It is said in "Coco": It turns out that the most terrifying thing is not leaving and dying, but being forgotten by the one you love. ?

The feelings we lose are just like death and leaving. Love has died, but the beauty and hurt of being with that person still exist in the memory. When we are with him, we develop The habit has long been rooted in the heart.

Really letting go of someone means not leaving but letting go.

It’s difficult.

As if to subvert a good habit that you have worked hard to develop, suddenly someone tells you that this habit is wrong.

That feeling was a combination of relief and heartbreak.

I just feel that what I once thought was my whole life has turned into a dream.

Emotions are like this, they fall apart as time passes.

01 All separations are planned for a long time

I don’t know if you feel this way. When a relationship is about to end, you can’t help but ask:

Actually, if you calm down and think about it carefully, any two people who want to separate have been planning for a long time.

Two people who can’t get along will definitely have signs, big and small, in their normal interactions, but in the beginning, they will be covered up by the fresh feeling.

The day before my friend Yingying broke up with her ex, we had dinner together, and we all agreed to go play together if we had the chance.

However, the next afternoon, Yingying told me that she broke up with her boyfriend and it was the other party who proposed it.

Yingying was puzzled why they broke up suddenly when everything was fine.

There is no betrayal of each other, but there is usually a little friction, but they will get along quickly.

After being depressed for almost three months, Yingying slowly showed signs of recovery. She said: All breakups are planned for a long time.

Actually, half a month before he broke up with me, he cleaned up the photos on his phone, including many photos I took with him. I even had a big fight with him about this.

His explanation at the time was that it was deleted by mistake.

Probably, from that time on, he no longer loved me.

Three days before we broke up, he changed the social platform signature we designed together, and the passwords for his other accounts were also quietly changed.

In retrospect, he wanted to break up for at least half a year. At that time, he was lukewarm to me, and would often become impatient if we were separated. ?

I hugged Yingying. How could I think of such a small plot without heart-breaking feelings?

In fact, love or dislike is hidden in the details.

Whether he loves you or not, he will tell you all the details.

This is the saddest and most hurtful thing about relationships.

You are immersed in it, and he is ready to turn around and leave.

To start a relationship, it takes two people to nod.

However, to end a relationship, one person is enough.

02 If you are separated, don’t see each other again

Some people say that the best ex should be as if he is dead.

I deeply agree.

The opposite of this sentence is actually a warning to yourself that since a relationship has ended, let the other person become a dead friend, never see him again, and never think about rekindling the old relationship with him.

It hurts when we are separated. If you have not forgotten it, you must always remind yourself that you should never look back or linger on the feelings of leaving.

Unsuitable people will leave sooner or later.

It’s just that in relationships, there are really very few people who have such determination.

After the reader Wenwen broke up with her boyfriend, she always wanted to get back together.

Wenwen and her boyfriend work in two different districts in a first-tier city, and they are very busy. It is almost a long-distance relationship, and they rarely see each other.

After the breakup, in order to get back together with her boyfriend, Wenwen actually quit the job where she had worked for many years and accumulated many customers, went to her boyfriend's area, and started working in the store again.

At first, the boyfriend was also moved by Wenwen's dedication, and the two got together again.

We commute to get off work together every day, but the good times don’t last long.

In just two or three months, the two of them had quarreled several times. Either they felt that the other's cooking was not delicious. Wenwen liked spicy food, while her boyfriend liked it light. Wenwen was used to staying up late, and the boy Friends, on the other hand, have to go to bed early and get up early. At first, they will also make changes to accommodate the other person.

However, when two inappropriate people are together, it’s as if even the air is being disturbed. Even if they are suppressing their temper, they seem to be working hard for this relationship, but they are already at war with each other in their hearts. .

In the end, their reconciliation failed again, her boyfriend found a new love, and Wenwen broke up for the second time.

How much love can come back.

There are really very few loves that can come back.

In this world, there may be such a thing as reconciliation, but it is definitely forcing oneself to make subversive concessions.

Lost feelings are like driving a nail into a white wall. Even if the nail is pulled out and painted with the same paint, the diamond on the nail will always be inside.

Similarly, if the mirror is broken, there are many glues that can return it to its original shape, but the crack cannot be repaired unless the broken mirror is remade.

There is a song that goes like this: Don’t pile up nostalgia and make the plot bloody. I have loved it for many years, so why ruin a classic. ?

It is frustrating and sad to have given sincere feelings and not get a happy ending, but the best memorial to the lost feelings is to get together and part ways easily.

It is a kind of respect for others, for oneself, and for feelings.

03 True letting go: Don’t care, don’t slander

Someone asked, what is the best way to treat your ex?

One answer said: Don’t slander, don’t hurt, don’t entangle. ?

I deeply agree.

No matter how heartbroken we were when we broke up, we cannot deny that in this relationship, we both contributed to each other. However, due to various reasons, we could not reach the end. at last.

Instead of pursuing who is right and who is wrong, it is better to leave the last dignity to yourself and this relationship.

Haruki Murakami also said: If you love each other, you can hold hands until you grow old. If we are separated, we will keep him safe. ?

Remembering the lawsuit of the century when Alyssa Chia broke up with her ex, I can still recall her embarrassment, helplessness and pain at that time.

However, as time passed, she met true love, which repaired all her injuries and gave her a happy life.

Moreover, she and her ex were actually able to take photos together at their daughter’s graduation ceremony.

At that moment, she felt relieved, and netizens were also moved.

Because she knows that the wounds of the past can finally be healed, and the person who hurt her will no longer be able to cause any ripples in her.

Hating someone is always painful.

Being entangled in a relationship will only make your scars deeper and deeper in the end.

The beginning is beautiful, but breaking up does not necessarily mean ruin.

In fact, the character that cannot be seen at the beginning can also be seen when breaking up.

In life, there are many things about deep love and shallow love. If you have to worry about it every time, it will only make happiness further and further away.

Don’t struggle or lose heart when facing a relationship that has ended.

Every wrong relationship is the foundation for good things.

04 The opposite of love is letting go

On a Q&A platform, someone asked: What is it like to truly let go of someone?

Among them, one of the answers was this:? Suddenly I thought of him, smiled, and felt no more troubles. ?

Think about it, what kind of picture is this.

Once upon a time, when you think of that person, you may shed tears uncontrollably, or feel a dull pain in your heart. However, one day, when he appears in front of you again, you have already turned a blind eye.

Just like in "Snail House", Xiaobei and Haizao broke up. Once by chance, Haizao saw Xiaobei and a girl on the street holding hands and smiling, but never looked at her. .

At that time, Beckham probably truly let go.

The opposite of love is never lack of love, but indifference.

The opposite of love is not lack of love, but indifference.

Perhaps, when you first broke up, it was really painful for you, but life will continue, and when you meet more people and experience more tastes of life, you will also find:< /p>

It is indeed beautiful to have and gain; however, accepting loss is the normal state of life and requires more courage.

So, when you love each other, love well.

When you don’t love, you value yourself.