Xiaofang is 26 years old and currently works as a market planner in a company in Chongqing. Last month, Xiaofang and her boyfriend Xiaofeng started dating because of work. In order to prevent her boyfriend from thinking about his ex-girlfriend, Xiaofeng also sent her boyfriend a message to let him think about it. "I miss her as much as I miss Xiaofang. She is always by my side." This made Xiaoli very confused. She didn't know what to do.

1. Her boyfriend has an ex-girlfriend

Xiao Li (27 years old, office worker): Although he is quite nice to his ex-girlfriend now, he is already married after all, so he is afraid He will always think about the girl from the past. When I think about this situation now, I feel very confused. I never understood why he was so worried about his ex-girlfriend.

2. Send a message to your current girlfriend

"I miss my ex-girlfriend even if I have her." Xiaoli said that although she has not thought about breaking up with her current girlfriend, she has since After my boyfriend fell in love, I often asked him when he would reply to messages. Ex-girlfriends often post some funny, short videos or some funny emoticons, etc. Xiaoli also showed reporters the chat history on her mobile phone. Recently, in addition to sending messages to myself from my ex-girlfriend, she also adds a nickname "Xiao Fang" under her profile picture. Now Xiaoli has deleted all previous information about her former girlfriend.

3. The ex-girlfriend sent a message to her boyfriend

“I asked her what she was doing, and she said she was in a planning company and had clients.” Xiaofang said, and then Xiaofeng was surprised when the other party responded with a message, so he replied to her. "I originally wanted to reply directly regardless of what the message meant, but I didn't expect that he replied with a message 'because of her' and asked me if I felt aggrieved." Xiaofang felt aggrieved, and she explained to Xiaofeng However, at that time, I just wanted to avoid missing my current boyfriend too much, so I sent this message. Xiaofeng was very moved after hearing this and thought Xiaofang was "scheming". But it can't stop Xiaofeng from missing and obsessing about his ex-girlfriend.

4. Is my current girlfriend treating me too well or too badly?

Ms. Chen: When I was dating my current girlfriend, she always reminded me to buy everything I should buy for her, and she always said, "These are all memories from the time we were together. Stop thinking about it”. But your ex-girlfriend never said she didn’t want you to buy anything for her. You haven’t mentioned this matter since you started dating your current girlfriend. Mr. Zhao: My ex-girlfriend’s reminder made me a little afraid that telling my “memories of our past together” might make my friends and family feel like I’m not good enough, instead of always thinking about letting my ex-girlfriend take care of me.

5. Solution

Actually, I think Xiaoli’s situation cannot be considered purely from an emotional perspective. First of all, he now has a deep emotional entanglement with his ex. Now I often think about my ex-girlfriend. Secondly, he now frequently appears on social software such as WeChat and QQ, and this frequent contact has also led to gradual differences between him and his ex-girlfriend. Xiaoli can ask her parents for help, hoping that they can give her an explanation, "Did something unpleasant happen to you? Or you can't let it go now?"