An editor/love letter

"The past is too dark to chase, and the road tomorrow is bright."

This sentence is especially suitable for Yang Lei, the sketch queen who had a successful career and a happy family.

There is a husband, Dai Zhicheng, who holds himself in the palm of her hand, but suddenly her husband's dislike, the betrayal of her best friend and the subsequent divorce make her feel like a fool.

What used to be beautiful has been fragmented.

Who knows that it took her ten years to really recover from the pain, and her once happy marriage was only seven years.

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In 2004, Yang Lei won numerous applause after completing another wonderful performance at the Spring Festival Evening. The cheers of the audience seemed to be a blessing for her to continue a happy and beautiful life in the new year.

At this time, she is really happy like a flower. If there are people blessed by God in the world, Yang Lei must be one of them.

Yang Lei was born in Shaanxi, a place full of regional culture. She has aura since she was a child and likes art performances very much, so she resolutely embarked on the road of art performances.

Different from other people's tortuous and difficult road of chasing dreams, Yang Lei took this road very smoothly. She was transferred to Xi 'an Theatre in her early twenties, and was highly valued by leaders and directors.

At that time, Yang Lei was the youngest and most promising actor in Xi 'an Theatre.

However, after three years of hard work on the stage of drama, Yang Lei suddenly felt tired of this stage, but became interested in sketches, so Yang Lei began to perform sketches.

It seems that Lao Naively dotes on this little girl. When she decided to transform, Shaanxi Province had just held the first TV sketch contest.

After Yang Lei knew it, she took part in the competition with Guo Da, and finally won the first place in the professional group with her composition "Before Delivery Room".

Not only that, this sketch was also selected by 1987 Spring Festival party, and Yang Lei became famous in the sketch session with this work, and began her own sketch performance journey.

The cause has entered a new stage, and the feelings have also ushered in a new beginning.

Yang Lei used to think that she was a bad-tempered and impatient person, so she thought that she must find a man who is more than ten years older than herself and is not a colleague as a life partner in the future.

But no matter how many rules and regulations, when you really meet that person, it will be invalid. That person is crosstalk actor Dai Zhicheng.

From 65438 to 0987, when Yang Lei went to Beijing from Xi 'an to attend the Spring Festival Gala, she met Dai Zhicheng because of her performance on the same stage, and then fell in love with other ordinary couples.

From then on, the two began a long-distance love, until 1997 registered marriage, and they entered a new stage of life together.

After getting married, Yang Lei put down a lot of work, and began to put family first and Dai Zhicheng first, and really did everything a good wife should do.

Dai Zhicheng was also very kind to Yang Lei at first. Although the two rarely show love or mention each other in front of the camera, Yang Lei once said when referring to Dai Zhicheng:

"He can be said to be one hundred and twenty points good to me, and he can be said to be the baby who holds me in the palm of his hand."

A woman who praises a man directly like this must really feel the man's care for herself.

Then according to the truth, Yang Lei's life will be smooth and happy, but why did they divorce later and Yang Lei came back after ten years of silence?

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In fact, marriage is not achieved overnight, and so is a change of heart. Women are very sensitive. Sometimes a man's tone and eyes can tell whether he loves you or not.

So is Yang Lei. From the clues of life, she gradually realized that Dai Zhicheng was different.

As time went on, Yang Lei even felt that Dai Zhicheng's heart was no longer with her. She knew that her marriage with Dai Zhicheng was in crisis.

Stubborn, she couldn't stand the couple's life in name only every day, so she took the initiative to ask Dai Zhicheng:

"Is there anyone outside you?"

Yang Lei wants Dai Zhicheng to tell the truth, but unfortunately Dai Zhicheng's answer is always negative. She always thinks that Yang Lei is unreasonable.

Finally, Yang Lei even moved out and separated from Yang Lei on the pretext of unreasonable troubles.

The days wore on like this, until Yang Lei couldn't stand living in two places and asked Dai Zhicheng for a divorce. Before that, in Yang Lei's heart, she always felt:

"People all over the world can get divorced, only she can't."

