Growth is addition, but maturity is subtraction.

Author: Insight Yebo

Mo Yan once said in a speech:

A person needs very little when he is alive. If he wants too much, he will be bitten by desire, and if he thinks too much, he will be exhausted.

growth is addition, but maturity is subtraction.

The hardest thing to wake up in life is to say goodbye to complexity and return to simplicity.

1

Simplify the circle and focus on self-growth

When people are young, they always want to travel all over the world and make friends.

when you get older, you will gradually understand that two or three intimate friends are better than thousands of casual acquaintances.

In 1988, Mo Yan and Yu Hua studied in the postgraduate writer class of Beijing Normal University and shared a dormitory.

At that time, Mo Yan had just made his mark in the literary world, and he often had various entertainment and invitations.

Once Mo Yan attended a dinner party. As soon as he was seated, everyone around him gathered around, calling "Mr. Mo" and introducing himself by handing in his business card.

In order not to be rude, Mo Yan took it with a smile and forced himself to greet them, even though he had never met these people before.

After three rounds of drinking, the scene became lively, and everyone was bragging about their past experiences.

Someone asked him, "Teacher Mo, your Red Sorghum is really well written. Is there any story behind it?"

Mo Yan waved his hand and said, "There are no stories, but they are written with a stuffy head."

after hearing this, the man's face sank and his wine strength came up. He said, "Teacher Mo, don't you look down on me?"

other people are clamoring for it. Mo Yan can't stand it anymore, so he goes to the toilet and goes back to the dormitory.

after that, there was another dinner, and he didn't attend any more, so he just pushed it off.

When other students go to the party, he stays in the dormitory with Yu Hua, talking about literature and writing novels to improve his creative level.

In 212, Mo Yan won the Nobel Prize in Literature.

when the news came, the whole country was boiling, and many people came to befriend him and invited him to participate in the activity.

His cell phone kept ringing all day, and finally he couldn't stand it, so he just turned it off and hid in his study.

I usually read and write, and listen to operas and practice calligraphy in my spare time.

Occasionally, he invited a few friends to get together or go out for a trip, which made him feel relaxed and comfortable for a long time.

I have heard a saying:

People with empty hearts always like to join in the fun here, while mature people know how to streamline their social activities and improve themselves in silence.

The rest of your life is not long. Don't waste time on irrelevant people, and don't waste energy on meaningless things.

If you learn to narrow your social circle and focus more on yourself, you will live the most comfortable life.

2

Only simple material desires can enrich the spirit

There is a saying in Tao Te Ching: "Five colors make people blind, five tones make people deaf, and five flavors make people feel refreshed."

When a person lives in the world, he always has to face all kinds of desires and temptations.

if you pursue material stimulation and enjoyment too much, it will inevitably lead to the loss and sinking of your mind.

In December 21, Mo Yan told such a story in a speech:

In Indian mountain villages, monkeys often come down the mountain to harass villagers.

In order to catch monkeys, the villagers specially made a wooden cage with delicious apples in it.

when the monkeys saw it, they couldn't stand the temptation and desperately put their hands into the cage.

After grabbing the apple, I found that my hand was stuck and I couldn't get it out. The monkeys were so anxious that they wouldn't let go of their hands, and finally they were easily caught by the villagers.

in fact, people are the same. If they are caught by desire, they can only lose their freedom and be at the mercy of others.

Only by returning to simplicity and not being entangled in material desires can you realize the most authentic taste of life.

Shortly after Mo Yan won the prize, Chen cursor, the "first good in China", announced that he would give him a villa in Beijing for free, worth tens of millions.

I didn't expect that this huge wealth, which was easily available, was simply rejected by him.

As the saying goes, "The family has 22, yuan of gold, but only three meals a day, and the family has thousands of hectares of fertile land, but only seven feet of sleep at night."

only when a person is content with simple material comforts can he keep his mind clear and not be confused by foreign things.

This reminds me of a CCTV interview with Mo Yan.

I like a sentence very much:

People at a high level know how to simplify life and return to the truth.

true happiness lies not in the amount of income, but in spiritual abundance.

in the years to come, I hope you will stop doing things and try to control them.

