Xiaoqian is a new friend I met recently. After getting to know her, I found that she is a cheerful, playful and laughing little girl who is especially considerate of others. As I got to know her better, I was surprised to find that at the age of 24, she was a divorced mother of a 2-year-old baby.

On an atmospheric night, Xiaoqian told us her story over wine.

Xiaoqian is 167cm tall, with a pretty good figure and good looks. She has a carefree personality and likes to go to bars and have fun with her friends. On Xiaoqian's 20th birthday, her best friend took Xiaoqian to a friend's newly opened small bar to celebrate her birthday. There was a handsome young owner, Xiao Chen. At the invitation of his best friend, Xiao Chen also attended Xiao Qian's birthday party. As a boss, Xiao Chen generously presented two large boxes of beer.

At this birthday party, Xiaoqian and Xiaochen added each other on WeChat. When nothing happened, Xiaochen always invited Xiaoqian to come to the bar to chat and drink. Slowly, the two of them got together. After a long time of love, a relationship is established.

Xiaoqian’s parents have been doing business abroad for a long time. Because an employee suddenly resigned and there was a shortage of manpower, Xiaoqian’s parents asked Xiaoqian, who was unemployed at home, to help. As a result, the two people who had not yet passed the period of passionate love were forced to have a long-distance relationship.

Xiaoqian, who was not confident in long-distance relationships, broke up with Xiao Chen, firstly because of the nature of Xiaochen’s work, and secondly because she didn’t know how long she would stay abroad. But Xiao Chen disagreed, "Distance is nothing. Long-distance relationships are a bit painful, but because that person is you, I am willing."

At first, both of us were not used to long-distance relationships. You can meet if you want to, but now you can only type cold words on your mobile phone. Several times, Xiaoqian hid in the quilt and cried secretly because she missed her. Because of the time difference between the two places, Xiao Chen had to sacrifice his sleep time in order to chat with Xiao Qian for a while, and the dark circles under his eyes became a lot bigger.

While sorting goods in a factory, Xiaoqian's mobile phone accidentally slipped from her trouser pocket and fell into a running machine, causing a series of assembly lines to malfunction. In order to rescue this accident, everyone was very busy and worked overtime for a whole week and finally delivered the goods on time. Xiaoqian, who was deeply sorry, had the opportunity to let her parents buy a new mobile phone.

Xiao Chen on the other end couldn't sit still on the third day after Xiao Qian lost contact. Did she have an accident? Or is it that she doesn’t want me anymore? The anxious Xiao Chen abandoned his business here and bought a ticket to go abroad. But because he didn't have Xiaoqian's exact address, he could only stay in a hotel near the airport and wait for news about Xiaoqian.

As soon as Xiaoqian opened the chat box, she received hundreds of messages from Xiaochen. The accident happened so suddenly that Xiaoqian disappeared for a whole week before she could tell Xiaochen. "I'll wait for you at XX Hotel." Looking at this latest message, Xiaoqian rolled over happily on the bed, quickly packed up and headed off.

The two people hugged each other tightly as soon as they met. Xiao Chen's eyes were red, "Fortunately, you're okay. I thought you didn't want me anymore." After this accident, the relationship between the two people heated up. Quite a few. It was during this meeting that Xiaoqian became pregnant unexpectedly.

Xiaoqian told Xiao Chen about her pregnancy. Xiao Chen was shocked and happy, "I respect your opinion, but no matter what, I will marry you."

Xiaoqian told her parents that she was pregnant and planned to go home to marry Xiaochen, but her parents immediately expressed strong opposition. But Xiaoqian, who was so obsessed with love at the time, couldn't listen to it. She bought a plane ticket and planned to live in the man's house.

Xiaoqian heard Xiao Chen say that her family's conditions were relatively average, but when she saw the concrete house in front of her, she was stunned and retreated. But then she thought again, Xiao Chen now has his own career, and it will definitely be no problem to buy a house when the time comes to get married, so the naive Xiao Qian and Xiao Chen obtained the certificate and waited at home to give birth.

Since Xiaoqian’s parents did not agree and the husband’s family had no money, the two of them did not even have a simple wedding ceremony. They only had a simple dinner with the husband’s relatives, but Xiaoqian still felt that she was very Happiness is because you are married to love.

Finally, Xiaoqian’s child was born. Because her mother-in-law’s family didn’t have much money, Xiaoqian couldn’t live in a single ward. The four-person ward made Xiaoqian unable to rest at all, so she had to go home early. . The mother-in-law, who was taking care of her confinement at home, did not prepare any decent supplements. She even had to go out to help with work during the day in order to supplement the family income. Poor Xiaoqian had to be busy taking care of herself and her baby during her confinement period. Xiaoqian's parents had anticipated today's situation, but they still couldn't bear the suffering of their daughter, so they secretly gave their daughter 20,000 yuan.

In order to give his wife and children a better life, Xiao Chen also looked for more opportunities to make money outside. Although the business of the small bar he opened was good before, the competition was fierce and affected by the epidemic. It didn't take long for him to close the door and find a job with a salary of just over 3,000 yuan to make the transition. Perhaps it was because of the sudden increase in pressure in life and the failure of starting a business. After all, both of them were eldest children in their early 20s. Xiao Chen's attitude towards Xiao Qian was not as enthusiastic as before.

On this day, after Xiaoqian packed up the child and put her to sleep, she looked at the dilapidated room and the dusty concrete floor. She felt sad. She began to miss the warm big bed and clean wooden floor at home. , and also missed her hard-spoken and soft-hearted parents very much, Xiaoqian made plans to divorce.

Because Xiaoqian’s parents were away on business all year round, and she was also preparing to go out to work, she voluntarily gave up the custody of her child. Xiao Chen knew that his family conditions were insufficient and Xiao Qian would have to leave sooner or later, so he did not try to persuade her to stay. The marriage of the two young people lasted less than a year before it came to an end. After Xiaoqian nursed the child until 6 months old, she resolutely left Xiaochen's home.

Yaomei said: It is embarrassing to experience marriage, childbirth, and divorce in your twenties. At a young age, Xiao Chen and Xiao Qian did not understand the preciousness of marriage and were unable to shoulder the burden of being parents, so they entered into it impulsively and anxiously, which resulted in bitter consequences. The poor little baby, who is a few months old, has lost his mother's love since he was a child.

I hope that friends who have read this article patiently can learn from Xiaoqian’s lesson and think twice before making any decision, and don’t let your mind wander and cause regrets in your life.