People’s best hope for marriage is nothing more than “holding hands and growing old together”, supporting each other, and going from black hair to white hair together. However, at the end of 2018, a 68-year-old man who lives in Hunan The old man Wu Yufen is determined to divorce her husband Zhang Yuanguo.

The couple were nearly seventy years old at the time. They had gone through ups and downs together for 49 years, and both had experienced the death of their children. Under the temper of the years, the two old men had lost their hair. They have become sparse and gray, but they got divorced when they needed to depend on each other. Why did they get to this point? What's the secret behind it? The golden couple is getting divorced

In August 2019, after receiving a call from Wu Yufen, the program team of "Looking for Love" quickly dispatched staff to the scene for help. At that time, the sun was scorching and the sun was burning, and the old man was sweating profusely. He stood under the tree anxiously looking forward to the arrival of the mediator.

It is understood that Wu Yufen is a retired worker from a local paper factory and is already 69 years old. The reason why she asked the program team for help was because her ex-husband Zhang Yuanguo removed her from the couple's marriage. * was kicked out of all the houses, leaving her with nowhere to live in her later years.

So why was her ex-husband so ruthless?

In order to understand the truth of the matter, the mediator and Wu Yufen came to the house where she had lived for more than 20 years. As soon as they walked to the door, they saw that the door was covered with A4 paper, which was densely packed with Zhang Yuanguo opened the door and saw Wu Yufen, and he closed the door tightly angrily.

After some communication, Zhang Yuanguo finally decided to accept mediation. A group of people also walked into the house. The walls on all four sides of the house were broken and dusty, and the furniture in the house was also very old. Among them, A thick pile of cardboard boxes were thrown into a room, which showed that Zhang Yuanguo was an extremely frugal old man.

Zhang Yuanguo himself is very thin, with white beard and hair. He looks very old, but he becomes a little aggressive when he sees his ex-wife.

According to him, it was his wife's fault that the two of them reached this point. It was his wife who stole his real estate certificate and money first, so he was merciless.

What is going on?

After many layers of communication between the program team, the whole story of their divorce finally came to light.

It turns out that the 49-year marriage of the two elderly people was full of ups and downs. The eldest daughter was diagnosed with congenital epilepsy when she was born. In 1996, the daughter suddenly fell ill on the road and unfortunately encountered a car accident. , due to failure to rescue in time, eventually passed away.

They also have a young son who has suffered from cerebral palsy since childhood and cannot take care of himself. Although the couple tried their best to seek medical treatment, they still could not save their son's life. In 2010, they once again Experienced the pain of losing a child.

After that, Wu Yufen cried in front of the photos of her children all day long, and her mood became more and more depressed. In order to get her out of the shadows, her friends asked her to go out to play from time to time, but all this failed. This caused her husband's dissatisfaction.

After his children passed away one after another, although Zhang Yuanguo was equally sad, he believed that his children all had physical problems, living in the world was suffering, and death might be a relief, so he quickly returned to normal and had not yet retired. He is still busy working outside.

At the same time, Zhang Yuanguo felt a sense of injustice when he saw that he was working so hard while his wife was squandering the family's money. Wu Yufen felt unhappy when she saw her husband's indifference to the death of their children. Very angry, the two had grievances against each other, and the quarrel became the main theme of the family.

The financial power of the Zhang family was in the hands of Zhang Yuanguo. Wu Yufen had to ask her husband for her salary card if she wanted to spend money. Zhang Yuanguo was unwilling to give it, so Wu Yufen took away the money from the family in anger. Real estate certificate and pension, Zhang Yuanguo's medical insurance was also stopped.

Zhang Yuanguo was even more angry when he found out. In order to retaliate against his wife, he took out a separation agreement and drove his wife to live in the utility room downstairs.

The utility room was small and had no windows. To ventilate, the door could only be left wide open. Moreover, there was no water, electricity or toilet. Wu Yufen lived a very miserable life.

Four months later, in November 2018, the winter night was bone-chillingly cold. In order to keep warm, Wu Yufen could only add quilts layer by layer, and there was something wrong with the door of the utility room. , There was no way to close it tightly, and the strong wind made her unbearable.

Wu Yufen made the decision to divorce out of disappointment and grievance. She filed a complaint with her husband in court. Zhang Yuanguo was shocked when he received the summons. He did not expect that his wife would be so heartless.

