(1) is not suitable for school life. This kind of situation mostly happens when the learning situation such as transfer and promotion to a new grade changes greatly. Due to the great changes in the learning environment, students need to reconstruct their own behaviors, study habits and interpersonal relationships. Therefore, some students with poor adaptability may be tired of studying and play truant because of poor adaptability.

(2) student relationship problems, such as bullying;

(3) Relationship with teachers, such as students being scolded by teachers.

(4) Poor academic performance. If your grades are not satisfactory, you can't understand your lessons.

(5) Inadaptability to group activities and poor self-care ability.

(6) The school rules are too strict, the teaching methods are outdated and lack vitality.

(7) There is a serious tendency to take exams and frequent exams.

2. Family reasons: drastic changes in the family living environment; The parent-child relationship is tense; Family discord; Lack of family culture atmosphere and so on.

3. Personal factors: Personal factors include lack of internal motivation, poor self-control, lack of clear learning goals, understanding and cognitive obstacles to learning significance, and lack of willpower and perseverance to overcome difficulties.

What should I do if I am addicted to the internet?

Blaming children who are addicted to the internet can't make them leave the network. The best way is for parents to make clear the reasons why their children fall in love with the Internet before taking appropriate parenting measures. Usually, there are three reasons for children to escape from the real world to the virtual network. Children are emotionally empty, habitually surfing the Internet and suffering from Internet addiction.

When parents realize that their children are too addicted to the internet, the first step is to start from the emotional level of their children. Is there anything wrong with their social situation? Do you pursue the pleasure brought by online activities because you are bored, depressed and escape from pressure?

Parent-child game

Children who lack self-confidence and sense of accomplishment, or can't handle interpersonal relationships correctly, are more likely to indulge in the internet. When children can't build self-confidence and achievements in real life, they will naturally seek satisfaction in the online world. In the face of children addicted to emotional emptiness, parents need to give rich emotional nourishment. The best way is to "play with children".

It is common for parents to send their children to play by themselves after buying storybooks, building blocks and other toys. As a result, toys were shelved and children went online. Parents need to let their children feel the fun of playing. The period when children need their parents to accompany them is not limited to early childhood. In the primary school stage before junior high school, children's interest and motivation in learning are still deeply influenced by their families. Most of the leisure activities that children will like in this period are activities that parents are willing to accompany, such as children's love of reading. As for letting children find self-confidence and achievements outside of online activities, they must be helped to find alternative interests.

Family education expert Cha Hong Xiang also pointed out that there is no need for children to do other things. Experts put forward several small ideas that parents can help arouse children's interest. For example, children who don't like reading can use classic comics to stimulate their desire to read. Parents can also cultivate a culture of questioning at home. There are no stupid questions, they can talk about everything, even if parents sometimes don't know the answer to arouse their children's curiosity.

Find the home computer.

If parents provide rich emotional nourishment and the child's internet addiction continues, it is necessary to further clarify whether it is caused by habit or suffering from internet addiction. To prevent children from getting into the habit of surfing the Internet, before helping children to buy computers and install the Internet, we must first make three chapters of the law, formulate the rules for using the Internet, including the location of computers, the time when they can surf the Internet and clear penalties for breach of contract, and post them in obvious places for parents and children to sign and implement.

Entering the primary school stage, children will ask their parents to buy computers and install networks because of the needs of computer classes and homework at school. If you communicate with your child to confirm the necessity of installing a computer network at home, parents can ask businesses to install only homework and document systems when buying computers, so as to reduce the chances of children abusing computers. Besides, children should never be allowed to put computers in their rooms, because they need to concentrate on their homework. Before the child is underage, parents must insist on putting the computer in public places at home, such as guests, restaurants or study rooms, and positioning it as the equipment of the whole family, so that parents can accompany their children to surf the Internet. This is a necessary remedial measure to prevent children from doing nothing in front of the Internet. In order to prevent children from engaging in improper network activities, the negative measures are that parents use technology to counter technology, install internet control software and check children's browsing records. Positive measures are that parents participate in their children's online world, communicate with their children through the internet, collect their accounts, join their children's chat families, visit their blogs, and remind their children of their self-control through e-mail, which will be more effective than daily words.

How to help children quit Internet addiction?

Teenagers' excessive infatuation with the internet has become a social problem that parents all over the world pay attention to. How to make children quit "Internet addiction" has become a big worry for many parents. So as a parent, "How do you view the problem of children surfing the Internet?" As parents, we are most worried about the negative impact of unhealthy information on the Internet on children. "How can children avoid' Internet addiction' and get rid of its' claws'?

