck. No one wants to associate with such a person.

For people who speak sweetly and are lovable, no matter what you say is true or false, everyone will like it, and good luck will come to you.

In 202 BC, Han Xin was ambushed from all sides. Xiang Yu, the former overlord of Western Chu, was defeated and retreated to the Wujiang River. It happened that there was a small boat parked on the shore of the Wujiang Pavilion.

Seeing that the Han army was about to arrive, the pavilion chief persuaded Xiang Yu to cross the river, saying: Although Jiangdong is small, there are more than a thousand miles of land and hundreds of thousands of people. When the king crosses the river, he can still claim the title of king on the other side. As long as the green hills remain, there will be no need to worry about running out of firewood, and we can pursue another great undertaking in the future.

King Xiang smiled bitterly and said: If heaven destroys me, how can I survive? Xiang Yu attributed the reason for his failure to "Heaven will destroy me."

Does he know that Han Xin first served under his account? If he had a discerning eye, history might be rewritten. Also at the Hongmen Banquet, he had a chance to kill Liu Bang, but he missed the opportunity because of his arrogance.

If Xiang Yu retreats to Jiangdong, it is not impossible to pursue great achievements in the future. However, Xiang Yu is aloof and arrogant by nature and chooses to blame others. Therefore, it is not that God wants to destroy him, but that he wants to destroy himself.

An old saying goes: Everyone sweeps the snow in front of their own door, and don’t worry about the frost on other people’s tiles. When people are down, in addition to not talking nonsense, they should also not pay attention to the following three things to avoid getting burned.

1. Disputes

If you don’t know the suffering of others, don’t persuade others to be generous. If you encounter a dispute with others, you are not involved in it, so you cannot understand the feelings of others. Because the needle is pricking someone else's body, you will not feel much pain.

Things that have nothing to do with you in the first place, if you don’t know the truth, get involved, make wild assumptions, and cause trouble.

As a result, you, a gentle person, did not resolve the dispute at all, but instead aggravated the development of the situation, involved yourself in it, and burned yourself. Why bother?

Crosstalk Queen Yu Qian once said that the most important thing in life is to take care of yourself and not meddle in other people's affairs. I think it makes sense. Many people can't even take care of themselves, so how can they take care of others? Isn't this causing trouble for others?

2. Things to take responsibility

When you are poor, you should be more cautious in doing things. As the saying goes: The sky is as productive as the earth is bold. What you do must match your ability, and you must not take responsibility for no reason. Think twice before you act and consider the consequences.

For example, if your leader gives you a task, if you have never done it, remember not to boast in front of the leader and promise that you can complete the task. If you fail to do it well, you will definitely be criticized.

You can say that I will do my best, so that even if you don't do well, the leader may think that you have tried your best.

Nowadays, many people have served as guarantors. Party A and Party B have a debt relationship, and they find passerby C as a guarantor. A few years later, passerby B’s business fails and he cannot pay back the money. This money requires the guarantor Passerby C to pay back the money for Party B. Passerby C regrets it too late.

So, it is best not to put responsibility on your own shoulders.

3. Uncertain things

Sun Tzu's Art of War said: The more you count, the more likely you are to win;

The "calculation" here refers to the probability of winning, mostly referring to a guaranteed victory. The greater the odds, the greater your chances of winning.

Today, shopping malls are like battlefields, a war without smoke. If you are at a trough, you may fall into the abyss if you fail again, so don't fight an unprepared battle or do anything you're not sure about.

In World War II, the Japanese army launched a sneak attack on Pearl Harbor without considering the consequences and had no certainty of victory. However, they still made a desperate move and launched a sneak attack at all costs.

Although they won a short victory, they paid a heavy price. Two fat babies reduced two Japanese cities to the ground.

Summary

Have you learned the above six ways of conducting yourself in the world? When a person is poor, do not say angry words, do not talk big words, and do not say depressing words. When you have no money, don't care about disputes, don't care about taking responsibility, and don't do anything you are unsure of.

Only by mastering these basic principles of life can one be able to navigate the rivers and lakes like a fish in water with ease.

For more than two thousand years, Guiguzi has been sought after by future generations. Military strategists respect him as a saint, politicians respect him as the ancestor, fortune tellers and fortune tellers respect him as the ancestor, and strategists respect him as the sage. , famous scholars respect him as the master, and Taoism ranks him with Laozi and respects him as the ancestor of Wang Chan.

The book "Guiguzi" has also been praised by later generations as "the forbidden fruit of wisdom, a unique book in the world". This book summarizes the successes and failures of life and gives you guidance when you are at the lowest point in life.

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After reading "Guiguzi", I realized: If you meet a pig, you don't need to talk to him about your thoughts, because he cares about feed.

After reading "Murphy's Law", I realized that: not speaking in pain is a kind of wisdom; smiling but not speaking is a kind of open-mindedness.

After reading "The Way of the Wolf", I realized that the distance between people lies in moderation and self-discipline.

After reading "Human Weaknesses", I realized: I can tell you the truth with a smile, or I can turn my face and tell you the rules.

After reading "Parchment Scrolls" I realized: Never give up until the last moment.

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