Five years may not be long or short, but it is the best time for a person to calm down and settle down. Facing her husband's cheating, Ma Yili was pregnant with her second child. At that time, everyone seemed to think that Ma Yili would break up with Wen Zhang immediately. What everyone didn't expect was that Ma Yili suddenly realized that she chose to break up with Wen Zhang. Continue to settle in the marriage for 5 years. As bystanders, we all think that Ma Yili's words "Marriage is not easy" are an apology for Wen Zhang, but?

In 2014, when the scene of Wen Zhang and Yao Di hugging each other intimately on the street was made public, The 38-year-old Ma Yili responded with a pregnant belly: "Marriage is not easy, but you have to do it and cherish it." At the beginning, everyone thought that Ma Yili chose to let the article go, let herself go, and continue the sister-brother relationship between the two because she considered the feelings of her two daughters. In 2019, Ma Yili and Wen Zhang officially announced their divorce. After five years of ups and downs, Ma Yili transformed in the relationship crisis and bid farewell to Wen Zhang with a gorgeous turn. (1) Five years of divorce preparation, the reason behind Ma Yili’s maverick behavior

If it were you or another woman, if your husband also committed the evil act of cheating in marriage, then Will you say to him plainly, "Marriage is not easy, do it and cherish it", or will you make a decisive decision and break up with him and divorce him angrily? The decision to divorce was made at that time. I think Ma Yili has always thought about this, but she still restrained the anger in her heart after the most angry moment. After thinking calmly, she decided to temporarily forgive Wen Zhang's cheating behavior. Note: This is only temporary.

Ma Yili’s maverick attitude was ridiculed by netizens at the time. But we might as well base on the specific situation of the couple Ma Yili and Wen Zhang at the time. Ma Yili was pregnant with their second child, and Ma Yili was unable to work at the time. In addition, the two daughters were too young and needed parental care. If divorced, child custody would be an issue, and Ma Yili would be inconvenienced in all aspects if she was pregnant for ten months. At the same time, the two were at the stage of mutual success in their careers, and their articles were becoming popular. Ma Yili was temporarily unable to work, and she needed him .

Another important reason why Ma Yili did not choose the same move as Mao Xiaotong was the emotional dependence of one party on the other in the marriage. Faced with her husband's cheating, if she divorced immediately, at least Wen Zhang would still have Yao Di to rely on, but could Ma Yili rely on another man at that time? She doesn't want to suffer a big psychological gap in a short period of time. Perhaps she is looking for a time and psychological transition period. When her children are older and her career is more stable, she can let go completely. (2) Five years of preparation for divorce, behind Ma Yili’s gorgeous turn

If everyone still hates Ma Yili, why did they choose to divorce Wen Zhang after five years? If this question is difficult to understand, then you might as well go and watch Ma Yili’s unique landscape five years later. At that moment when Wen Zhang confirmed her cheating on Weibo, Ma Yili may have already made a decision in her heart: She must divorce this marriage, but now is not the time. If you had angrily chosen to divorce at that time, you might not have seen Ma Yili's heroic appearance after the divorce.

The cheating on Yao Di during marriage is a stain that will never be erased in the whole life of the article, but Ma Yili is different. She assumes the identity of the victim in the marriage, even though everyone is at odds with her for the time being. I felt doubtful and ridiculed about the article’s move to divorce, but I felt more sympathy for the woman. Five years after the affair, Wen Zhang and Ma Yili are still in a state of mutual success in their careers. However, the only work that Wen Zhang can produce seems to be "The Young Marshal" starring Li Xuejian, while Ma Yili is not. ?

Ma Yili does not hate that the article is false. During the lactation period after giving birth to her second child, she tenaciously filmed "Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou Don't Believe in Tears". After half a year of postpartum recovery, Ma Yili He also picked up "The First Half of My Life". These two works can be regarded as the middle-aged Ma Yili's famous works. Although Wen Wen has also directed movies with Ma Yili in the past five years, doing so will only make everyone hate Wen more. Five years later, Ma Yili has become the most glamorous heroine. It was at this time that Ma Yili broke up. (3) The biggest shady secret behind breaking up a marriage? Infidelity in marriage

What kind of behaviors and actions can be defined as infidelity in marriage? In fact, I have thought about this issue for a long time. I feel that both mental and physical cheating can be regarded as the biggest shady factors that can break up a marriage. However, compared with physical cheating, mental cheating is more obscure. But if there is no change in thoughts, there will naturally be no further actions on the physical level, because the body is controlled by thoughts.

So in the end, we came to a seemingly reasonable truth: those men who cheated on their wives, from head to toe, had no desire and love for their current partners, because in their bodies Before the affair, the heresy had already occurred in the mind. Ma Yili saw the whole incident very thoroughly. It was really difficult for her to leave the article for a while. Whether it was her married life or her relationship, she had become habitually dependent on the article. But Ma Yili concluded: We just won’t break up for the time being.

The marriage between Ma Yili and Wen Zhang reminds me of Jia Nailiang and Li Xiaolu, who also divorced in 2019.

These two divorced couples made the same mistakes, but their cheating roles and genders were different. The article cheated on Yao Di and Li Xiaolu cheated on the hip-hop singer PG one. Li Xiaolu was exposed to have cheated on her at the end of 2017, and Jia Nailiang officially divorced her in 2019. For more than a year, Jia Nailiang certainly had the same thoughts as Ma Yili. For more than a year, Jia Nailiang slowly let go of Li Xiaolu, knowing deep down that cheating in marriage was unforgivable, so after getting used to it, Jia Nailiang announced her divorce. I want to tell you

Whether it is Ma Yili, Jia Nailiang, or all the couples shown above, everyone seems to experience the psychology of Ma Yili and Jia Nailiang when they are hurt. But I think that for those couples who are affectionate and dependent, Jia Nailiang and Ma Yili's choice is rational.