Kobayashi is 8 years old. He started to contact online games last year and soon became obsessed with it. He often plays truant and his academic performance drops sharply. Parents prevented him from going to Internet cafes by escorting him to and from school, limiting his pocket money and setting a password for his home computer, but all to no avail. According to Kobayashi's situation, I drew up "three tricks to escape from danger" (meaning the danger of getting rid of internet addiction). Three months later, Kobayashi successfully quit Internet addiction, and his academic performance rebounded significantly. He won the second prize in this year's computer knowledge competition organized by the school. Below, I will share these three tricks with my parents.

Get close to children

Children who are addicted to online games are mostly closed-minded, so to educate children, we must first open their hearts. At first, I asked Xiao Lin to live with me. I played online games and football with him, making him feel that our relationship is not just an uncle, but also a friend. The child gradually opened his heart to me, asked me for some computer game knowledge that he didn't understand at first, and transitioned to give him advice like a friend when he encountered difficulties in learning to make friends. Gradually, we became good friends who talked about everything.

Timely guidance

This is the most critical step to liberate children from the virtual world. After becoming friends, I began to talk about the dangers of indulging in online games, and often told him stories about children who lost their feet because of indulging in online games, which constantly touched his heart. After he had a certain understanding of the harm of online games, he tried to tell him some interesting computer knowledge. Xiaolin likes drawing, so I taught him to draw cartoons on the computer, and also taught him to use drawing software and animation software. He studies very hard, and soon he can make some simple animations by himself.

timely reward

Most children are addicted to online games because they lack confidence in reality. At this time, it is necessary to help children realize their importance in reality and cultivate their self-confidence and enterprising consciousness. I often encourage Xiaolin to participate in activities organized by the school, mobilize him to run for class cadres, and urge him to communicate with his classmates more. Whenever Xiaolin is praised at school, I always give him some small gifts as a reward, so that his self-confidence in the network will gradually change into his self-confidence in reality.

In this process, I did not strictly prohibit Xiaolin from playing online games. In fact, up to now, Kobayashi has not completely left online games, just because he has regained his confidence in reality and made many intimate friends. Now, for him, online games are not the whole of life.

In fact, children are addicted to online games, mainly because of their lack of care and self-confidence. Only in the virtual world of online games can he get the love and sense of accomplishment that he can't get in reality, and he can indulge in it. Therefore, it is fundamental to give a child what he needs in reality in order to truly get rid of the harm of online games. Online games are not terrible, and they are not a scourge. As long as we are more concerned, more considerate, and more helpful, we will definitely help our children get out of online games.

Reasons for puppy love

There are many types of reasons for puppy love, which can be summarized as follows:

1. worship type

This kind of teenager falls in love with each other. This kind of puppy love is very common. According to the different reasons of love, it can be divided into the following three categories:

(1) instrument type

This kind of puppy love is caused by the external appearance of loving each other, which is also the most common, but it is also the most difficult to sustain and stabilize. There are always handsome guys and beautiful women in school who are envied by the opposite sex, which includes this factor.

(2) specialization type

This is puppy love caused by appreciating each other's ability or their own expertise. This kind of puppy love is often the initiative of girls.

(3) Personality type

This kind of puppy love is produced because I like some qualities that I admire in the other person and lasts for a long time.

2. Curious

This is the phenomenon of puppy love because of curiosity about the opposite sex. With the continuous development of sexual consciousness, teenagers will be curious about the body, life, psychology and attitude of the opposite sex, which is a psychological phenomenon of teenagers. Teenagers are prone to sexual impulses, thus maintaining a sensitive attitude towards the opposite sex. In order to satisfy this curiosity, they made friends with the opposite sex.

3. Imitation type

This is the phenomenon of puppy love caused by imitating this behavior in society, film and television works, newspapers and books.

4. Consistency types

This is the phenomenon of puppy love caused by the pressure of peers around. For example, a love relationship that doesn't exist in the first place may be invented by people around you, that is, "rumors" or "gossip". In such an environment, under the pressure of public opinion, it is easy to admire it.

5. Pleasant types

Adolescent men and women, as classmates or even deskmates, will have a more detailed and thorough understanding of each other because of more communication and information transmission. In this case, puppy love is prone to occur. This is also an important reason for "classmate love" or even "deskmate love".

6. Salary type

Some teenagers suffer setbacks in their study and life, and their self-esteem is damaged. In order to achieve the purpose of venting, they often look for the opposite sex to forget their pain and seek compensation. This kind of puppy love is integrated with real feelings and is easy to develop and deepen.

