in fact, the most important thing to eliminate this gap is not the external way, but yourself. I'm from the north, and my mother-in-law's family is from the south. I understand your feelings very well. It's better to leave your hometown and marry abroad. If everything goes well, if it doesn't, you may miss your family. But what I want to say to you is that since you have chosen the person you love, you have to accept everything about him, including his family. First of all, no matter how your mother-in-law treats you, you should treat her as your own mother and not as your enemy in your heart. It's good that my mother-in-law is an elder, but she's not above me. I think I can say anything wrong. It's unnecessary for my husband to tell me that it's wrong. What's more, when a child speaks, he doesn't call his father, and so does my child. At the beginning, I didn't feel very well. Why should I call my father first when I gave birth to him? Haha, this is the instinct of children to speak and pronounce, which is beyond our control. Until now, my son only calls his mother, and his father doesn't call him well, so you don't need to ask for trouble in this respect. The child belongs to the whole family, and everyone loves him. You feel uncomfortable when you see your mother-in-law holding the child in her arms at work every day. Kiss me, I think you are really asking for trouble. There is also the fact that your mother-in-law said that her mother's cooking was not delicious. I don't think you need to be sad about it afterwards. You should have said at that time that no matter how bad my mother's cooking was, I liked it. If you have something to say, don't keep it in your heart and burden yourself. Maybe your mother-in-law is a straight-tempered person. Don't completely put her mother-in-law in the position of an old witch for fear that you can't eat well. In my experience of getting along with my mother-in-law for so many years, first of all, you should treat your mother-in-law as your own mother. Second, there are some things you don't hide. Third, I don't know if you live with your mother-in-law. If so, be patient with your mother-in-law for your husband and the people you love. Put yourself in other's shoes, and don't have too much hatred in your heart, for your baby's sake. Think more about your baby when you are unhappy. I wish you a happy day.