I had nothing to do, so I followed several episodes of "Beijing Women's Picture Book", which was very popular recently.

Chen Ke, played by Stephy, has a general education and family background. Because he didn't want to live a similar life, he chose to drift north. From the front desk of a small company, to white-collar workers in foreign companies, to business agents and self-media, all the way, just to spell out their own small world.

Chen Ke skillfully dealt with all kinds of men, and finally achieved success in his career. Such a plot will inevitably be criticized. There are many plots in the play that can't stand scrutiny, and even three views are incorrect.

Chen Ke's Beipiao seems to have been hung up-the hostess on the wine table was recommended by the big boss to go to a foreign company; Queue in the office, like to mention the boyfriend of the department manager; Because of the band-aid, I not only successfully changed careers, but also rented the boss's mansion at a low price; After losing the customer, he cried bitterly and the customer came back. ...

Picture Book of Beijing Women is really embarrassing. I'm afraid this is the worst time that Beipiao girls have been hacked. It clearly shows the story of a girl and 1 1 man.

Those young girls who really work hard in big cities don't have so many nobles to meet and so many men to be reliable, so they can only struggle to the end on their own.

When they were young, they traveled with swords and didn't care about living without a fixed place. Secretly clench your fists, grit your teeth, and try to make yourself work harder just to stay.

But their future is a quadratic equation with discriminant less than zero.

02

I have a reader named Qiqi, who went to Shenzhen alone after graduation, with less than 1000 yuan.

She was determined to take root in that city and gain a foothold. She proudly shouted to the brightly lit city: "I bet my youth here, but I know I won't lose."

However, people pay attention to those who are rich and successful. Even an ordinary person, people will only notice his brilliance. Who cares about people like Kiki?

"Love, you know? I really planned to pack up and go back to my hometown, but I was embarrassed to think about my savings. "

One night, Kiki and I talked about her sad history. When I first went to Shenzhen, the dark handshake building could not get the sun all the year round; Crowded subway station, standing until the limbs are weak; The price of unpalatable take-away fast food has tripled.

The house she lives in is a small room of about 10 square meters, which has nothing but a single bed. Lying in bed, I creak when I turn over, but the rent costs me a third of my salary because it's only 30 minutes' drive from the company.

Fortunately, Kiki finally persisted, the accommodation conditions improved, the salary rose slowly, and extra money was sent to her parents in her hometown.

After Kiki was promoted, some people said that she hooked up with the department head. Why else does her performance always come first? Seeing the suitors occasionally pick her up by car, some people say that she must have found a rich second generation and must have been adopted.

Kiki doesn't care about these gossips, but she really wants to have a man to rely on. If women have capital, it is understandable to rely on men. There is no need to give up your own advantages and compare with others' shortcomings.

But she is plain and doesn't like dressing up, so she is not liked. She is a team alone, and she is her strong backing.

03

I once received a conversation from another reader. She just graduated and went to a big city. Lucky enough, she soon entrusted herself to a very rich man.

The man bought her lipstick, coat and brand-name bag, let her live in a big house with French windows, and promised to support her for life and not let her work overtime.

However, when she found a man having an affair with another girl and scolded him, the man said, "I'll provide you with food and clothes. You can help me untie my coat." Don't really think of yourself as a fairy. Being alone all day will be very tired. "

It turns out that the gifts given by fate have been marked in the dark. Relying on men is undoubtedly a shortcut, but the road ahead is uncertain. For a man who married a canary and went home, he might need other canaries.

I remember a scene that impressed me deeply in the first half of my life before the fire.

He Han angrily denounced Luo Zijun: "I don't need to talk about life with such a delicate and touching greenhouse flower that has no viability!"

Hearing this, Luo Zijun burst into tears: "What makes you say that I have no viability? I'm a wife. I raise children. It's not easy for me This is called no viability. Why don't you try? I'm just like Tang Jing. Graduated from college and worked for half a year after graduation. I am also a foreign company. Chen took me home. He told me not to work. He promised me a perfect and happy life. He said he would support me. This home is my job. "

However, Chen, who said that he would support Luo Zijun all his life, had an affair and wanted to divorce her. And she can do nothing but go shopping to buy clothes and have afternoon tea.

Maybe many women will meet a man who vowed to say "I support you" like Luo Zijun, but it is difficult for him to stick to the end. Even if he just talks nonsense, women take it seriously.

Women want to be comfortable in marriage. Men not only give a lot of love, but also give a lot of money, but you should have the capital to reach out and hug, and also have the ability to reach out and make money. Your confidence must be given by yourself.

Never believe that it is better to marry well than to do well. In this world, the most reliable is always yourself. Only when you never want to rely on anyone can you live a happy life with peace of mind.

04

These days, I have been thinking, what kind of women can be called real "independent women"?

Perhaps, independence also means seeing your own uniqueness, not comparing with others, and believing that your original self is beautiful and unique. Beauty and uniqueness have nothing to do with appearance and achievement, but are caused by inner tolerance and spirituality.

Independence is different from being single, getting married or even having children. All women need a certain degree of independence. They have the ability to take care of their own life and emotional needs and accept the care and help of others instead of asking for it indefinitely.

"Tokyo Women's Picture Book" Zhu Yu is at the front. Although the heroine Ling has also changed four men, she is not like that, like a climbing flower, showing off herself by men's high branches.

The Korean drama "Fog" is also uncharacteristic, opening the era of big women. Although her husband comes from a legal family, Gao Huilan's strength can't be underestimated from an unknown journalist to a well-known female anchor.

Zhang Ziyi, for example, is really lucky to get the attention of famous directors such as Zhang Yimou and Wong Kar-wai, and then gradually shine. But without her own efforts and respect for her career, there would be no Yu Jiaolong and Gong Er.

The so-called independent women are independent in character and economy, with desire, ambition and ability, rather than constantly climbing up with the help of men.

Otherwise, when love rat moves on, the front is vast and the abyss is at your feet. You can't be independent with your bare hands.

05

Beauvoir once said this passage, let me deeply impressed:

Not all the girls are Chen Ke. Without the beauty of prosperity, don't fantasize that you can become a overbearing president and embark on the peak of your life after a fall.

Even if the face value is high enough, you can choose to be your own Fan Bingbing and proudly say, "Who cares about the giants, I am the giants."

If you are over 20 years old, but under 25 years old, you must find something besides love that can make you stand firm on the earth with your feet, and you must find a way to make a living.

The only person in this world who can rely on for a lifetime is you in the mirror, who is still strong despite setbacks.

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