First, Daiyu's illness. As soon as Daiyu entered Jia's house, she began to talk about illness, and began to take medicine as soon as she could eat, which showed that she was weak and sick. In ancient big families, some fastidious people didn't like to get engaged to their children in advance for fear of accidents. This sentence is put on Daiyu because she is afraid that Daiyu will not live long. Of course, in Grandmother Jia's mind, Daiyu's health is the most important, and early marriage is not good for Daiyu's health. Of course, if it weren't for Jia Mu's special love for Daiyu and the requirement of choosing ancient parents as children, Daiyu obviously didn't meet the requirements. Because the most taboo of people at that time was that the sick body would not live long. But Jia regarded Daiyu as a continuation of her daughter's life. She won't abandon Daiyu. Even if Daiyu is ill, she will not abandon her. She is just afraid of arranging marriage for her too early, which is not conducive to her health and illness, and the other is afraid of changes. Second, Baodi is still young. In the sixty-sixth chapter of A Dream of Red Mansions, I mentioned the marriage between Daiyu and Second Sister You, and put forward two points. He said, "In terms of appearance, they are a good couple. It's just that he's already seeing someone, but he doesn't show his face The future must be decided by teacher Lin. Because teacher Lin is ill and both of them are young, we haven't done it yet. In another three or two years, the old lady will speak, and that is no longer allowed. " Grassroots employees like Xinger know that Baodai's marriage has been postponed because of their age and Daiyu's illness. Although their marriage has not yet been decided, Daiyu is already the granddaughter of the old lady. After two or three years, the old lady was all right. It can be seen that other people in the Jia family also view Baodai's marriage in this way. In fact, Jia Fu didn't arrange marriage for Daiyu earlier, not only because Xinger said they were young, but also because Jia Fu used Baoyu to refuse Zhang Daoshi's proposal of marriage, which was tantamount to refusing the marriage of Xue Family. Therefore, Grandmother Jia could not arrange marriage for Daiyu in advance, and had to wait for two or three years. They are old and Daiyu's body is almost the same. Baochai can't wait that long, and she doesn't have to offend the Xue family. This is the best of both worlds. Thirdly, the influence of Jia Zhu's early death on Baoyu's marriage. Jia Zhu was already gone at the beginning of the book, and Jia Zhu's early death was a great blow to Jia Mu and Mrs. Wang. Of course, Li Wan is the most painful. It is precisely because of this that when Jia Jia proposed in Zhang Daoshi, he said that Baoyu should not have married early, which shows that Jia Zhu's early marriage and death left a shadow in Jia Jia's heart. When Jia Yuanchun gave gifts at the Dragon Boat Festival, he gave Baoyu and Baochai the same gifts. A smart person like Jia must know that this is a wedding gift. So after the Dragon Boat Festival, at the time of Qing Xu Guan, because Baoyu told her not to marry early, she refused Zhang Daoshi's proposal, which was tantamount to reminding her granddaughter and daughter-in-law Mrs. Wang that Jia Zhu married early and died young. Do they still want Baoyu to follow in Jia Zhu's footsteps? Obviously, Jia this recruit is particularly useful, not only declined the Xue family's marriage, but also let.