After the court ruling, the two finally went through the divorce procedures. At the same time, Zhang Yuanguo wanted to transfer the utility room to his wife and pay 200,000 yuan in property division.

Zhang Yuanguo was unwilling to accept the verdict. In his opinion, the house was bought with his own layoff wages and was his personal property.

So he kicked his wife out of the grocery store, and Wu Yufen had no place to live and could only rent a nearby cabin with the help of friends.

However, the monthly rent for a rental house was 1,000 yuan. Wu Yufen was unable to afford her rent and living expenses. She came to her ex-husband many times to ask for partition money and a utility room, but she was beaten and scolded every time. In desperation, she She had no choice but to ask the program team for help.

After figuring out the whole story, the mediators present were all sighing. At the same time, everyone also had a question, did the two get divorced just because the wife wanted money? Why did the 49-year relationship between husband and wife become so sentimental?

Regarding this issue, Zhang Yuanguo said bluntly: "We are in an arranged marriage, without feelings!" A make-shift marriage

As the saying goes, "Strong melons are not sweet." Wu Yufen and Zhang Yuanguo's couple This is generally the case for couples. In the late 1950s, young people's marriages were mostly based on "the orders of their parents and the words of the matchmaker." At that time, Zhang Yuanguo went on a blind date with Wu Yufen because he couldn't stand his mother's nagging.

When they first met, the two only exchanged a few words in a hurry and didn't know much about each other. Later, when the two began to prepare for their marriage, they met again, and that was It was at Zhang Yuanguo's home.

Wu Yufen was used to being carefree, but she was not polite when she arrived at her future husband's house. She looked around and even opened a sealed box.

Zhang Yuanguo was filled with disdain when he saw his fiancée behaving like this. What he wanted was a gentle, generous and steady wife, but Wu Yufen was obviously not suitable at all.

Zhang Yuanguo proposed to break off the engagement, but his mother refused to agree, so the two loveless people had to make do with the same marriage. Over the next 40 years, the differences in personality and values ????played a role in their relationship. There are hidden dangers buried in the marriage.

Zhang Yuanguo’s family conditions are not very good. He is used to living a hard life and attaches great importance to money. After getting married, he is unwilling to hand over financial power to his informal wife. Instead, he takes control of it himself. This made Wu Yufen feel very humiliated, and the two often quarreled over money.

Moreover, Zhang Yuanguo does not like Wu Yufen at all. His only requirement for his wife is to honor her parents-in-law. However, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot be solved by "filial piety". Living under the same roof, their living habits are completely different. The two people will inevitably stumble.

As time passed, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law continued to deteriorate, making Zhang Yuanguo increasingly dissatisfied with his wife.

Fortunately, it didn’t take long for Wu Yufen to become pregnant. The birth of a new life shifted some of the conflicts, and the war in the family was temporarily extinguished. In 1970, Wu Yufen’s eldest daughter was born, and her cute appearance melted the whole family. human heart.

However, before they could be happy, they found that the child would suddenly convulse and contract all over the body, nodding constantly. After diagnosis, the doctor told them that the child suffered from congenital epilepsy, muscle twitching, confusion, etc. Maybe it will stay with her for the rest of her life.

This news made Wu Yufen and his wife very worried. For the sake of their children, they no longer struggled with the trivial matters in life, and devoted themselves to seeking medical advice and taking care of their daughter. The conflicts between husband and wife, and conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were put on hold because of the child. Family relations have eased a lot.

A few years later, Wu Yufen became pregnant again. At this time, her husband was busy working to make money and did not have much energy to take care of the family. Her eldest daughter needed the care of her parents-in-law. In order to wait for the childbirth with peace of mind, Wu Yufen decided to temporarily return to her parents' home to live. However, her parents' home is far away and requires a boat ride to get there.

Before leaving, Zhang Yuanguo asked her to pay attention to the due date and go home early, but Wu Yufen didn't care. It was this oversight that caused the relationship between the two to fall into freezing point again.

Wu Yunfen was coming back from her parents’ home by boat with a big belly. She thought nothing would happen, but it happened that halfway through the trip, Wu Yunfen suddenly started the boat and everyone on the boat panicked. Unable to stop, with no way to go to a village, no store, and no way to get to the hospital, she had no choice but to give birth on the boat.

With the help of kind-hearted people, Wu Yufen gave birth to a boy safely. However, the boat was ventilated and the water was very moist. Both mother and son suffered a lot. The adult suffered from the root cause of the disease, and the baby My son's body was cold when he was born, and it took him a long time to recover after being sent to the hospital.

