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I think newcomers are bullied, manipulated, looked down upon, and ostracized in the workplace to teach them about the treachery, slipperiness, and treachery of the adult world.

In this society, there are all kinds of people, and you are used to seeing people who are admired by others and underestimated by others, especially those who take advantage of you when you are still weak and weak.

A student who graduated from the 2015 class often gave me feedback: Even though I do something very hard and put in 120% of my efforts, I just don’t get recognition from my leaders. There are also some bad people who add insult to injury behind the scenes, and are obstructed and framed, reprimanded, and criticized. This is very sad and sad.

He said that when you first entered the new department, you were not allowed to leave too early when you were working overtime. When you had nothing to do, they would find a lot of things for you. Even though you were trying to help, your attitude was very bad and you couldn't do things quickly. If you don't do well, you will be scolded, and things that are obviously not his fault will always be blamed on him. It will always be him who is the most angry in the boss's office.

The thing that saddens him the most is that in order to ask a senior for advice in private, he has to spend money to treat guests to dinner, sit on a stool and serve him like an uncle, and even ignore him. of.

For example, if they achieve small results on a project, colleagues will clamor for a treat, and after they achieve results, small-scale, small-scale private messages will gather.

Another time, the company went on a trip at public expense, and in order to save money, the company arranged for two employees to live in a house. Another colleague disliked him, so he negotiated with the human resources department to secretly replace the list. After he learned the gossip, he remained silent, smoking a cigarette alone in the bathroom and repeatedly turning the faucet.

He has become sensitive and fearful. He wants to express himself but is often rejected; he is enthusiastic and active and sometimes cautious.

He sent me a message and said that he also knew that his abilities were limited and that human relationships were helpless. The workplace was always full of too many probabilities and too many collisions, and even human relationships were helpless. The smoke of pondering, seriousness and tolerance are the only best things he can do.

Weak people can only accept compromise, tolerance and cruelty. If you are really easy to bully, you will be bullied constantly, and there will be no danger in bullying you.

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Dui was the first musician I made friends with after working. In 2015, our group organized a large-scale end-of-year chorus and invited a tutor from the Shanghai Conservatory of Music. The tutor’s assistant was named Dumb.

Dui has been making music since graduation, and he is still a newcomer. When I first joined, I felt that everyone in the circle was very friendly and everyone could chat with me. I thought that I was very capable because I could talk, but I didn't know that those people behind the scenes only regarded him as an onion.

Dumb's biggest wish is to release his own record. Without money to pave the way, no resources to rely on, and he doesn't want to recognize his godfather or godmother, no one is willing to help him.

Because I was stubborn, I didn’t want to give up my major, so I kept working hard in the industry silently. As spring passed and autumn came, I became an uncle, relying on the meager favors from running errands, and begging for help with a shy face. Released his first album.

People are like this. After achieving something small, they can’t hold back the joy of sharing.

Dumb bought nearly a hundred records at his own expense and gave up half a year's salary. His face was filled with joy. He even signed the records and ran errands to deliver them to all his friends. On the one hand, I am asking for advice, and on the other hand, I am asking for praise.

In fact, everyone is so busy that they never have time to listen to music. They greet the record with a smile and throw it away expressionlessly after receiving it.

After a few more years, juniors were squeezed into the circle, and the former newcomers became seniors.

The past few years have not been easy. I have been a debugger and proofreader for a long time. I have also worked as a musician, recording engineer, and mixer. I have gradually come into contact with arrangers and producers. , and it took a long time before he became the assistant music director.

Those who had been alienated and ignored him slowly began to pay attention to him. His unremitting efforts made those people become more and more friendly, and they were willing to take the initiative to come and talk to him. Business cards were shared, text messages and mailboxes were filled with their care and greetings.

This may be the standard of biological evolution. Only those who are powerful have the right to make active choices and are qualified to be respected.

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I think everyone has days of fear, panic, helplessness, despair, and awakening, but some people just can’t protect themselves and try to bully others. , unable to quit and still addicted.

A few years ago, there was a period of time when I was unemployed and couldn't find a job. I shuttled through the job recruitment market every day. The mood I wanted to work was like selling minced meat at low prices.

If I had no money, I would work in a restaurant and get lunch. Sometimes I would meet my former colleagues and serve them. Their faces were full of disgust and tuts, and I could only hear: "No money. It’s embarrassing to come out.”

I can’t bear to eat, wear, or live. Instant noodles, rags, and cheap housing are standard features. During the most difficult time, I went to the vegetable market and bought 30 kilograms of sweet potatoes and 20 kilograms of potatoes. I cooked three of them a day, one each in the morning, lunch and evening. During this period, a friend came to see me. Seeing how messed up I was, he excused himself and left without saying anything. .

They put their arms around each other when they arrived, and held their noses when they left.

After some time, I passed the interview with a large company and found a job.

It was not smooth when I first joined. After three months of internship, I was an intern and my life was always filled with work.

One time, the supervisor came back from a business trip in Shanghai. There were only a dozen people in the department. The supervisor prepared snacks such as Chenghuang Temple pear paste candy, Shanghai Gaoqiao waffles, and Shanghai lobster slices for everyone. Everyone stood up from their workstations, I stood up too, and when it was my turn, he walked right around me.

It was direct, without any hesitation.

Everyone gathered around the supervisor, as if thanking the Lord for his kindness. They saw my embarrassment and turned a blind eye.

What I cared about at that time was not a gift, I only cared about a minimum of equal treatment, that is, personal courtesy.

I am very unbalanced. Am I weak? I have no status, no qualifications, no rank. Can I be made to look foolish and embarrassed at will?

At first, I felt very angry, thinking that people need to be friendly and face each other. After clarifying this cruel logic, I realized that my weakness would not cause any harm to him, so there was no need to worry about the embarrassment and displeasure on my face.

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People in this world are bullies who bully the weak and fear the strong. The weaker you are, the tougher the other party will be, and the more likely they are to attack you; the stronger you are, the more the other party will become a dull gourd and avoid you.

Just like after that, I worked hard, spending two-thirds of the day working, and the remaining one-third of the time either resting or sitting on the toilet thinking about plans, for a month For nearly twenty days, I stayed up late preparing materials.

Because if you pay, you will really get something.

Because you are not willing to be weak, you really become strong.

When I was able to compete with my supervisor, the balance of human relations around me was also broken by my rise. In the past, they could yell at me at any time and throw documents on my desk, but now they are all respectful.

You really have to be as low as the dust before flowers can bloom.

That graduate is now prosperous. After applying for transfer, I went to work in a remote place. The salary was not much higher, but he soon became the backbone. He jumped through two levels within a year. Once when he came back as a representative for a meeting, all his colleagues gathered around him and asked questions. Xi, as enthusiastic as an old friend.

So I understood that sentence: Be patient and do the things you are doing right now, explore your own strengths, try more possibilities, and after repeated failures and setbacks, complete your own tasks alone. A brilliant breakthrough.

The logic of hard work should be like this:

It is never comfortable without hard work. It is more comfortable when you work hard.

Try to live a dignified life, and don’t bring cowardice to any corner of the world. No matter where you are, bad people will find ways to bully and abuse you.

I fully agree with what Xiao Xiao said: Anyone who is played by this world should pretend to be cynical, be themselves, work hard, and make themselves stronger day by day.

My unique self works so hard just to have the power to say "no" one day in the face of the cruel reality.

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Article | Lei Lei

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