Communicating with me is the beginning of life’s journey of exploration.

Seniors once told us this group of interns that 80% of finance is sales, and the essence of sales is human nature. Of course I want to verify and experience it, and first find a sales internship in the financial industry. Just from my observation, the external skill of sales is communication. In order to practice communication, I signed up for Dad’s communication training camp.

Of course, it’s not just for sales. The most important thing is that I “can’t catch up with my brain”, “can’t express my feelings”, and have “social fear”, and I want to make good friends. As for 80% of success comes from social interaction, when you first enter the society, you must socialize consciously.

When I participated in the treasure course this time, I looked forward to the opening of the camp just as I looked forward to the opening of the treasure.

1. Exercise brings new vitality

1. The road to awakening

In the first two years of resisting depression, I always had different ideas when asked by others what I was doing before. As a prevarication, I said to my friends at a party a few days ago, "I have been fighting depression for the past two years, and now I am good at handling emotions. If you are unhappy, come to me and I will help you relieve your emotions. Here During this period, I have been working out, and now I can help you practice. Haven’t you always praised me for how good my skin is? Oiliness and lack of water in the skin are caused by an imbalance of water and oil. Exercise can make the water and oil come out together."

I started exercising a year ago after hearing that exercise was helpful for depression. Although when my emotions are in extreme situations, I don’t want to do anything, but most of the time when I get up early to exercise and persevere, I seem to have more confidence throughout the day.

Slowly my energy came up, and I began to think carefully about my own problems. I set myself the principles of "starting and ending" and "paying more attention to what I can solve now", and I also started to do internships. And I have gained a lot from adhering to these principles.

2. Be calm first

Confidence comes from ability and means, but also from the ability to take responsibility. The initial internship required me to read a lot of English materials and output reports every week. I took the initiative to serve as the leader of the group despite hesitation. I solved difficulties bit by bit during the internship, learned to take responsibility, and my confidence slowly grew. I feel really happy when I am praised by the manager. I'm happy that I didn't give up, I'm happy that I was praised, and I'm even happier that I kept my promise to myself "from beginning to end." When you return home, you no longer rely on your parents for everything. You have to figure out your own solutions for big and small things. You find that when you are responsible, the comments around you are "change it if you have it, and encourage you if you don't", and your parents are very supportive of you. Attitudes will also change. At the same time, the haha ??journey began.

I found that my energy gradually improved during exercise, so I signed up for another one-year investment course. This time my persistence led to a conversation that made me change my mind. Transition. After checking in for more than a year, out of the 100 people who signed up, the teacher and I were the only ones left who insisted on punching in and outputting. Although I didn’t learn much about investing in the end, the teacher became my noble person and my leader in the second round of internship. He slowly started chatting with me and taught me that "the world is made up of other people", "everything I said is wrong", etc. I also started to "reflect-practice-review" once a month.

Leaders are also human beings. How do you know that the other person will not help you if you don’t ask? How do you know that you need help if you don’t tell the other person? One sentence from the study group homework assignment also struck a chord with me: "Leaders are colleagues first, then leaders."

At the same time, realize that when chatting with others, if the other party ridicules or speaks inappropriately, then don’t chat with the other party, and chat with someone else instead of slowly becoming socially fearful.

I cannot do without the help of many people along the way. Now I like to help others. The signatures on WeChat and email are "May you be happy, glowing and shining".

3. Time that definitely belongs to me

I also started to like aggressive sports. I took boxing classes after fitness training. After my dad finished talking about anti-stress training, he thought about next year. Sign up specifically for boxing classes.

I cannot do without exercise, because under the high pressure of internship and classroom, there is absolutely no reason why exercise time should not belong to me.

2. "Wonder Woman + Deep Breathing" every 30 minutes

I am much more confident than before. I am still timid in this sales internship. Fortunately, my thinking has also changed from "thinking" Give up” became “How am I going to solve this?”

This internship was nicknamed by us privately as "persuading the other party to generate energy for love." Not everyone needs internship benefits, and not everyone agrees with "altruism," not to mention that I'm really not used to making phone calls.

Thanks to "Wonder Woman + Deep Breath"! In the beginning, I had to do it to ease my mood every time I called. After 3 weeks, do it every 30 minutes to relax your body. I bought a countdown alarm clock to remind myself.

