More than a week ago, one of my childhood friends lost her close relative, and only four months ago, she gave away her grandmother. There is no such thing as empathy in the world, but I can really feel the pain. At noon when I saw her post on WeChat Moments, I couldn't calm down for a long time. I really wanted to say all the comforting words to her. Looking at her WeChat signature again, it is clear that she only wishes for peace and success and nothing else.
I just wish you peace and success.
She and I have been neighbors and classmates in elementary school since we were young. She has always been what her parents call someone else's child. She is always in the best class in the best school and has no contact since high school. I always feel in my heart that such a great theological and domineering figure is beyond my reach, let alone in the same time and space as me. She is destined to live a higher level life. We didn’t get back in touch until last year’s elementary school class reunion. At that time, we also found out that she had been recommended to study at Peking University for a master’s degree and a Ph.D. I added the master's WeChat account with some trepidation, and looking at her high-level experiences in her circle of friends, such as volunteering for TEDX speeches, I thought she was probably an aloof academic who was awesome and coaxed. Unexpectedly, after chatting several times, I felt that this was a really cute little girl. She liked to use 233333, QAQ, and would also send a series of hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. It was very different from what I imagined. He loves to laugh and is low-key, and there is no pressure when chatting. When I talked about my admiration for her, she also very sincerely expressed that studying at such a high level school was actually very stressful, and she even jokingly said that she might not be able to graduate. This also made me like her more and more, and I felt that the so-called great gods are actually just ordinary people who work harder and bear more pressure than you and me.
Looking at her staying up late to prepare for the exam, preparing various proposals, presentations, and summaries in her circle of friends, I just feel that it is not easy to be a top student, and someone like me eats and sleeps every day, and does not read or read. Show how corrupt ordinary people are.
In February, one day at noon, I saw her post in the early morning. She said that she was most afraid of going to the hospital and the ICU of the hospital. Four months ago, her grandmother was lying there. Then there was her father, who was the same man with beards and tails the day before, but he would not talk to her for 24 hours, argue with her, cook for her, watch her grow up, and could not wait until she graduated. Can't wait until she gets married... How fast can you lose someone?
Looking at these words, my heart was full of distress. At that noon, I wanted to say all the words that could comfort her to her, but it seemed that everything I said was pale and feeble. I told her that the reason why I felt unhappy was that I always felt that I was so stupid and ordinary, that I couldn't do well in exams and that my work ability was not good, and why my parents didn't have more money to provide me with a better life. She only told me that her family was in good health and that it was enough to be with her family. There were no people left, and no matter how much money she had, she could not talk about enjoyment.
She said, stop thinking about what you want to do and what your parents want, be filial to them and cherish the present. It is best for the family to be together.
It seems that I have been going to school and working normally since childhood, my family is safe and healthy, and my life is just fine.
I have always known that I am a person who is afraid of changes and finds it difficult to accept them. I have also been unfoundedly worried about what would happen if I encounter this situation. It seems that I can't do anything else except cry. There was nothing I could do, I would break down, and I would worry about what the rest of my life was going to be like. Our life has just begun. We will find a good job, earn a lot of money, find a very good person to fall in love with and get married, and have a very cute and cute baby. But if our parents cannot see these in their lifetime, , not only the parents’ regret, but also our regret.
There is a phrase that I always remember when I was learning English in high school. It is take sth for granted, which means taking something for granted. I made many sentences at that time. After all, there are too many things in this world that we take for granted. We take it for granted that our parents have done everything for us, we take it for granted that teachers give us less homework, we take it for granted that we have weekend breaks, we take it for granted that we receive year-end bonuses... But many of the things we take for granted are things that many people have never enjoyed. I remember taking a taxi home with my colleagues after the company’s annual meeting and discussing New Year’s goods and year-end bonuses in the car. The uncle driver was very envious and said that your company is really good and you also give out New Year’s goods and year-end bonuses. I snorted through my nostrils and said, "Who the hell would do a job that doesn't give out New Year's goods and year-end bonuses?" Then the driver uncle said very lonely, I have never received new year goods or year-end bonus. The atmosphere was a little awkward for a while, and we didn’t know how to answer the conversation. It turns out that there are many people who work hard in all walks of life in this society and do not have the opportunity to enjoy what most people take for granted.
Just like we think that our parents can wait until we work, get married and have children, this is obviously a matter of course, but for many people, it is a luxury wish that can never be realized.
It was only after noon that day that I began to understand the saying that "a child wants to be raised but cannot be cared for", and I began to understand the endless warnings that no matter how busy you are at work, you must make a phone call to your parents every day. Understand that the most luxurious words in the world are not prosperity and wealth, but health and peace.
Just like I once saw a sentence in a chicken soup article, it said that no matter how difficult or setback you encounter, when you are about to lose it and say to yourself, "Thank God, I am still alive." "You can instantly resurrect with full blood. It seems to be true. After all, nothing is more important and more luxurious than living a good life.
I just wish everyone is safe and well.