Friend, I don’t quite understand what you mean, but there are some inspirational and growth-related things that you can take a look at. I hope it can help you a little bit to my subverted thinking and reason

Work

No matter where we are, we have our own jobs and businesses. The most direct reflection of our own value is our work performance. At work, the first basis for our leaders' evaluation of us is our work results.

Concerning work, I would like to share with you the following views.

The first point is: you must learn quickly.

As a newcomer, in the first month you enter a department, you can know nothing and do nothing. But, you have to learn, and you have to learn fast. After one month of study, you must be familiar with your work content, understand your work targets, and master your work skills. We allow you to make mistakes. You can make the same mistake the first time or the second time, but you cannot make it the third time if you feel it is right.

The second point of view is: the first job is very important.

The first job assigned to us by the leader, within legal and reasonable conditions, no matter what method you use, you must do it well. Because first impression is really important. If you mess up the first thing the boss assigns to you, how can he dare to assign things to you in the future? In people's brains, once the first impression and first positioning are formed, it is difficult to change this impression and positioning. Once others position you as a bad person, even if you do a good thing one day, others will think so: he must have done this good thing for a larger conspiracy. At best, it's a hit-and-miss, a blind cat meets a dead mouse. Once others position you as a good person, even if you do a bad thing one day, others will think so: no one is perfect, and we should allow him to make mistakes. Sometimes, you wonder why people are so rogue, but the reality is that it is.

Our first work results almost play a decisive role in the leader’s first impression and first positioning of us. Perhaps, it will also determine your progress in the sub-department. Some people are banned just because their first impression is too bad.

The third point of view is: the harder you work, the more you will gain, but you will lose more than you gain. In fact, at work, those who are the most down-to-earth workers are often not the ones favored by the leaders, so they will not be the ones who gain the most. In addition to hoping that his subordinates can efficiently complete the tasks assigned by him, the leader also hopes that his subordinates can put forward more effective opinions on how to complete a task better. Leaders have to take charge of the overall situation, which is of course very tiring. At the same time, they are sometimes lazy. Of course, they hope that someone can help him think about the problem and provide him with solutions to the problem. It is easy to find people to do things, but it is difficult to find people to give ideas.

How about saying that mental work is more advanced than physical work?

The fourth point of view is: shooting the first bird. If one person is always in the limelight and completes the tasks assigned by the leader alone. That leaves other people with nothing to do, and you make other people look worthless. I don’t think anyone would like colleagues who don’t take others seriously, don’t you think? I think everyone can imagine the consequences if this continues. If you don’t believe me, you can do this experiment... If you succeed, you come to me and I will treat you to dinner...

The fifth point of view is: Independence is the most beautiful, long live cooperation. A person's ability to complete something independently can indeed demonstrate one's ability. However, there are no always successful individuals in the world, only always successful teams. At work, everyone can only be a link in a chain. If you are in an important position, the whole chain cannot be without you. If you are in a marginal position, maybe you are the kind of character who has neither more nor less; but no matter what, you are It is impossible to break away from everyone and replace the entire chain alone.

The sixth point of view is: What we can see is always just the tip of the iceberg. We need to get more and more useful information from others. Really smart people are not those who gain experience from their own personal experiences; they are those who gain experience from others. In yourself, you can only see the shadow of the past, but in others, you can see more reasons for success.

Many people say, "It is better to talk more than to do more." I can't see it. You must not only be able to do it, but also learn, speak, listen, and think.

Diplomacy

I don’t know if you have noticed that successful people are often eloquent people. A person's eloquence is very important. The first thing you need to get hired is speaking. The interviewer knows you, understands you, and finally hires you, mainly based on what you said during the interview. If you had failed to promote yourself and show yourself, I don’t think they would have hired you.

Concerning diplomacy, I would like to share the following questions with you:

The first question: Why should we maintain good diplomatic relations? The main body of society is people. People have three friends and four interpersonal relationships. We can never exist in isolation.

In our lives, more often than not, we rely not on our relatives, but on our friends. Even if you say that all your current food, clothing, housing and transportation are provided by your parents. Let me tell you, in your life, what you need most and most frequently are your friends. After all, your parents are limited, and your parents' abilities are also limited. Sometimes, the results of your hard work for half a year are not as good as the results of someone else's words.

The wealth owned by Bill Gates, the world’s richest man, is certainly not created by his actions alone. He doesn't have that much ability either. I personally think that his greatest ability is: through his recruitment interview examiners, he hired a group of people who can make money. In fact, it is quite simple for us to become the world's richest man. We only need to do one thing, and that is to persuade the world's richest man through diplomatic means to give us all his wealth for free, and then we will become the world's richest man. The richest man. But so far, no one in the world with such strong diplomatic ability has succeeded in this matter. If you do it one day, don’t forget to treat yourself.

The second question: a correct view of diplomatic relations. In Chinese society, there is a place called the gray zone. Many people hate its existence because their own diplomatic relations are not good enough. We should never say, "In the process of achieving a certain goal, some people rely not on real strength, but on building relationships and going through the back door." Because diplomatic ability is a very important ability that a person possesses. In fact, a prerequisite for the gray area's existence is that the parties involved have good diplomatic relations. If you don't admit defeat, you will do better than others...

