Both of them are too narcissistic. The reason why love can go on is to straighten out and repair the relationship constantly, which requires long-term running-in and mutual understanding. When two people are dismissive of this, every time there is a problem, the first reaction is to find fault with each other, pass the buck, feel that they are the most wronged one, and naturally feel tired. 3. Being too strict with "sense of ceremony" makes it easier to be disappointed. There are too many requirements for the sense of form in the relationship, too many rules and regulations are formulated, and then "good feelings" are secretly accumulated for each other. Once the other person makes the wrong choice, you will be disappointed. 4, too much management, that is to say, you should not participate in the scope of participation. Many girls are prone to make such mistakes, take occupying each other's private space as a matter of course, ask each other not to hide anything, stare at each other's whereabouts like a prisoner every day, and life is full of his shadow. Once you reach this level, you will feel exhausted regardless of whether the other party will resist or not. 5, the wrong way to pay too many people regard "pay" as absolutely correct, because there is too much to pay, so there is nothing wrong? This is nothing more than a way of moral kidnapping. The other party needs an apple, and you give them a car full of pears. You pay, and the other party doesn't feel it. It is equivalent to waiting for a boat at the airport. Can you not be tired? So, how to effectively reduce the fatigue in love? We can start from the following aspects: 1, enrich ourselves, find other interests besides love, and realize that love is only a part of life. 2, make yourself better, often because you are really not as good as the other party and make yourself better and feel hard. 3. Find your own self-confidence and your own advantages. Don't worry too much, don't myth each other, and realize that he is just an ordinary person with shortcomings. When you are a little confident and know how to reconcile yourself, the trivial details in your feelings become a compulsory topic. Although you may still have a headache, you have the confidence and ability to solve it. 4. Establish the concept of treating feelings correctly. No matter who you leave, the earth will still turn. Feelings should be tried and maintained with your heart, but don't be too persistent. You should know how to let go realistically and don't lose yourself in feelings. Let yourself become full and excellent, don't spend all your time on each other, and don't always think about where he is and what he is doing. 5. Expanding the circle and making more friends, often lacking friends, is also one of the reasons why you feel very hard when you encounter problems in love without support and understanding. 6. Learn to think from the other side's point of view, and avoid being too harsh on the other side and asking for trouble. 7. Remember what your goal is. Do you want to force the other person to seem to love you more? Or do you want the other person to love you sincerely? If it is the latter, you should complain less and be less emotional. 8. Learn some experiences and skills in love. This is not to let everyone learn routines, but to let everyone constantly reflect on themselves and grow. When you really understand some truth, you will look at the problems in your relationship more objectively, and your heart will be more balanced and calm. At the same time, some experiences will really help us get more happiness in intimate relationships. 9. Learn to communicate. Many times, two people feel difficult in love, that is, neither of them knows how to communicate, or there is a problem with the communication mode. For example, a person who likes to talk when encountering problems, and a person who likes to hide when encountering problems, will stimulate the contradictory handling mode of "attack-retreat". In this way, the attacker will feel that his grievances cannot be vented and become more angry, while the evasive party will feel that hiding everywhere will make the other party more evasive and form a vicious circle. How can lovers communicate without appearing to preach? 10, learn to be brave and dare to let go. Many times, we feel difficult in a relationship because the relationship has really deteriorated. At this time, your best way is to let go decisively and leave bravely. Otherwise, this relationship will only make you more painful and harder.