Afterwards, Zhang Yuanguo was very angry about his wife giving birth on the ship. In his opinion, his wife was not careful enough and did not come back early, so she made such a fool of herself.

Wu Yufen also felt sad that her husband did not go to her natal home to pick her up. The two of them lived awkwardly, holding back their anger, until bad news befell the Zhang family again. Unfortunate fate

The growth of babies is always the same day by day, but Wu Yufen's youngest son only grew in body, but could not learn to roll over or crawl, and his eyes always looked dull. The family was worried, so they took him She took her child to the hospital for a check-up, but the result plunged the whole family into despair.

They were told that the child was likely to have cerebral palsy, and in layman's terms, this disease meant that he would be stupid for the rest of his life.

After hearing the news, the couple had a fierce quarrel in the hospital. Zhang Yuanguo angrily accused his wife of not listening to him and not going home early to the hospital to wait for delivery. It was because of the poor environment on the ship that the child became In this way, Wu Yunfen cried and cursed, accusing her husband of only focusing on work and not taking care of her.

Their daughter has epilepsy and their son has cerebral palsy. The couple had huge conflicts over their children, but their responsibilities as parents forced them to continue to live together.

Later, Wu Yufen transferred to the logistics department to free up more time to take care of her children, while Zhang Yuanguo shouldered the burden of supporting the family and worked hard.

In the following ten years, the two became less like a couple and more like comrades who disliked each other. While they were noisy and fighting, they helped each other and raised a pair of children together. In my heart, the two may have no feelings for a long time.

As for the 1990s, disasters followed one after another, pushing the family to the brink of collapse once again, and the marital crisis broke out again.

Initially, the country introduced a layoff policy. A large number of employees of state-owned enterprises were bought out of their seniority and had to find jobs on their own. Zhang Yuanguo was one of them. The new job he found was far away from home, so he could only work long-term. Living outside, she could only go home occasionally, so almost all the responsibility for the two children fell on Wu Yufen.

One day in 1996, Wu Yufen’s daughter went out to look for her mother. On the busy road, she suddenly suffered an epileptic seizure, convulsed her whole body, and fell to the ground. Some vehicles failed to dodge in time, and she fell to the ground. She was hit and by the time she was sent to the hospital, she had lost her vital signs.

The news of their daughter’s sudden death in a car accident caught the couple off guard. Wu Yufen watched her daughter’s body collapse and cried, while Zhang Yuanguo was at work when he received the news. He rushed to the hospital full of pain and anger. , the couple had a big fight in excitement.

Zhang Yuanguo resented his wife for not taking good care of her daughter. She put all the responsibility for the child's death on Wu Yufen, and even committed domestic violence in front of everyone.

Wu Yufen was not to be outdone. She hated her husband for not caring about the family, so she stretched out her hand and tore her husband apart.

The marriage between the two was already riddled with holes, but in that era, divorce was not an easy matter, and they also had a son with cerebral palsy who needed care. It would be impossible to lose either of them. As a result, the two could only maintain their fragile family in a superficial way.

However, fate was obviously not optimistic about this family. In 2010, the life of Wu Yufen's youngest son came to an end. He may have lived in chaos from birth to death, but his death became a pressing issue. The last straw that broke this family.

After their son’s funeral, the couple became a pair of resentful couples. The disappointment and anger they had accumulated for 40 years all exploded. The smallest thing could cause them to quarrel and even commit domestic violence against each other. And Wu Yufen Asking for salary cards is the fuse that ignites all conflicts.

This couple's 49-year marriage may have been a little bit of happiness, but it was more of a torture. Two people with completely different personalities and values ????continue to tolerate each other driven by responsibility. This is obviously If it is not a healthy marriage, divorce may be a relief.

But how should the two elderly people live in the future?

After the mediator’s dedicated communication and persuasion, the couple finally reached an agreement peacefully. Elder Zhang Yuanguo agreed to re-divide the property and give the utility room to his ex-wife. He only had one request, and that was From now on, the two of them broke up with each other and had nothing to do with each other.

During the move, the two of them stood expressionlessly in their respective positions like strangers, watching the workers transporting the furniture one by one. At the end of the shot, we only saw Wu Yunfen. The door was closed without nostalgia, leaving Zhang Yuanguo alone in the house full of memories.