20 1x years 65438+ 10/2 lunar November 22nd Monday 13-4 degrees moderate pollution.
When the door of the funeral parlour's cold storage was closed, there was a loud metal crash, which passed far away through the funeral parlour where the lights had dimmed and the off-duty staff were almost empty. I have to really believe it again. The old Wang Man who gave me life, accompanied me, nurtured me and taught me for more than 60 years finally left us.
My father won't go out to ride that permanent 28 bike in the morning and come back at night, as I did when I was a child. I don't go on a business trip with a briefcase like when I was young, and I will come back in a few days; Unlike people who have nothing to say to me when they reach middle age, I like my grandson; Today is different from before. Although he is weak and has to call the hospital his home, Father Wang is still the spiritual pillar of our family. However, when we stood in front of the iron gate of the cold storage and saw the door closed, I had to believe in the cruelty of God: my father would never come home again.
A minibus has only four seats: me, my brother, my wife and my sister-in-law. Master Wang's two tall and fat grandchildren had to cooperate with each other and try to squeeze themselves into the narrow space behind the van. It suddenly occurred to me that in this van, except the driver Lao Fang and two daughters-in-law, the remaining four big men are the legacy of old Wang Man, the incense brought by his father from Yixian County, Hebei Province, and the crystallization of his father's efforts and struggles, so in a sense, old Wang Man can breathe a sigh of relief and smile for nine days.
When I returned to the city from the funeral home, it was already brightly lit. The mighty traffic jams every intersection in Dongshan Development Zone, and the lights are very bright in the dark, forming a long light chain. Master Wang, like the driving force of the optical chain, brought the light source from Shi Cun, Zijingguan Market in Yixian County, Hebei Province, to Yichang, Hubei Province, and from Juma River and under the pagoda tree to the mouth of the Yangtze River and Xiling Gorge. Only in this way can we have our home, our world and a room full of children and grandchildren, but why did dad leave in such a hurry this time? Can't it wait? Less than a month later, he can drink respectful tea; In less than a year's time, our Wangs may live under one roof for four generations. Unfortunately, with the death of Wang's father, it will never happen again.
Go back to the 100-meter tower where you live now and cook with rice habitually; My son is habitually lying in bed playing computer, and my wife is habitually busy in the kitchen. When she turned on the computer and changed her personal signature to "Great Sorrow, Bon voyage to Master Wang", she realized that the actions of the whole family were mechanized, and she hardly had to think or dare to think: I can't imagine how much impact the sudden death of my father would have on our two brothers. I can't emphasize enough the reflexive departure of a supreme father.
According to folk custom, a person will go home to visit within three days after his death, so his children must wait in the mourning hall until his soul returns and sees him for the last time. In this way, relatives and friends should accompany you every night until the body is buried in the coffin. Up to now, the wake has become a gathering for relatives to mourn the dead and express their feelings of remembrance, and it is also a kind of nostalgia for the deceased relatives by the living. That is, the Shinto master said, "Today, one wakes up and the other keeps the body, just in case something happens. Both of them are filial and considerate, and do their best; Three relatives and friends expressed their condolences and thanks; Four people sacrificed food and provided dinner for their dead relatives; Clean up the mourning hall and put on new flowers and fruits; The six are concerned about the death of their loved ones and whether they will be resurrected. "
Master Wang's home is in the compound of the municipal government. Usually, "no one else can enter", so there will be no accidents. Of course, I hope the old people can wake up even in the early hours of the morning, wash their faces with cold water, put on a pair of sports shoes and start running in the government compound, just like they did after retirement. However, my father's death certificate was issued by the emergency department of a hospital. At that time, we all knew that as long as the ventilator was unplugged, Master Wang lying in the ICU intensive care unit would never live again. Moreover, I not only witnessed my father's last moment, but also saw how his father became silent. I also saw people in the White House dress their father in a shroud. Therefore, the wake is just a little memory of my father Wang.
The idea of giving my father Wang Shouling was actually decided when my mother died. My brother and my sister-in-law arranged my mother's funeral, and I also hoped to "keep it simple" under the instructions of the old man, so I didn't set up a mourning hall at home or arrange a wake for my family. On the third night, two daughters-in-law and two female chaperones stayed at home for one night, and the funeral seemed deserted and silent. Although it is explained by "keeping the funeral simple", it is still criticized by many parties, so
In the evening, my wife and I walked into the gate of the municipal government again, crossed the familiar compound and took to the secretary building of old Wang Man. As soon as I opened the door, he seemed to be sitting at the desk in the bedroom reading a newspaper, wearing a blue coat and a pair of yellow pants. When I heard the iron gate ringing, I turned around and said nothing, and went on doing his own thing at my desk. My mother is always the opposite. Whenever she hears the iron gate ring, she will come and have a look. She will not only talk to me about her parents' shortcomings, but also do housework with her eldest daughter-in-law. Who would believe that she was once the leader of the largest women's organization in this city?
No one has lived in this house since my mother died. Even if I come here from time to time to water Master Wang's flowers and plants, I have never taken care of them, and there is a lot of dust. We have to do a lot of cleaning work, and the phone calls are one after another. My good friend Dongming noticed the sudden update of my personality signature and knew that the situation had changed. He called everywhere to ask about the situation. When I received his phone call, it was another slap in the face: "Do you want to be the same as last time and not take our beloved relatives and friends seriously?" One is untenable, the other is inarticulate. In the face of criticism, I can only be speechless.
Shu Ren, who had just returned from Yunnan, only asked, "Do you want me to come over now?" After a while, I waited for them at the gate of the city government. Although it was a long time, we sat together and went straight to the point without saying a few words. We had a long and detailed discussion on the scale and form of funeral service and the influence of this sudden change on our son's wedding date. He was particularly dissatisfied with the handling of the funeral of our two brothers after the death of their last mother. I have a glib tongue, and I am no match at all. If people are right, I have to do it. Finally, the knowledge is: my eldest son is responsible for the funeral of his father Wang this time; There is a mourning hall at home, and he will buy a Huang Ju flower basket in the mourning hall; It is suggested that Master Wang's farewell ceremony be presided over by the Municipal People's Congress. Of course, it is a matter of face.
They didn't leave until after twelve. It was already deep when they saw the couple walk out of the gate. Today, our bodies are still running around, but dad's soul has been rippling in the night sky.
Today is the first day of New Year's Day, and it is not suitable for joint events.