In this noisy world, live simple and restrained, and enjoy soothing and calm.

3

Be indifferent and live in your own rhythm

There is a saying: "Only when you calm down can you see your true self."

when you are calm, you will be clear, and when you are clear, you will be clear.

Mo Yan was just 57 years old when he won the Nobel Prize in Literature. It has been 31 years since he started writing.

over the years, he has been in no hurry and devoted himself to his creation.

Although his name is unknown to ordinary readers for a long time.

but he never goes against his heart and caters to the public's preferences.

In the end, with a series of high-quality works, he won the Nobel Prize and became famous all over the world.

after winning the prize, many readers hoped to see Mo Yan's new works as soon as possible, but after several years, his works were delayed.

Many people in the outside world have secretly questioned his "Jiang Lang is exhausted" and "lost in fame and fortune".

In the face of these groundless comments, he never explained them publicly, only replied faintly:

In the following years, he continued to precipitate himself, abandoned the prosperity and impetuousness of the outside world, and closed his eyes to concentrate on his creation.

in October, 22, after eight years, he returned to the readers' field of vision with his new work "Late Rippers".

After the new book was released, it received rave reviews in just a few months, which became the most powerful response to criticism.

I think of a sentence said by Haruki Murakami:

When we were young, we always wanted to rush ahead, wishing we could not travel thousands of miles in a day, hoping to achieve something in a short time.

I realized later that haste makes waste.

the completion of any goal and the realization of dreams are the result of gradual progress.

on the road of life, there are always people who walk faster than you. But don't worry, don't panic.

As Thoreau said, "Everyone should follow his heart and live a unique life."

on the way to growth, keep your mind steady and walk the road at your feet.

as long as you work hard in the right direction, the worst result in life is just a late bloomer.

4

Life is simple, so you can live a colorful life.

I have heard the saying:

In life, many people are working hard to add to their lives, but it is difficult to feel happy.

as everyone knows, simplicity is the best state of life in a complicated world.

Mo Yan once talked about his childhood life experience.

In the summer evening, the old people in the village sit in front of their houses and tell absurd ghost stories.

At this time, Mo Yan sat by and listened quietly until it was completely dark.

He lost himself in the story, forgetting fatigue and hunger. He just felt refreshed and Shu Tai.

When he can read, Mo Yan will enrich his leisure time by reading "casual books".

At that time, a classmate had a lot of old novels at home, and he wanted to borrow them, but the other party made a condition: if he wanted to read a book, he could go to his house and pull it for ten times and read a page.

Mo Yan promised to come down at once, and went to his classmate's house to pull the mill the next day.

I sweated all morning and got a chance to read half a copy of Romance of the Gods.

In that young age when people were often hungry, listening to stories and reading books brought endless fun and light to Mo Yan's poor life.

San Mao said, "Maturity is not about complexity, but about innocence."

a person's real maturity is only to see the complex nature of life and still have full love for life.

This year, Mo Yan is 67 years old. A few months ago, he opened WeChat official account to share his life with readers.

At the end of last year, he published a "My 221 Summary".

In the video, he shared his experience in the past year:

The first ray of sunshine shining on China in the New Year was ushered in at Fuyuan Dongji Square;

Dig the ice with a thickness of up to two meters and catch a big fish in Heilongjiang;

After watching The Awakeing Age, I learned what YYDS is ...

As he grows older, his life becomes more transparent and simple, and more and more interesting.

There is a good saying: "The road is simple, but the complexity lies in people's hearts."

Looking at life with a complicated mentality is full of troubles and disappointments; Living with a minimalist mind, even ordinary years have colorful colors.

The simplest life often contains the purest happiness.

living in the world and being a minimalist person will surely have a rich and beautiful daily life amid the disturbances.

There is such a proverb:

Life is alive, and only by removing too many burdens can the meaning and value of life be fully understood.

A person's greatest sobriety is to get rid of the redundancy of life, see the inner abundance and find his true self.

Give me a compliment. In this complicated society, get rid of the rough and get the best, and live the life you want with a simple mind.