in the final analysis, dealing with people is a word-degree, which represents the attitude of doing things and the pattern of being a man.
To be a man, there are three dimensions: temperature, tolerance and grace.
I have temperature in my heart, optimistic and pure, and my heart is soft;
I have tolerance in my chest, and I am generous.
behave gracefully, courteously and calmly.
1.? If you have a temperature in your heart, you will be treated tenderly by others.
In the movie "Super Grandma in Saga", Zhao Guang's father died young. He was far away from his mother and brother and lived alone with his grandmother.
Grandma's optimism and the kindness of others make the miserable days rich and interesting.
Zhao Guang's eye was injured. The doctor not only confiscated the medical expenses, but also gave him money for taking the bus, while grandma insisted on paying back the money.
In order to make Zhao Guang eat better, the teachers pretended to be upset and exchanged lunches with him.
The uncle who sells tofu intentionally crushes the tofu in order not to disappoint Zhao Guang, who bought half-price tofu.
As grandma said, "True consideration is not embarrassing."
In the warm atmosphere, Zhao Guang has gradually become a meticulous person.
I have read the sentence: "In this world, people who have a temperature in their hearts live the most beautifully. She will exude a warm and compassionate power, and that softness will make life full of sunshine. "
a smile is free, but it is more precious than anything else.
When a person's heart is hot, he has the ability to perceive happiness and manage happiness. It is not easy to understand life, but he still loves life with a smile and transmits the temperature to the surroundings.
Think of the story of Billy, an American tramp, who was homeless and slept under the icy overpass.
when Sarah passed by, she took some change and dropped it in his small paper cup, but the valuable engagement diamond ring accidentally slipped in.
However, when Sarah passed by again a few days later, Billy recognized her at a glance and returned the diamond ring.
Sarah was overjoyed. She shared it online and started a foundation with her husband. In just three months, she received donations from all over the world of more than $19,!
From then on, Billy got a place to live, found a suitable job and lived a normal life.
Mencius said, "Those who love others will always love them; Those who respect others will always respect them. "
Life is like a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile at you.
people who have a temperature in their hearts will also be treated tenderly by others; With good intentions, there are angels on the way.
2.? There is a saying in "Caigen Tan": "Let one step in the world be high, and step backwards is the foundation of progress; It is a blessing to be tolerant of others, and it is the foundation of benefiting others and benefiting themselves. "
people with tolerance don't care about the gains and losses of a city and a pool, and they won't affect the overall situation because of temporary emotions.
There's a well-known allusion-"The words of the one who died".
One night, Chu Zhuangwang gave a banquet to reward the generals and ministers. To add to the fun, he asked Xu Ji, his favorite beauty, to propose a toast.
Suddenly, a gust of wind blew out all the candles. In the dark, someone pulled Xu Ji's clothes. In a panic, Xu Ji pulled off his hat tassel and told Chu Zhuangwang.
But Chu Zhuangwang ordered not to light candles first, so that everyone could take off their hats and enjoy drinking, thus avoiding a tense punishment.
Later, when the State of Wu attacked the State of Chu, a general charged and repelled the enemy five times in the battle, which turned the Chu army from defeat to victory.
Chu Zhuangwang is very surprised. He is not very kind to this person at ordinary times.
The general knelt down and said: At the banquet that year, he accidentally pulled Xu Ji's clothes. If your majesty didn't kill you, he should pay with death.
It can be seen that a person's tolerance is always better than height. It is Chu Zhuangwang's tolerance that unites people's hearts.
bearing determines the pattern, and the pattern determines the outcome. How big a person's bearing is, how deep the blessing is.
Just like President Lincoln, he was tolerant to others, even to his competitors, which caused strong dissatisfaction among members.
Lincoln laughed: "If they become my friends, aren't they destroying my enemies?"
Maybe the opponent is a potential friend. There is a bottom line in doing things. Be a man, leave a card, go through a narrow road, leave a step with people, have a road with others, and retreat from yourself.
Wang Guozhen said: "With a broad mind, a person has more understanding, tolerance, gentleness and tolerance in life."
In fact, the tolerance for treating others is in everyone's heart. If you take a long-term view, you won't be stuck in anything.
Less criticism, more understanding, hills and valleys in your heart, mountains and rivers in your brow, elegant cultivation in your chest, and a smooth life.
3.? Behave gracefully, which is the most elegant gesture.
When the train pulled into the station, a fat lady walked at the back of the crowd with a big box in her hands.
She shouted at the old man beside her, asking him for help, and said that she would give a tip. The old man lifted the box without saying anything.
no sooner had I got on the bus than the train started.
The fat lady took out a dollar tip and the old man took it with a smile.
At this moment, the conductor came up to the old man and said, "Mr. Rockefeller, what can I do for you?"
The fat lady exclaimed that she had ordered the famous oil king to carry the box! I even gave him a dollar tip!
she quickly apologized.
Rockefeller smiled and said, "You didn't do anything wrong at all. I earned this dollar and I took it."
a modest and calm attitude makes people feel like a spring breeze.
Master Xing Yun said, "If a person wants to be respected by others, manners are the most important besides moral knowledge."
Manner is the cultivation that goes deep into the bones, and it is the external proper limit and internal restraint.
a graceful person, magnanimous and generous, courteous and courteous, treats people neither supercilious nor supercilious.
Even if it is unpretentious, it can't hide the comfortable noble temperament that life shows.
I once saw a question on Zhihu: "What best reflects a person's charm?"
There is an answer that goes deep into my heart: "Look at a person's demeanor when something happens."
once, Li yanhong, chairman of Baidu, gave a speech at the developer conference, when a strange man suddenly poured a bottle of water on his head.
the atmosphere at the meeting was instantly solidified.
However, this accident didn't make Li Yanhong angry. He brushed his hair quickly and went on calmly, which won numerous praises.
a graceful person is always elegant and decent in times of crisis, just like a winner.
There is a good saying: "Beauty is a bright flower, and grace is an evergreen tree; Time is the enemy of beauty, but it is the friend of grace. "
demeanor is a kind of persistence in character, a kind of positive energy, which can stand the consideration of time and is trustworthy and entrusted.
4.? To be a man, you have to have three degrees < P > to read such a sentence: "If you are warm, all flowers bloom;" If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come. "
having temperature in your heart invisibly raises the height of your soul, being kind to others and convenient for yourself, and making your life warm and meaningful.
Being tolerant, knowing how to be patient and tolerant, broadening one's horizons and making progress by retreating are rational and open-minded in dealing with people.
Do things with grace, be determined to be free and easy, show the elegant posture of life, and make life full of resilience and charm.
I hope that you and I will become people with temperature, tolerance and grace, and live a wonderful life.