0 1_ An employee is responsible for this _; At the same time, he is also the person who can relieve my anxiety and pain most. Five years later, I will still repeat this dream: I am on the big bed and kneeling on his knee. Sunlight filtered by the shadow of buttonwood hit the pillow. He first went to the bathroom to wash his hands with cold water to cool down, then covered my red back with his palm, tidied up my hair stuck to my forehead by sweat, and joked with me: Look, Zuo Qinglong, you white tiger, I'll give you a Mickey Mouse on your back.
I managed to smile and didn't feel any pain.
I am a very nervous person, and my first love is a very relaxed person.
Because he was not grounded and divorced from the national conditions, he blindly chose to take the train for more than 40 hours to come to me. No wonder, flash floods broke out along the way, the tracks were washed away, there was no place to charge on the hard sleeper, and the mobile phone was turned off. When I couldn't reach him, I felt so sad that he was still alive and dead.
I thought he had never been on a train since he was a child. After 48 hours in hell mode, he must be full of anger.
As a result, as soon as he appeared, he was like a barren man, without any complaints or impatience. He happily talked with me about how to get along with the uncle in the lower berth and got a pack of instant noodles for disaster relief.
Because I was divorced from the national conditions, I couldn't use Taobao, and I bought a pack of strange weapons in Keng Dad's offline adult goods store, which hurt me.
He angrily picked up the plastic T-egg that looked cheap but didn't sell cheaply, just like picking up a mouse with its tail in its mouth, pointing at the T-egg and swearing: "You useless little waste, the old lumbar massager is better than you, killing my rabbit, get out!" Then angrily threw the t egg into the trash can.
I was amused by him, and I had long forgotten that T eggs were not easy to use.
He is not a terrible S at all, and the set of equipment sold by the black-hearted shopkeeper in adult goods store is really too simple, and the whole TJ is a fool.
But fortunately, that is my best TJ, lying in my memory, like the belly of a soft and furry totoro, which can bury the whole person's thoughts. When I was beaten out of breath by society, back to that summer five years ago, the relaxed joy in the air could still heal me.
As an S, it is very important to know the way of "fighting"; But with the ability to heal after being beaten, it will be as beautiful as a dream.
The mission of 02_ is to create pain, and the cure is to smooth the pain. At first glance, it is a contradictory relationship. But if S is just a tool that creates pain without emotion, then BDSM is not sadism, but abuse.
If you ask an M, TJ, what is left after the excitement slowly dissipates, which will still fascinate you?
I estimate that ta will answer: the comfort of being held in her arms, the concern of being disciplined, the enrichment and stability of being owned. -lingering or even addictive, lingering taste.
Some people have been cured by beautiful TJ for a long time;
Some people, it takes a long time to cure TJ.
If you give S gentle comfort after the pain, the endorphins secreted in the body can also bring temperature; If s leaves after an operation, m is left alone.
To this end, S should polish the ability to accurately control pain and cultivate the ability to cure pain.
03_ Healing is not the stereotype of "being light-handed, good-natured, sweet-mouthed and deceiving". The word "warm s" was once quite popular.
I don't know when it started, and the high-profile self-proclaimed "warm S" in the signature column is as bad as "warm man". If "warmth" becomes a well-designed trick to accurately locate girls who lack love and care, to create a caring person with photos of cats and dogs, to show affinity with caring words, and to win trust with the skill of walking with girls inside, it will run counter to the warm personality charm.
Healing should not be a performance personality, nor should it be a weak code of conduct. S doesn't have to be stubborn in his masculinity to please the milk dog.
Healing can be bright and silent, like a pair of generous palms, which can set off the sadness in sinking.
The most important part in TJ treatment is aftercare.
Generally speaking, aftercare is the care and comfort after TJ.
The behavior that S scares M most is not a beating, but "hanging without mercy". When M curled up in the corner of the bed, his sweat-soaked skin was cold, powerless, helpless and unable to resist, and he wanted a hug, but S was anxious and indifferent, and left after taking a shower. M should have panicked, worried about what he had done wrong at the same time, and was left out by S.
