In the eyes of friends, Lao Jiang and his wife have very good feelings. They have never seen a red-faced and blushing couple, who are known far and wide in the company. Everyone, a group of young people, watched with envy. They asked Lao Jiang what tricks she had in her marriage. Lao Jiang smiled faintly: "There is only one way, and that is to understand' turn'."
"turn" It's easier said than done. Especially angry couples, sometimes they will vomit for a long time in order to make better sentences, and sometimes they will even pay decisive attention to each other. It is too difficult to "turn around" at this time. Everyone threw the question to Lao Jiang again. He didn't want Lao Jiang to say firmly, "Let's describe it as a brand image. When two people from different cars quarrel in the street, it is very easy to bump into each other. " At this time, both sides step on the brake pedal to turn off the fire, which can prevent frontal impact. The same is true in the field of married life. When couples blush and have thick necks because of everything at home, they are like two people who don't drive each other away. If they don't restrain themselves, it is very easy to have a scene of disharmony. Giving each other an emotional signature in time is an appropriate' turn around' in the field of marriage life. It can not only prevent emotional crisis reasonably, but also make our hearts wider and wider. "
I thought about my uncle's married life. My uncle was liked by many girls when he was young, but he insisted on not understanding any of them and finally chose a girl he liked. After marriage, my uncle waited on my aunt like a little princess and forbade her to do housework. After that, once people reach middle age, grandpa's health is not as good as before, and even doing some housework feels very difficult. But regardless of family conditions, my aunt hired a family nanny to do housework and take care of her uncle. Slowly, the salary of two people can't keep this expenditure at all. My uncle wants my aunt to quit the family nanny, but she won't do it. They often quarrel. In the end, they quarreled and divorced not long ago. My aunt is very nice, but she is too careless about the details of her family. Uncle's T-shirt is difficult at home, but it is not easy to express it properly. If both sides understand the plastic arts of "turning" and learn to convince each other in a gentle way, the problem will never be so unbearable.
In daily life, people often attribute the disharmony between husband and wife to the problem of three views. In fact, temperament is only one level, but whether it will "turn" ultimately determines the direction of married life. It's my friend Dagang, who used to be a very popular person. When he first got married, he often quarreled with his wife Qin Xue for better trifles. Just as many people don't like their married life, things have taken a turn. At a critical juncture, Qin Xue listened to his best friend's persuasion and often stepped on the "brake pedal" immediately when he was angry, so that his mind turned a corner. Strangely, Taigang, who was very angry at first, saw Qin Xue's "staying put", and his mentality of wanting to explode became more and more relaxed. Slowly, one person gave in to another, and the anger gradually disappeared. Nowadays, the "green light" of intimacy and emotion between two people has never been lit. It can be said that I understand the "turn", which makes Dagang's married life more and more stable and sweeter.
Marriage life is like a couple driving a "children's bumper car" and colliding with each other. It is inevitable that the emotional line will be disconnected and driven on the emotional road. If there is no dispute, it is always in a dilemma, and no one can move. And adjust the size and turn a corner, and you will be driving in the fast lane of feelings, carrying everyone in the direction of happiness.