The third question is: what kind of diplomatic relations should we establish during the four years of college.

I have always believed that if we want to achieve greater success in later life, our test scores should reach at least 80% when we graduate from senior year. Such a good level; and our diplomatic performance should be at least 90%, which is an excellent level. In four years of college, we should make at least 500 friends. Among these five hundred people, we should at least be familiar with our direct leadership system. If, after four years, you still have less than 100 contacts in your phone, I want to say that you have really failed.

The fourth question is: how to establish good diplomatic relations.

There are many more answers to this question. Generally speaking, there are the following points that we can easily do.

1. Seize the opportunity to interact and communicate with others, promote yourself to others, show yourself, and let others remember your name. It is not easy for others to remember your name all of a sudden, unless that person has the talent of photographic memory, but we rarely encounter many such people in our lives. We should seize the opportunity to do things with others, strengthen communication and enhance mutual understanding.

2. Summarize your new friends often, even every day, think about their appearance and names, and store their information in your CPU. As the saying goes, if you learn and practice it from time to time, you can become a teacher. Think about it before going to bed every day, "What did you gain in diplomacy today? Did I meet another outstanding person today?" Tonight, you can think of me, even though I am not very good.

3. Take advantage of the victory and pursue it. In something, we get to know others, and others get to know us. After the matter is over, or after returning home. Take the initiative to call someone or send a text message. Improve communication in spare time.

4. Express your gratitude and friendliness. During the New Year and holidays, make a phone call and send a text message to your friends to express greetings and blessings. Maybe the first or second time people don’t know who you are and won’t pay attention to you; but as long as you persist, after the third or fourth time, I believe they will be curious about you and will reply to you. Will greet you proactively.

5. Be sure to remember other people’s titles. If you even remember other people’s names, positions, and titles incorrectly. I think there is no need for others to pay attention to you. Of course, if you publicly get other people's information wrong, others will remember you, but the impression left at that time will not be a good one.

6. Have your own style. When attending public occasions, dress up uniquely and have your own style. You are unique and stand out from the crowd, are you still afraid that others will not remember you? Of course, I’m not asking you to play non-mainstream. At the same time, we need to remind everyone that different occasions require different dressing techniques.

7. To establish diplomatic relations with others, you must first let others remember you. In fact, there is another good way to let others remember you quickly, and that is to choose a good name. In this life, I think we can forget it, but for the future of your descendants, you must give your children a good name in the future. To be honest, I am very proud of my name. Because people remember my name as soon as they hear it. If you still can’t remember my name: Student Liu. With these three words, I think this is not only my failure, but also your failure. We used to have a lot of good names in our class in high school: Liu Jiankang, the eight-mouthed Lu Pinpin, Haiyang, etc... After I got to college, I found that there were many names like Ting, Fang... all with big names on their heads. Now, when we meet, I still worry about getting confused.

8. Take the initiative to visit.

Those with high qualifications are not people we can get to know if we want to. Besides, it is useless if we know others but others do not know us. Find an opportunity and take the initiative to visit our mentors and mentors.

9. Create opportunities. Opportunities often require us to create them. People say "Opportunities only belong to those who are prepared." That's because opportunities are provided by others. If the opportunity is created by ourselves, I think it must belong to us. Create an opportunity for others to help you, and treat them to a meal or a cup of tea afterwards. I don't believe he still can't remember you. Today, I met so many new friends. I will definitely not be able to remember a few of them. But if someone invites me to dinner later, I will definitely be able to remember their name. Do you believe it? If anyone doesn't believe it, come to me and give it a try.

10. Cultivate a wide range of interests and hobbies. In our spare time, we all like to get together and hold some activities. Attend more weekend parties, birthday parties, celebration parties, etc. of others. At the party, take the initiative to join everyone's activities and show your charm, and you will have the opportunity to make many good friends. If you are just a spectator or a fan, you won't gain much.

Plan

Everyone must have heard the saying: The day’s plan begins in the morning! Today, I want to tell you: a day's plan lies in yesterday. Today's focus is on implementing yesterday's plans and preparing for tomorrow. Before going to bed every night, you should always give yourself a short period of time to make plans for tomorrow's trip. The day's plan lies in yesterday. If you want to be invincible, you must be fully prepared, and this kind of complete preparation is to make your plan or plan. Success always gives opportunities to those who are ready.

Love

It is a pity not to be with the one you love, and it is a pity not to have the one you love. Ambiguity is a place of exile for love. We hate ambiguity, but we can't live without ambiguity. It's like a piece of sugar-coated poison, in our hearts it's too scary to chew and it's a pity to throw it away. Many times, we like ambiguity even more than the person we are ambiguous with - some people say that this is the essence of love. For those who have broken up, we are still accustomed to the saying: After breaking up, we cannot be friends because we have hurt each other; we cannot be enemies because we have truly loved each other.

I look forward to your opinions and your subversive rationality...

In addition, you can search for "Personality and Career Test" (MBTI) on Baidu and I will give it a try. It will show your personality and suitable career. I hope it will be of some help to you! O(∩_∩)O~