Text | Fu Yu Shuo Yu

Editor | Fu Yu Shuo Yu

"It’s been 3 years! The days are as meticulous as spring rain and nourishing every moment. In our hearts!"

"Three years of love, three years of marriage, next year... itchy."

This is the sweet interaction between Pan Yueming and Dong Jie on social media in 2011. .

At that time, the two were still regarded as "golden girls" in the eyes of others, and they had a fascinating love.

However, no one expected that in just the past year, Pan Yueming and Dong Jie would come to an end.

The agents of both parties threw dirty water at each other on social media, accusing each other of wrongdoings, and even went to court.

Even now, Pan Yueming still cannot get out of the haze of marriage and never talks about his ex-wife Dong Jie in front of others.

And Dong Jie still could not forgive Pan Yueming, and did not want to see Pan Yueming, nor did she want Pan Yueming to see his son.

Why did the originally loving couple end up where they are now?

What happened between Pan Yueming and Dong Jie?

1.

Strictly speaking, both Pan Yueming and Dong Jie studied art since childhood, but their childhood experiences were completely different.

Pan Yueming is an authentic Beijinger. Since his birth in 1974, he has been living in Dashilan, Beijing.

Since he was a child, Pan Yueming has had high hopes from his parents to learn calligraphy and painting.

Before graduating from high school, he had already obtained special admission to the Central Academy of Drama.

It can be said that Pan Yueming is a model of winning at the starting line.

In comparison, Dong Jie’s family background is worse.

Dong Jie was born in 1980, six years younger than Pan Yueming, and her parents are ordinary migrant workers in Liaoning.

Dong Jie’s childhood was very ordinary, just like most people.

Until Dong Jie was ten years old, she was specially recruited by the Soldier Song and Dance Troupe to join the army and became an art soldier.

Later he was sent to the People's Liberation Army Art College to study, and he embarked on the road of art.

But there are still differences in the "arts" of Dong Jie and Pan Yueming.

Pan Yueming is said to have profound family knowledge and the pursuit of ideals.

As for Dong Jie, she can only learn her skills and earn a living.

If development proceeds normally, Pan Yueming's development prospects will definitely be much better than Dong Jie's.

But sometimes things are so fickle.

The turning point occurred in 1995.

In 1995, Pan Yueming's cultural performance plummeted because he was acting outside, and he eventually lost his admission to the Chinese Opera.

In order to continue his dream, Pan Yueming applied for the Beijing Film Academy, but unfortunately he failed due to cultural issues.

In desperation, Pan Yueming could only choose to work as an intern while waiting for opportunities.

In the second year, Pan Yueming regrouped again, but unfortunately lost the Shanghai Theater Academy and the opportunity to study abroad.

In desperation, he could only give up his dream temporarily and instead entered Beijing Normal University to study film and television production.

Corresponding to Pan Yuemingzhi, Dong Jie in 1995 was undoubtedly lucky.

Dong Jie had just graduated this year and was recalled to the Soldier Song and Dance Ensemble. She served as the lead dancer several times and performed in front of the entire army.

It was precisely because of these experiences that Dong Jie was selected by the Spring Festival Gala director. Not only did she serve as the lead dancer in the dance program "Great Harvest", but she also participated in "Working Adventures" by two teachers, Zhao Lirong and Gong Hanlin.

Since then, Dong Jie’s acting career has completely opened up.

By 2003, Dong Jie had signed a contract with Wong Kar-Wai's company and starred in works that were well-received and sold well, such as "The Golden Family" and "The Flying Knife".

It can be said that Dong Jie at this time has accumulated quite a reputation, both in the eyes of the audience and in the industry.

On the other hand, Pan Yueming has been tepid since graduating from school.

It’s not that he has no chance. On the contrary, he has participated in many works.

From 2000 to 2004, Pan Yueming participated in 11 TV series and 9 movies.

This is already considered a high yield for a recent college graduate.

But Pan Yueming just can't make an impression.

It was not until 2005 that Pan Yueming finally received an excellent script "Red Clothes House", and the heroine of this drama was Dong Jie.

2.

Even though Dong Jie has been recognized by people in the industry, she behaves very modestly.

She always thinks that she can be appreciated not because of how good she is in acting, but because she is lucky enough to catch a lot of college students who have no roles to film in the market.

Dong Jie does not think that she must be better than others. If she wants to gain a foothold in this industry, she must work harder than others.

So every time she was filming, Dong Jie acted very seriously. She held the script wherever she went, and asked the actors on the set for advice when she encountered problems she didn’t understand, just like a fledgling student. Same.

Pan Yueming found this scene very interesting and was happy to help Dong Jie.

After going back and forth, the two gradually became familiar with each other.

At that time, the shooting techniques of many TV dramas were not as complicated as they are now, and many shots required real-life shooting.

One of the scenes required borrowing a residential house. After discussion between the crew and the head of the household, the head of the household reluctantly agreed to the crew filming in the morning.