In BDSM, the more novice you are, the more intense you play, and the easier it is to produce the state of "blx". Because M entrusted her body and mind to S, she unloaded the defense mechanism, had low "immunity", was sensitive and fragile, and was particularly worried about being abandoned.
I first felt this "fear of leaving" when I was a little white. I invited the eldest brother of Alphabet Circle to his room for the first time. He pointed to the paper I was writing, chatted with me about history, and then held hands with me for a while. When he said that he would go to work tomorrow and it was time to go home, he was instantly depressed and felt like a cake in the oven. It became fluffy as soon as it was familiar, but it was immediately dug away by more than half.
I kept it several times, but I didn't ask him to slow down and pick up his briefcase and leave. Even though we didn't do anything that day, I still collapsed in the corner and played with me all night.
Nursing is to slow down the pace of withdrawal, and don't turn farewell and separation into farewell and abandonment. A popular science article in the 48th issue provides many good prescriptions.
Hug/touch (it doesn't matter whether the place you touch is sensitive or not, it's important to feel each other) Praise: You did a great job/you are a great sub.
Kiss their marks or scars.
Help them prepare sports drinks to replenish energy.
Prepare a warm bath for them and take a bath with them if possible.
And then wrapped together in a warm fluffy blanket.
All the above methods are very good. In my opinion, the simplest and most effective cure is to throw the mobile phone aside, hold M tightly in your arms, hold it for at least ten minutes, and chat together one by one. In this way, the peace of mind of "you are still there, you won't leave me alone" will lie down in the lower abdomen. S, has the ability to heal, and has a peaceful and generous attitude.
When we broke up half a year ago, I suffered from "emotional violence".
From then on, I discovered how rare it is for a person to control his emotions, not to be furious, not to vent, and not to let them rage.
S is endowed with high rights, and the owner of rights must be a person with sound personality, balanced mentality and moderate relaxation. It is precisely because of this that S can export more powerful emotional processing ability, cure M's temporary depression and helplessness, and achieve "pain without injury".
S should be clearly rewarded and punished, and often have emotions. No matter whether you are angry or gentle, you should make clear the boundaries between playing and getting along with each other every day, so that your behavior can be predictable, so that M will not be afraid all the time, just like a frightened bird, unable to relax and comfort.
The reason why first love is my strongest healing ability is because there is a kind of "Tianjin gene" in his personality that I can't learn-incomparable tolerance, easy-going and magical humor, relaxed and interesting reconciliation with the world, worse than Li Birthday's philosophy of life.
At that time, when I was under great pressure to win or lose, he always turned my advantage into invisibility at the other end of the video, joking. Even though we never quarreled, he didn't let my disappointment last until the next day.
Treatment is a very powerful ability. A person with a stable and generous heart can repair or even change a fragile and sensitive heart.
S, which has the ability to heal, is itself a reservoir full of emotions. It is calm and rich, it can balance play and daily life, severity and spoil, pain and caress.
04_ The underlying logic of healing power is sincere love and care. An S who only uses M as a venting tool, even if he knows how to appease, is far from being cured. The last time I was cured, I was forced to work in an uncomfortable chair for a long time, and my neck, shoulders, waist and legs hurt, which further led to my anxiety attack and tossing and turning, and I couldn't sleep.
Talking to a boy about my grin and fatigue, he asked me to open the video and show me something interesting.
He has just learned New Pants's songs, and I like to sing them when I am depressed. I don't sing very coherently on the guitar. He also said that he developed a sleep accelerator, which is actually to make orange peel into a cute little hat to wear on his head.
I was amused and fell asleep peacefully. Those anxieties and pains are cured by a song; To be precise, it was cured by the care he learned immediately when he knew which song I liked, and by the pleasure of urging me to sleep.
Because of caring, S will dig deep into his heart, turn the pain you want into reality, and come first after the pain fades to fill the emptiness and blank.
At the end, Mao Mu said in The Moon and Sixpence, Let's look for those simple and sincere feelings. Those "ignorance" are more valuable than our knowledge. Let's keep silent, be content with our own small world and be gentle. This is the wisdom of life. Addictive "fighting" is the front of TJ, which needs beautiful tools, dazzling skills and precise power;
Healing is TJ's back, silent, clumsy, relaxed and gentle, but full of tenderness and warmth. -
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