There is one more line in the WeChat contact list, and there is one more drinker at the dinner table, which just means that you have one more opportunity to establish contact, but it does not mean that you have established a stable relationship with each other, so it is not an "effective contact".

Wechat met someone else, or we met some people while eating, perhaps out of courtesy or temporary enthusiasm, you added someone else. Since then, I haven't said hello, talked about any problems or even praised my friends. Do you think this person can be your connection?

I call these unrelated contacts your zombie contacts. Even if you have thousands of connections, these connections can't be your real connections at all. They exist in this virtual network in the form of names and avatars, that's all. Adding people like this is a waste of each other's time, which is very bad and completely ineffective.

It takes a long time to establish effective contact. First of all, you have to have the contact information of the other party before you have the opportunity to follow up. Then, you should take the initiative to contact the other party, and the other party is willing to give you the opportunity and take the time to respond to you. Furthermore, you should let the other person appreciate you and recognize your value through long-term conversation, contact and communication. Only in this way can an effective network be established.

There is nothing wrong with making friends. But if you are not good at socializing, don't force yourself. Because effective contact requires circle similarity, intellectual equivalence and cognitive synchronization. If not, then we will sink first. Put the time and energy you spend on networking into improving your self-ability and cultivating your own characteristics.