Everyone has rebellious behavior in adolescence. During adolescence, we always feel that we are restrained by our parents, and we always want to break this restraint. So much so that our parents always think that we are starting to learn bad things. In fact, we just don’t want to be too obedient and want to be less well-behaved.

In adolescence, we can be disobedient or not very good, but we cannot become bad.

To be honest, this question reminded me of my rebellious days.

The song I have been playing on a single loop recently is Faye Wong's "Child":

You left my warm fortress with a bright body,

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You can’t be bad?,

You can’t be bad?

These touching words immediately aroused my inner commotion.

It is said that what you can’t get will always be in turmoil, so for me, who has always lived an extremely obedient life, “You can’t become bad, you don’t have to be too obedient”, this This sentence really touched the restless self in me.

I always feel that in the past twenty years, I have lived like a straight line, without any bumps and convexes, without the slightest bend. I have been living according to the expectations of many people. Here, I walked step by step according to the established route in the standard areas of "good children" and "good students".

Sometimes I think that if I am too well-behaved, I miss a lot of the liveliness and wantonness that should belong to a cardamom girl.

Of course, "I don't think I'm very good" does not encourage you to be unconventional and do some deviant things in the name of liberating your personality. Rather, it allows you to regain the spontaneity of living your own life, not living according to the standards in the eyes of others, and not giving up the pursuit of your right to choose.

This "not so good" is that we no longer simply obey certain arrangements of our parents. We no longer compromise easily on some things that we have disputes with our parents, but start to try to stick to our own. Opinion.

I have a cousin who is one year older than me and is about to graduate. When I was chatting with her once, she said that she wanted to stay and work in a first-tier city after graduation. But my aunt and uncle wanted her to return to her hometown after graduation, find a easy job, get married in a few years, and live in peace and stability. In their opinion, or in other words many parents' eyes, this is the best rightful place for a girl.

But my cousin doesn’t want to.

If it were me, I wouldn’t want to either.

Actually, as girls, we are sometimes bound by many conventional prejudices that want to fly high. Although times have progressed, many people still maintain very traditional ideas. : "I think girls should not be too career-minded. The right path is to graduate, get married, raise a husband and raise children."

But in today’s society, many young girls have gradually developed their own independent opinions, and many of us no longer want to fall into this stereotype.

We began to want to break this unwritten definition, and began to want to filter out some ideas that our parents installed on us that were not in line with us.

I want to be disobedient, I want to be less well-behaved.

I changed my WeChat signature to: "I won't be a bad person, but I don't want to be a bad boy." After the change, I have been secretly happy, as happy as when I took my first bite of marshmallow when I was a child.

A friend saw this and sent a message to me to tease me. I responded by saying, "This is the first step for me to become cool." Complaints are complaints, but in the end she sent me an approving emoji.

Perhaps in the eyes of many people, when we are young, we are ignorant and not very well-behaved, but in fact we just want to do what we like in a cooler way.

What we don’t do well is not to pursue superficial coolness such as tattoos, dyeing hair, or going to nightclubs, or to be ignorant and skillless, but to insist on some inner things that we like.

The friend who sent me a message to "complain" told me about an incident in her senior year of high school. She said that in her senior year of high school, she told her dad that she was going to participate in an essay competition. She refused to participate for serious reasons. Although she knew that the college entrance examination was very close at that time, she still made a very bad decision and secretly signed up without telling her father. In the end, she got a pretty good ranking. , but she didn’t tell her father about it until after the college entrance examination.

After she finished speaking, her father said lightly: "The older I get, the worse I get." Then she laughed happily beside her.

I asked her if you could do it again, would you do it again?

Of course, there is no regret even if the ranking is not good, she answered simply and neatly.

I gave her a thumbs up without hesitation.

In fact, as a college student and a young person, most of us are not willing to be mediocre. We have our own independent thoughts and the desire to constantly climb up, so we are not willing to obey our parents. of some stable arrangement.

Some people may say that you really don’t know how to be content. It is clear that your parents have arranged a very clear and stable path for you, but you have to find another path by yourself. But, for the younger generation, we prefer to venture alone. We prefer the exciting feeling to the smooth and stable feeling. Even if we end up with a bloody head, we can clean up and come back again.

Because we deserve the best and can withstand the worst.

"I am already Tingting, with no worries and no fear" is a sentence from Xi Murong's "Lian's Heart". Her original words are: "I am already Tingting, with no worries and no fear." . ?

I wrote this sentence in my diary because I particularly like the calm confidence and fearlessness revealed by this sentence.

I am not too well-behaved, and I am not afraid of doing things that are not very well-behaved within the appropriate scope.

Actually, I quite appreciate Dou Jingtong’s not-so-good attitude. My first impression of her, like many others, was that she was very different. However, after getting to know her gradually, I realized that this twenty-year-old woman The child is just doing what he likes in a not so good way.

She is not a bad learner, she is just not very well-behaved. I think she lives up to Faye Wong's expectations for her in "Children".

I saw an interview with her on the Internet. She said: "Rebellion for the sake of rebellion is quite stupid in my opinion."

Yes, we are disdainful of becoming less well-behaved because of becoming bad. We are not very well-behaved just because we don’t want to indulge in our own liking because of certain forms.

We are not going to be bad, we just want to be bad.

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