During the phone call, consciously use numbers to introduce yourself: "I am a volunteer, there is a community of 100 people." The other party will mistakenly think that the volunteer is making calls. Later, I discovered that the main body of the introduction was the platform, and changed it to "NWL is a business charity community with more than 10,000 volunteers."

If you find that the other party may be working based on the information, you must add "Is it convenient now" as the dad said. The other party will feel respected and can ask the other party the reason when they are rejected.

I have been politely rejected, and I have also been scolded. Perceiving a group through the phone, academic qualifications, surveys, etc. are only one side, and inferring the other party will only blind oneself with prejudice.

3. Perceiving the purpose is to have "I" in the heart

"Treat the other person first how you want the other person to treat you." This has always been the standard for treating others, but there is less positive feedback. It aroused self-doubt. After taking the nanny class, I discovered that there was something wrong with my method.

A very important link is missing: awareness of the other party’s purpose.

I made the mistake I thought I was doing: I thought this was right and wanted others to do this to me, so I treated the other person this way.

1. Discuss the matter as it is, not the person

The deviation in consciousness and behavior caused me to demand this from others, but I did not strictly demand myself. When I get along with my friends and family, I get quarreled and criticized.

I resent my parents and friends talking about it. Until the last time we had a quarrel, I would deliberately make them angry, forming a vicious cycle.

When I had a recent quarrel, I analyzed the facts and emotions of the quarrel with my parents, and made a three-chapter agreement not to mention the previous events. I will definitely do it again, but I will only go home for a few days.

The most important thing is to ask yourself to "discuss the matter as it is", and then when you go to work, you can also judge whether the boss is a good boss.

Because Zhuli did not inform the boss in time, I was on the train during the newly changed meeting time. During the conference call, I was scolded for being too noisy. Next time, I can say to the other party, "Under the leadership of your serious eyes, we They are very serious and don’t dare to be sloppy or have a bad attitude. This time you agreed on a new time, and I told the assistant in advance that I would make the train during this time, but maybe because I had to take care of most people’s meeting time, I finally chose this day.”

2. Ears are meant to listen

We all want to be listened to, but we forget to listen first.

Graduation dinners with "partners" are just talking to oneself. The other person: "I don't like XXX, she likes to bully others", I: "I don't like XXX girls, they have too many things to do". . . The same goes for the conversation afterwards.

? When you use AQ and TQ to chat on WeChat, the other party not only answers "Yeah" or "That's true", but the conversation can also continue

? In the past, I tended to take the other party's words seriously. He followed his promise in everything, and was said to be "real" in the end. After taking my dad’s class, I realized that people do it just to brag and relax. At a recent dinner party, when I asked a general question, the other person was happy and I got to know the other person easily. Before I left, I was complimented that "chatting with you is much easier than before."

3. Happiness is the most important thing here

When fighting depression, a friend was in a worse condition than me. At the beginning, I actively suggested methods to the other party. When it’s the other person’s turn to comfort us, we need to reflect on ourselves. Do we really not know what to do? No, actually I just want to vent my emotions.

I also had a quarrel with my parents over how to cook hairtail. Then I thought, wouldn’t it make them happy in the future if I took the initiative to cook? Then happiness is the ultimate goal. I think how to cook it is not important at this time. When you are alone, just follow your own ideas.

4. Viewpoints first

The leader of my first internship was very willing to teach me. In order to learn more, I sent the entire report to my boss and asked him to help me read it. I always knew that my weak link was “Business Analysis”, but there was no significant improvement until the end of the internship. After listening to Dad’s class, when asking the leader for advice on WeChat, he will also ask targeted questions, "question + point-by-point discussion and your own thinking process."

4. Talk about feelings without harming the interests of the other person

I have always believed that money and feelings are the most troublesome things if not handled well. The two together are infinitely powerful.

It will definitely be tiring for one person to carry another person, and it will definitely be even more tiring to be entrusted with everything by one person. I firmly believe that "freedom and independence can break free from the snares of the world." As far as families are concerned, each other is like a tree in the forest, each growing vigorously and protecting each other from wind and rain.

When it comes to borrowing money, I will tell the other party how long I will pay it back and how many times I will pay it back. If the amount is large, I will take the initiative to write an IOU. I will also take the initiative to ask for the same when borrowing from others, agree on things in advance, and actively manage the other party's expectations and behaviors, so that there will be less friction afterwards.

The 21st day is from the art to the Tao, which is the beginning. There is a road where a group of people walk together, walk it and cherish it.

May you be happy, cheerful and shining. Shine brightly on their respective stages.