In the book, Jiang Yang mentioned that Qian Zhongshu's relatives expected him to be the British provost in Lantian, and he could also serve his father. At that time, Qian Zhongshu was already working in Tsinghua. Of course he doesn't want to work in Lantian, but he thinks he should. Jiang Yang didn't expect him to go, and felt that he should tell his relatives the truth that things were not going well.
Jiang Yang told his father about it, hoping he could say something, but he didn't say a word. Dad's silence inspired Jiang Yang's thinking. "Going out alone is a lifelong event. When I choose by myself, I should be resourceful and judge my truth, and I should not interfere; Especially when he should not be forced to rebel against his parents. " After figuring this out, Jiang Yang said nothing, and Qian Zhongshu, who was already troubled, put forward his own troubles. In the past, you had to argue about the pronunciation of a French phonetic symbol, but now you can tolerate such important things as regional changes at work. This is the whole process of the running-in period of Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu's marriage life, so they finally had a happy marriage life of 63 years.
Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu, gifted scholars and beautiful women, still have to meet each other in their married life, not to mention the married life of idle people. Literati Lin Yutang once said: "To put it bluntly, a happy marriage is just the result of mutual habituation and habituation between husband and wife. Emotional signatures are like a pair of old shoes, which will become more and more suitable after being worn for a long time. " Mutual habits and habits are the running-in period. It is not the distant mountains that make people feel tired in marriage, but usually the irrelevance of daily life. A happy marriage that depends on each other is not only brilliant and sweet, but also has nothing to do with the running-in period.
The married life of Yang Lan and Wu Zhi, a well-known host, for more than 20 years is also enviable and fascinating. Yang Lan wrote in the book "The world is really big, thanks to you" that two people have no scruples in running all the way. Wu Zhi took out a diamond ring in a taxi and proposed to her romantically. Within a year, they entered the marriage hall.
Later, I also found that they had a good time together. Love the same books, like the same ingredients, two of a kind, feel that two people are destined. Even in such a romantic and cooperative relationship, Yang Lan found that it is easy to fall in love, but it is not easy to communicate. "When the enthusiasm for the production and manufacture of androgens gradually fades, the dribs and drabs of rice, oil and salt tea gradually erode, and taking care of the children's diet and daily life makes you have a bad rest, as well as the pressure at work and the separation in tourism; If you want the other person to know you, you will unconsciously raise your voice, and you will blush for a better and different suggestion. " Describe your married life as in the book. It can be seen that two people have also experienced chills and disputes in their marriage life. But relying on each other's gradual running-in period, they have a valuable heart and understanding, a deeper understanding and tolerance for each other, and a lot of loyalty and upbringing.
As foreign writer Kyle Twain often said, feelings can fly very fast, but marriage can only grow and develop gradually. It is good to have happiness and happiness in feelings, but marriage life can only be combined slowly in a dull and complicated time, just like two pieces of gravel in a river, which become smoother and smoother when they collide with each other, and finally, the communication will be stable. Everyone's marriage life will eventually fall into broken fireworks and the irrelevance of daily life. What really promotes the lasting happiness of married life is not passionate love, but the broken fireworks are irrelevant to the usual. Therefore, the coexistence of tenderness and irrelevance is the normalization of daily life. A happy married life needs both tenderness and irrelevance on the emotional line.