In order to film this scene well, Pan Yue will come before dawn tomorrow to familiarize himself with the environment.

Unexpectedly, as soon as he arrived, Pan Yueming saw Dong Jie holding the script and reciting the lines.

Seeing this scene, Pan Yueming was slightly touched. He subconsciously asked: "Have you eaten?"

Dong Jie shook his head, said a simple hello and continued. Study the script.

Pan Yueming didn't say anything when he saw this, turned around and left.

When Pan Yueming appeared in front of Dong Jie again, he had two more soy milk and fried dough sticks in his hand.

"Here you go, it's still early this morning. If you don't eat now, you won't be able to hold it back for a while..."

As he said that, Pan Yueming put a piece of breakfast on the table. In front of Dong Jie, he took another portion and sat next to it to eat.

Dong Jie hesitated for a moment, but decided to put down the work at hand and eat breakfast first.

Seeing this scene, Pan Yueming couldn't help but smile.

Every day after that, Pan Yueming would come to the set early with breakfast, one for himself and one for Dong Jie.

The style is also very simple, just the ones commonly seen on the roadside, and they are not expensive.

However, it was this small gesture that silently captured Dong Jie's heart.

Before the filming of the drama "Red Clothes Place" was completed, the two had quietly come together.

Pan Yueming said in a later interview with the media: "Dong Jie is a very simple girl, and it is precisely because of this that she was deceived by me so easily..."

said When he said this, Pan Yueming's eyes were full of Dong Jie, and the sweetness between the two almost overflowed the screen.

But what Pan Yueming said is indeed true. When facing feelings, Dong Jie always behaves like a little girl.

After the filming of "Red Clothes Place", Dong Jie returned to Hong Kong, while Pan Yueming stayed in Beijing because he still had two movies to shoot.

At that time, communications were not very developed, and the two of them basically communicated through phone calls and text messages.

The phone call is okay, at least it doesn’t take up memory, but sending text messages is a bit difficult.

At that time, the concept of smart phones had not yet become popular. A mobile phone could only store more than 2,000 text messages at most. When it was full, no new messages could be received and the only way was to delete them.

Dong Jie couldn't help but feel embarrassed when she saw that her phone was full of text messages with Pan Yueming.

Delete it, because you won’t let it go; don’t delete it, because you can’t keep it anymore.

After much thought, Dong Jie bought a new mobile phone.

But soon the new phone was full, so Dong Jie had no choice but to change it.

Over time, Dong Jie also changed five or six mobile phones, which have been treasured by Dong Jie at home.

Later, Dong Jie found that this method didn’t work either.

We have too many mobile phones, and sometimes we forget to charge them when we are busy. The mobile phones cannot even be turned on due to the power loss.

This made Dong Jie realize that sooner or later, the phone will break down, and won’t these text messages become invisible again?

In order to keep these beautiful memories, Dong Jie decided to copy down all these text messages. There were tens of thousands of them, and Dong Jie recorded each of them stroke by stroke.

At this time, Dong Jie behaved like many little girls in school.

In 2006, Pan Yueming came to Hong Kong for official business.

At this time, Dong Jie is filming the movie "Dragon and Tiger Gate" with Donnie Yen and Nicholas Tse.

After receiving Pan Yueming’s call, Dong Jie immediately skipped work and rushed to meet him.

The two had breakfast together on the streets of Hong Kong and visited Disneyland together.

But neither of them thought that this scene would be photographed by the media.

Now that the news came out, Pan Yueming and Dong Jie simply stopped hiding it and directly announced their relationship in a high-profile way on social media.

Since then, Pan Yueming and Dong Jie have shown their affection in front of the media many times, and there is no need to be secretive anymore.

Until 2008, Dong Jie became pregnant before marriage, and the two held a low-key wedding in Beijing.

Perhaps it was because this wedding was not part of the plan. When the wedding was approaching, Pan Yueming still had several movies to shoot and couldn't get away from it.

There is no other way, so the preparations for the wedding fall entirely on Dong Jie.

The child in Dong Jie's belly was already five months old at that time. She was busy arranging wedding arrangements and preparing the guest list. She was so tired that she couldn't stand up straight every day.

How much she longed for Pan Yueming to be by her side, but unfortunately this was destined to become a regret.

Pan Yueming later said in an interview: "I feel sorry for her about this."

However, Dong Jie shook her head and held Pan Yueming's hand considerately.

Fortunately, the wedding was held as scheduled, and the two soon had their own son.

But at this moment, the accident happened.

3.

After Dong Jie and Pan Yueming got married, they focused on their family.

Moreover, my son Dingding was just born and needed someone to take care of him, so he didn’t take any roles for a long time.

As a result, the burden of supporting the family falls entirely on Pan Yueming.

In May 2009, while Pan Yueming was driving a jeep for filming, the vehicle suddenly had an accident. Pan Yueming and the car fell off a cliff. The situation was very dangerous for a time.

After Dong Jie learned about the incident, she flew to the hospital overnight and took care of Pan Yueming without taking any clothes off.