7. Reverse type

Due to social consciousness and public opinion, teenagers' sexual intercourse is often improperly interfered by their parents and teachers, which easily induces their psychology of "You forbid me to do this, but I will do it anyway". Under the influence of this rebellious mentality, normal and appropriate heterosexual communication may rapidly develop into puppy love.

8. Pathological types

In contemporary society, superior nutritional conditions are easy to lead to overnutrition, and the role of sex hormones contained in food or various special physiological diseases, family inheritance and other factors are easy to cause precocious puberty and even sexual metamorphosis. This is the main objective factor that induces adolescent puppy love. The above types are also common in adult love, especially those who have never experienced puppy love for the first time. And because adults are more powerful and knowledgeable, the same consequences are worse than those of puppy love children.

How to deal with juvenile puppy love?

Teenage puppy love is not a diagnostic word in the field of psychology or mental health. It is not a disease, or even a mental health problem. It is a concept in the field of sociology. The so-called puppy love among teenagers should be considered by sociologists. Different cultures and social customs have different understandings of juvenile puppy love. Puppy love seems to be a common cultural phenomenon in China's feudal society, such as "child bride" and "early marriage" and today's western culture, which is more relaxed about sex. Only puppy love is incompatible with social customs and self-concept will it form a problem.

What should teenagers do about puppy love?

(1) Teenage puppy love changes the attitude of teachers and parents towards puppy love. Teenagers' desire for the opposite sex is human nature.

Natural changes that have occurred in a specific period. With the maturity of sex, hazy sexual consciousness began to change into conscious pursuit. Young people will gradually like the opposite sex, eager for intimate communication, and at the same time will have sexual desire and be satisfied in various ways. For teenagers in love, we should respect their feelings and understand their behavior. We can neither be overly sensitive nor turn a blind eye. Don't interfere with the normal communication between teenagers of the opposite sex and mistake friendship for puppy love. Once teenagers have an affair, it is not appropriate to take measures such as suppression, crackdown and punishment to solve it. Teenagers' love often shows passion, intensity, secrecy and one-sidedness, so their reason is fragile and their ability to bear emotional setbacks is extremely weak. How to guide and improve teenagers' self-control ability is the key problem. The desire for love is normal in itself, and nothing at all is morbid. No matter what the brain thinks, it can be confined to a certain code of conduct. The more parents care, the more problems there will be.

(2) Help teenagers analyze their emotional guidance, conduct sex education, help them eliminate sexual mystery and distinguish the relationship between friendship and love. Make them realize that it is normal to have a good impression and love for the opposite sex after puberty, but because of their immature psychology, unclear values, lack of life experience and limited contact, their love for the opposite sex is mostly nonspecific. Some teenagers will feel that they like A's composure but can't feel passion, and they like B's erudition but can't accept B's superiority? The therapist should help him analyze, which is not "not specific" that teenagers think.

(3) help solve sexual psychological problems. Young puppy lovers often have fierce inner conflicts because of love or social pressure, which seriously affects their study and physical and mental health. Dealing with the inner conflict and social environment conflict caused by puppy love is the key to ensure the mental health of teenagers. For those teenagers who want to fall in love on the one hand and are afraid of affecting their studies on the other, therapists should allow them to fully admit their feelings, allow them to happen and keep in touch. The deeper the depression, the stronger the resistance, the more afraid of affecting the study, and the easier it is to yearn for the opposite sex, resulting in anxiety or various neurosis. Teenagers are in the stage of attachment-independence conflict, and parents' excessive restraint on children's communication with the opposite sex will cause children's rebellious psychology and produce counterproductive results. For those teenagers who are distressed by lovelorn or unrequited love, therapists should understand their pain, analyze their emotional specificity, and encourage them to contact other members of the opposite sex. But don't let teenagers feel that the therapist is deliberately belittling his lover. Sometimes therapists should fully affirm the loveliness of their lover and respect the feelings of teenagers, but they should clarify the situation of over-deification, and don't make it easy to say "I can't find a satisfactory one anymore" or "Either she doesn't marry or he doesn't marry".

Finally, children's weariness of learning is generally a comprehensive problem. For parents and students who are tired of learning and can't solve it, psychological counseling can help them adjust and find a good learning state as soon as possible. The center's adolescent psychologists have rich clinical experience and good feedback effect on children's weariness of learning, poor learning initiative and parent-child relationship.