Second, the idea of comparison should not be too heavy. If you keep comparing yourself with others, you will be "more angry than others." If we compare the treatment with laid-off workers, the income with peasant brothers, and the contribution with advanced figures, our mentality will be balanced and our grievances will naturally disappear. ?
Third, learn to forget. Don't dwell on the past, let bygones be bygones, so that you can get rid of many troubles and feel comfortable. Qiu Fazu, an academician of China Academy of Sciences, has a motto, "Be content to be a man, not content to do things, and not content to learn." This is not only his transcendental realm of life, but also a mirror to test our mentality. We might as well take a photo often to see if our mentality has been adjusted. ?
Everyone has a set of self-concept of life. Some people live happily, while others are surprisingly disappointed with life. In the final analysis, it is a matter of mentality. There will always be many sudden disasters in life, which will make people suddenly fall into a state of loss, anxiety, mania and even despair of life. It is not difficult to see that with the progress of society and fierce competition, people's various pressures have increased. If this pressure exceeds a certain load capacity, people will have extreme emotions and the consequences will be unimaginable. Personally, I think that if people can find an outlet for themselves at an appropriate stage, they will gradually eliminate such mental pressure and let you move towards a more brilliant road. ?
So how can we alleviate such negative emotions?
First: learn to be quiet, immerse yourself in your mind, and slowly reduce your desire for things. Always zero yourself. Every day is a new beginning. there is no age limit. As long as your desire for things is properly reduced, you will win more chances. A: It is natural to take a step back.
Second: learn to care for yourself. Only by caring for yourself can we have more energy to care for others. If you have enough ability, you should try your best to help those who you can. Then you will get some happiness. Helping others and being kind to yourself is also a way to relieve stress. ?
Third: When you are upset, you can drink a glass of white water, play a soothing light music, close your eyes and recall the people and things around you. You can slowly lose the idea of a new future, which is a kind of rest and a kind of calm thinking. ?
Fourth: compete with yourself more, there is no need to envy others, and there is no need to envy others. Many people always regard themselves as bystanders because they envy others. The more so, the more they will fall into the abyss. You have to believe that you can do it as long as you do it. Happy for your progress (no matter big or small, do simple things well, do simple things seriously, do serious things repeatedly, and strive to be the best)?
Fifth: extensive reading, reading is actually a process of absorbing nutrition. Modern people are faced with fierce competition and complicated interpersonal relationships. In order to prevent yourself from being embarrassed on some occasions, extensive reading is also a way to relieve stress. People are like this sometimes, and when their stomachs are empty, they naturally feel anxious. Yes, it is your thirst for knowledge that calls you. You need such nutrients to survive. ? Sixth: Under no circumstances should we look down on ourselves. Even if the whole world doesn't believe in you and looks down on you, you should believe in yourself, because I believe that if you like yourself, more people will like you. What kind of person you want to be, you will, as long as you want to work hard to achieve it! Why can't many people achieve it, that is, they just don't have perseverance?