During this period, Dong Jie was very busy taking care of Pan Yueming on one side and her children on the other.

Even so, Dong Jie never shouted a word of grievance.

Under Dong Jie's careful care, Pan Yueming gradually improved.

Looking at his wife's haggard appearance, Pan Yueming had countless love in his heart that he wanted to express, but he couldn't express it.

At this time, Pan Yueming secretly vowed that marrying Dong Jie would make this life worth it.

Pan Yueming, who survived the disaster, became even more unscrupulous in his "show of love" to his wife Dong Jie.

On every wedding anniversary, Valentine's Day, and Dong Jie's birthday, Pan Yueming always expresses his love for his wife on social media on time.

This sweet married life also attracted the envy of netizens, and the two were once called the golden boy and jade girl.

In 2011, Pan Yueming and Dong Jie boldly interacted on social media, saying that they wanted to get through the "seven-year itch" together.

But neither of them would have imagined that this year would be their last sweet moment.

At that time, some media photographed Dong Jie scolding Pan Yueming in the street, but Pan Yueming was like a child, lowering his head and not daring to speak at all.

Some media have speculated that there may be many conflicts in the two people's lives, and there may be a marriage change.

However, the person involved did not stand up to speak, and the audience still maintained a wait-and-see attitude.

Subjectively, most people still hope that the two of them can get along harmoniously.

It’s a pity that God does not fulfill people’s wishes.

Just after the two had just celebrated their 7th wedding anniversary, less than a month had passed, Dong Jie's studio suddenly issued a long post, unilaterally announcing that it had divorced Pan Yueming.

For a time, all public opinion turned towards Dong Jie, and countless netizens criticized Pan Yueming verbally and writtenly.

Pan Yueming does not care about the abuse on the Internet. He only cares about what Dong Jie thinks.

Pan Yueming also posted a statement online, his words full of incomprehension and love for this family.

There is still a glimmer of hope in his heart, hoping that Dong Jie can return to him.

Unfortunately, Pan Yueming still could not wait for Dong Jie's reply.

In 2013, the media suddenly broke the news that Dong Jie had an affair during marriage, and even took photos of Dong Jie and Wang Dazhi passionately kissing.

Moreover, Pan Yueming's studio also confirmed that the court has just accepted Dong Jie's divorce lawsuit.

In other words, Pan Yueming and Dong Jie are still legally married at this time and have not divorced.

Sure enough, in 2014, the court found that Dong Jie Studio had committed defamation against Pan Yueming.

After two years, Pan Yueming was finally able to clear his grievances.

And this also indicates that the relationship between Pan Yueming and Dong Jie has completely come to an end and can never be restored.

4.

After the divorce, both of them fell into a trough.

Pan Yueming was unable to get out of this relationship and start a new life.

As for Dong Jie, because she has completely ruined her popularity with the audience, not many directors dare to film with her.

There is no winner in this marriage.

But for Dong Jie, the only thing worth celebrating is that the child was awarded to her.

Dong Jie, who had nothing to do, poured all her efforts into Ding Ding, almost to the point of pathological madness.

Dong Jie does not allow Dingding to cry and makes noises. She has asked Dingding to act like a man since childhood.

In daily interactions, Dong Jie does not act like a mother, but like a top-notch girlfriend.

Dong Jie would act coquettishly to Dingding when she was tired. She would kiss Dingding a hundred times a day, and would even drag Dingding to take wedding photos...

Later, some media reported this I went to Pan Yueming for confirmation, but was turned down.

Pan Yueming said: "No matter what I say at this time, it will be amplified and will cause harm to the children..."

Every year on Dingding's birthday, Pan Yueming always sends gifts on time. Blessings.

But that's all. Dong Jie will never allow Pan Yueming to visit his son Dingding.

Don’t even let Dingding have any entanglement with Pan Yueming.

At the top of my head, I realized that my only relatives were my mother, grandma, and master.

Pan Yueming, who had no hope of seeing his son, could only regain his composure and focus on his career.

Until 2017, Pan Yueming returned to the audience's field of vision with the popularity of the online drama "White Night".

Later, he gradually gained a foothold with the Ghost Blowing Lantern series.

On the other hand, Dong Jie, although she appeared frequently in public after her divorce, she also published several works.

However, both reputation and popularity are not as good as before.

It can be said that Pan Yueming's development has far surpassed Dong Jie.

Pan Yueming and Dong Jie, from the initial "golden boy and beautiful girl" to the current age and death, can't help but make people feel a little sad.

Leaving aside who was right and who was wrong about what happened back then, the harm done to both of them was real.

Even now, neither of them dare to say that they will be able to come out and start a new life.

As the saying goes, "Husband and wife are birds of the same forest." No matter what happens in life, they should face it together.

Even if the relationship is really at odds and there is no way to go on, considering the friendship between the same bedfellows in the past, they should not hurt each other.

Letting go calmly not only helps the other person, but also helps yourself.