I came across an article "Zhihu Zan: I suddenly don't want to work hard. What should I do?"? ",just a little suddenly enlighted. I am out of the state mentioned in the article. "Life is so tired. At this moment, I don't want to do anything, just want to "mourn" quietly. "The process of mourning also hides filar silk's anxiety about the future and escape from reality.
These problems are rooted in two aspects: feedback and sense of control.
First, timely feedback.
On the other hand, I think it is. Take learning as an example. I felt sad before, I felt that learning was boring, and I seemed to know a lot, but my life still didn't improve. This is the lack of timely feedback, so I usually get more and more bored and soon give up halfway.
The above article gives an example of "eating melon seeds", which is really empathetic. Once you start eating melon seeds, you really can't stop. Just move your mouth and you can get the melon you want. The cycle is short and the effect is quick. Probably that's how addiction comes from!
I think, if we can get timely feedback, it will undoubtedly make learning more exciting.
And how to get timely feedback? Those who immediately output what they have learned, or write it down, or make a speech, or teach others, often get good results, especially when teaching others. In "teaching" middle schools, feedback is the most timely and learning efficiency is quite high.
Therefore, how to apply what you have learned immediately will make learning more efficient and meaningful. Just like learning to add, subtract, multiply and divide, you can go to the vegetable market for actual combat. The sense of meaning of this process feedback makes it easier for people to persist in learning.
Second, the sense of control.
Without feedback for a long time, people often feel at a loss, let alone control, and then have anxiety. So now I can understand that feeling. Sometimes there is no hope, and the ability is so small that it can't compete with future risks. Inferiority, fear and stress are accompanied by a sense of loss of control.
The psychological feeling of losing control is the loss of ability and the decline of lack of confidence, so I think that to regain the sense of control, we might as well start with such small things as improving our ability, doing things we are interested in, coordinating our body, and even tidying up our room.
Generally speaking, in order to deal with many sudden "very sad" situations, we need to actively create conditions, get feedback, and focus on improving our ability and self-management to control the overall situation.
With self-confidence, hope is kindled. If you lose it for a while, you will never lose it again!