I recently re-read "Dr. Yoshida's Study at Harvard". I now try to read paper books and e-books. When I have free time, I read the paper books, and when I have no time, I just flip through a few pages of the e-book. . When I saw this e-book in the morning, a reader mentioned Li Zheyuan and remembered that he had viewed Li Zheyuan's inspirational videos on Douyin, so he was particularly interested in his book "It's Better to Create". I took advantage of my spare time this morning to read the preface to this book, and it was particularly rewarding. The preface was written by Li Zheyuan's mother. The first paragraph is inspiring: "The bounden duty of parents is to let their children have a sound personality, good physique and a positive attitude towards life. With these three points, why worry about the child not having one?" A good life? "Yes, most parents in modern times are afraid that their children will lose at the starting line, so they enroll their children in various tutoring and interest classes, which makes their children physically anxious as they grow up and stifles their curiosity and imagination.

Mother Li is very modest. She said that she cultivates her children by "doing nothing", but her preface is enough to illustrate Mother Li's wisdom.

001 Give your children enough trust and encouragement

Before Li Zheyuan graduated from elementary school, Li’s mother saw that he was very weak and thought of many solutions, such as taking him to do various activities. This kind of exercise encouraged him to make more friends, pretending not to be familiar with the road during the trip, and leaving the whole responsibility to Zheyuan to guide him and arrange accommodation. etc. After graduating from Zheyuan Primary School, he became a healthy, cheerful, independent-minded young man who is willing to work hard and is not afraid of difficulties.

002 Be honest with your children

After Zheyuan was five or six years old, he chatted with Li’s mother every day. Zhe Yuan would talk to her about interesting topics he saw, while Li's mother would talk to Zhe Yuan about the movies and novels she had read, and would recite the entire paragraph when the mood struck. She would also talk about life experiences, and confess family changes to Zhe Yuan. This kind of magical chat not only allows children to develop the ability to listen patiently, but also exercises children's expression skills, allowing children to learn to think and face life optimistically.

The most important thing is to be honest with your children, so that there is no barrier between parents and children, and the children will not be rebellious during the rebellious period.

003 Good at discovering the bright spots in others

Mother Li recalled seeing Zheyuan often talking to the shoe repair master at the door of the dormitory courtyard, and often praised the shoe repair master for his good character and good craftsmanship , Mother Li felt more satisfied than winning the Mark Six Lottery. This mentality of "there is a sequence of learning the Tao, and there is a specialization in the art, and where the Tao exists, there is also a teacher" is worth learning. So on Zheyuan's 26th birthday, Li's mother wrote four words to him: See the wise and think of others.

004 Support your child’s choices wholeheartedly

Zheyuan has had various ideas since he was a child. Mother Li believes that as long as these ideas are reasonable and beneficial to physical and mental health, she will support them if necessary. He will also be his right-hand partner.

Zheyuan wanted to study abroad during the summer vacation of his third year of junior high school. Li’s mother thought he was just talking about it, but she discovered that he had seriously made a list of goals to achieve, including when the TOEFL test would be taken. , how many points will be taken.

Li’s mother was moved by Zheyuan’s hard work and tenacity, so she stepped up her work intensity, teaching students and working part-time as a translator after her heavy workload. He has not taken any weekends for several years to provide financial support for his son to achieve his goals.

005 Being a Scout for Children

In the process of setting goals for her children, Li’s mother summarized the process of Zheyuan going all out to achieve the goals. There is nothing that makes people feel that it is achieved overnight. Xuanyuan felt that during the preparation process for Zheyuan's application to Yale University, whether it was competitions, activities, or knowledge accumulation, he put in as much effort as anyone else. He was especially frightened when encountering problems and setbacks, but he did not There is no escape. Instead, he "bited the bullet" and fought hard, and finally achieved a self-breakthrough.

As a mother of a single-parent family, due to the changes in the family, she did not give her grievances and worries to her children, but gave her children enough respect, support, and understanding. This is an example for most mothers to learn from.