Because Dai Zhicheng was so kind to her, the past daily love has been lingering in Yang Lei's mind. She didn't believe it, and she didn't want to believe that Dai Zhicheng would divorce her regardless of past mutual affection.

But what she didn't expect was that not long after their quarrel, Yang Lei received a divorce agreement from Dai Zhicheng.

At that time, Yang Lei quickly called her friend Li Jindou. She also wants to try to save this marriage, hoping that Li Jindou can help her.

But unfortunately, people who have gone far will not choose to stay because of persuasion. Dai Zhicheng finally chose to divorce Yang Lei.

Steven Yang is a very proud man. Although her love and liking have gone up in smoke, seeing that Dai Zhicheng insisted on divorce, she resolutely went through the divorce formalities.

It took only 22 days from signing the divorce agreement to completing the formalities, which ended her seven-year marriage with Dai Zhicheng.

After the divorce, Dai Zhicheng went to the door to move things, but Yang Lei didn't cry. She just watched Dai Zhicheng rush in and out to clean, and even took the mop. It seems that she will clearly distinguish herself from Yang Lei for the rest of her life and never see each other again.

Yang Leiqiang supported her last pride and dignity. From beginning to end, she didn't shed a tear, watching her former lover leave her like this.

Then Yang Lei, who was always proud, lost her lover. What should she do when her life should be smooth sailing?

After the divorce, Yang Lei faced the empty house and shut herself in the room silently. At that time, everything seemed meaningless. She seems to have fallen from the high clouds to the bottomless abyss. She doesn't understand why this happened.

Why did the man who once loved himself so much suddenly stop loving him? Why does a happy family break up in her eyes? Why did everything become different from what she imagined? ...

But even so, she still loves Dai Zhicheng deeply, immersed in the beauty of the past, and even has great expectations for Dai Zhicheng's change of heart.

Living in such a complicated mood all day, Yang Lei began to be confused and became anxious and depressed.

She can't sleep. At night, all kinds of emotions will come out to torture people. She must take four valium tablets every day to sleep for a few hours.

A few hours later, she woke up sweating, but she knew it was wrong. She understands the side effects of stability, and she is afraid that she will become less and less human after eating.

At that time, Yang Lei's face became dark because of emotional sadness, and she looked completely different from the once radiant sketch queen, so that she dared not see her parents for three years.

Until the fourth year, her mother went to see a doctor because she was ill. Yang Lei is very worried about her mother's health, but she is afraid that her mother will be worried when she sees herself like this.

So my sister, who claimed to be a doctor, went to Shandong with her mother by train first, and then flew to pick her up and asked her to cover for herself.

When I met Yang Lei, my mother was worried when she saw Yang Lei's haggard face, so she secretly asked Yang Lei's sister:

"Yang Lei sick? How did she become so haggard? "

Yang Lei only told her sister and brother-in-law about her divorce. At that time, her brother-in-law knew, and generously said to Dai Zhicheng:

"Although divorced, there will be opportunities in the future. You are very welcome to visit Shanxi."

Yang Lei felt wronged because she had been very kind to the Dai Zhicheng family, but after the divorce, they never said a word of concern coldly from beginning to end.

Seeing her brother-in-law, Yang Lei felt that her brother-in-law was not on her side, so she quarreled with her brother-in-law.

So Yang Lei's sister told her mother that nothing happened in order to avoid quarreling again, and for the sake of her mother, but how could it be hidden? Finally, Yang Lei's mother asked Yang Lei:

"In the past, Dai Zhicheng didn't stick to it all day. He called very politely. Why didn't he call you these days? "

At this moment, Yang Lei finally collapsed, threw herself into her mother's arms and told her about her divorce.

Yang Lei's mother didn't ask too much when she saw her girl crying so sadly. She just comforted her that everything would pass and everything would be fine.

