My husband slept with hundreds of female netizens and it made me collapse

A letter from a netizen. I met my current husband right after I graduated. We have been dating for two years and we only got married after we had children. He I can chat with my friends and other women about everything, but I have nothing to talk about. The year after I gave birth to my child, I discovered that he had another QQ account. I asked him who it was and he said he didn’t know, etc. I stole his QQ and looked at the chat history. There were hundreds of female netizens in it. Most of them were coquettish girls that my husband asked to rent a room and have sex with him. He still didn’t admit that QQ was his. He even had a divorce because of this. In the end, it was still me. He was reluctant to let go, but he never admitted that it was his QQ.

In the past few years, I didn’t trust him. I often checked his phone number. He also often went to bars with his friends. Whenever he went to the bar, he always lied to me and said he was going to play cards, but I After knowing that he went to the bar, I would go crazy and call him to ask him to come back, but he still didn't come back. All the time, I lived a life of guessing his life. Last month, I discovered that he had another QQ account. He was still the same as before, refusing to admit it because he was so angry both times that he deleted all the netizens after reading the chat history! He never admitted what he did, but instead he thought he was right, and I seemed to be suffering from depression. Every day I thought about who he went out with, and which women he had a room with?

He doesn’t love me anymore and doesn’t want this family anymore! The day before yesterday, he went drinking again. When he came back, I scolded him and told him that he had rented a room with a woman outside again and that he should not touch me in the future. The next day, I took all the money from his wallet to pay for the tuition! I was so angry that I deleted his QQ (the QQ I know) friend who is a better friend!

For three days, he went out and came back very late. He didn’t talk to me, and I didn’t talk to him. He also deleted my QQ account and signed it as “again and again.” , am I taking too much care? It's because what he did makes me feel insecure and I'm afraid of losing him. I've been married to him for six years and I think about whether he's cheating on me every day. It's very hard! I don’t know if my marriage will continue or not, and what I said was a little incoherent. I just face a man and a marriage like this, and I don’t know how to go on. I also have a lovely five-year-old child! What on earth should I do?

Xiao Pan replied hello, friend. Your husband is chatting or even hooking up with hundreds of female netizens, which is a sign that he is cheating. And why did he do this? What is the reason behind it?

Some men have happy families and successful careers, but they still feel that life is boring and boring, and then they look for lovers to have fun. The so-called food and clothing, lust and lust. When men solve their material needs, they put more energy into how to enjoy life and sexual life.

Material is the basis of everything, the basis of marriage, and the basis of extramarital affairs. If a man has no money, the chance of cheating is very slim. Therefore, controlling the man's money indirectly increases the man's financial pressure and also reduces the chance of them cheating.

Married life focuses on mutual trust and respect between husband and wife. Faced with signs of your husband's cheating, you just make endless guesses and tolerate it. Not only does this fail to solve the problem, but sometimes it can also cause you to suffer from mental illness. Therefore, Xiao Pan suggested that if you want to feel at ease, you should become a "private detective" a few times and secretly monitor what your husband is doing outside. If you encounter him cheating, expose it to his face so that he has nothing to say and nowhere to hide. If he is out there just drinking and chatting with friends, then you don't have to worry too much. After all, your husband has just passed his thirties (I guess he is about this age) and still has a desire to play. When the children get older, the elderly get older and the needs increase, he will no longer be in the mood to play.

Faced with the fact that her husband is fun-loving and often away from home, as a wife, she should teach her patiently and never get angry and lose the happiness that could have been obtained if she loses her control.

Hello, a letter from a netizen, I am a girl born in the 1990s, married far away, and just received my certificate. I like my husband very much, and we are together because I like him very much. I always thought that I didn't need him to love me, as long as I could be with him and I loved him, that was enough. But now I realize that love is not a matter of one person. Sometimes he will lose his temper with me and then come to coax me again soon. And I feel as if the world I gave him is too small, and he needs more people's attention. I had just received my certificate, but I felt very uneasy and insecure. I kept quarreling with him these days, saying that since I didn't have children anyway, I couldn't get through and break up. He is very different and special.

Now I am very confused about the future, and I always feel that I can't place myself well. In fact, I still want to have a vigorous love affair. Incoherent, can you understand how I feel.

Xiao Pan replied hello, friend. Love is when two people deeply love each other. A marriage without love is unlikely to last. Just like an attic wouldn't be built without a foundation. Men and women born in the 1990s have reached the age of discussing marriage. However, Xiao Pan believes that as a couple born in the 1990s, before getting married, they must live together for a trial marriage, or go out to work together. Only after experiencing the trials of life, can they Only in this way can we keep the immortality of love and the innocence of emotion. Because the post-90s generation is a special group. They were born in a new era and are subject to the impact of new and old ideas and the ravages of exam-oriented education. Many things need to be experienced by you personally in order to understand them. Just watch and listen, those are other people's stories. Only two people who experience it together will understand what the life you want is like.