Under the comfort of her mother, Yang Lei seems to be really much better. In addition, when she returned to Beijing after the incident, friends around her always enlightened and comforted her, and Yang Lei gradually came out of the haze of divorce.

But before long, the news of Dai Zhicheng's remarriage hit Yang Lei's heart, which has healed a little.

In June 2007, some media reported that Dai Zhicheng and Yuan Yin got married. At this time, it was only three years since Yang Lei and Dai Zhicheng divorced. Only three years later, Dai Zhicheng and Yang Lei's best friend got married.

At the time of divorce, she didn't even want to give herself a truth, but now she gave her best friend a romantic wedding, which is ridiculous irony for Yang Lei.

Fortunately, the most painful time has passed, and Yang Lei can no longer be knocked down by another blow. Later, with the healing of friends and the comfort of mothers, the love and hate for Dai Zhicheng gradually decreased.

Slowly, Yang Lei realized that she had wasted a lot of time, which could actually be used to create more good sketches for those who supported and liked the audience.

It can be used to spend more time with elderly mothers, enjoy life and see the world. ...

Yang Lei, who started to cheer up again, began to try to work again. Busy Yang Lei got better step by step, and at this moment she met the man who hurt her the most.

That's when Yang Lei attended the Spring Festival Gala in Changchun. Yang Lei was commenting on the lines of the sketch with others at that time, but maybe he came to the show and saw Yang Lei.

So he came straight up and held out his hand to shake hands with Yang Lei. Guo Da and others all dare not look, for fear that Yang Lei will fight in disgust or cry at the top of her lungs, for fear that the scene will get out of control.

Who knows Yang Lei just held out his hand and shook hands with Dai Zhicheng, and they didn't say anything.

After Dai Zhicheng left, Yang Lei thought nothing happened and continued to check her lines with her partner. On the contrary, she scared Guo Da and others to forget their lines.

Probably Guo Da and others think that Yang Lei has changed, but as Liu Tong said in Your Loneliness, Although it is glorious to be defeated.

"It may be a pity to give up, but you have to understand that some persistence is meaningless."

It's just that it took her a long time to figure out a lot of things. Nothing is that she suddenly stopped loving, just a clue that she didn't find.

At that time, Steven Yang and Dai Zhicheng were very comfortable together. No one accompanied those social parties, and she didn't care too much about him. The details of her change of heart have long been hidden in her relationship.

I was just immersed in the bubble of happiness and didn't notice these changes.

Yang Lei also wants to know that she may be doomed to this fate. At that time, some people said that if they had children, they might not be able to go so far, but she felt:

"I should go through this with or without children, and what should happen will still happen. I am also very grateful for this experience, which has made me more mature and strong. "

It took Yang Lei ten years to understand this truth. It took her ten years to really come out, really stand on the stage again, and be the once radiant self.

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So looking back on that happy marriage and ten years after the breakup, perhaps Yang Lei has become more relieved, stronger and braver.

Now she is also involved in the work, or a person without children, no choice to remarry. For once proud of marriage and feelings, she also had a new understanding:

As long as it's not your fault, as long as you do your best and sincerely, you are still worthy of being loved. Yang Lei may also understand that seven points of love should be used to love yourself.

Marriage should not be everything to ourselves, and of course it should not be a condition for us to give up ourselves.

Just like Yang Lei, she gave up the best development period of her career and her proud enthusiasm after marriage. In the end, she only got favor from cool thin.

So if Yang Lei hadn't given up at that time, after the divorce, she might still be able to devote herself to her work and creation, and she wouldn't have wasted her ten years of youth.

When maybe life is like this, we always stay in a certain period of time or live in a certain period of youth. That period of time may be beyond our understanding after several years, but it is beyond our power.

Even if I'm black and blue, I'll turn my back.

Perhaps this is life, and this is the helplessness of feelings.

We often listen to the so-called chicken soup for the soul to tell us how to maintain our feelings and how to save our marriage, but the fact is as Li Jian said:

"There is nothing to talk about feelings, because love has its own destiny."