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To my parents at home and us on the road.

Everything you dare not say to your parents is in this book.

About love, about reconciliation, about parting. A book of life introspection that has cured two generations.

It tells about the deep feelings, collisions, doubts and regrets of life that cannot be stitched up between two generations. Warm and emotional, tears in laughter, but also moved and cured.

In the exploration of themes such as "parting", "getting old", "reconciliation" and "gift", it shows a generation of young people's thinking about the relationship between the two generations and the meaning of life.

Through one touching story after another, we finally understand how to truly understand and respect our parents and help them grow old with dignity in spirit.

Understanding and forgiving each other in love is not only a complete self, but also a complete other.

. . Author's brief introduction. .

Bi xiaonan

Young scholars, talk show hosts and writers

Postdoctoral fellow of Beijing Normal University, Ph.D. of Communication University of China, visiting scholar of Taiwan Province Political University.

Interviews and dialogues with Kissinger, Blair, Wu Jinglian, Chu, Cao and others.

Publishing works: living the best life

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I always feel that I am an indifferent person and accept everything to leave. But when you see some stories, you will unconsciously substitute yourself, and then you will be sad and sad. So accepting to leave is not necessarily indifference.

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I like that sentence very much: "please live for yourself and make us wonderful." This is the best gift for our parents and children. "Parents and children are independent individuals and have their own lives. They don't need to be bound by family ties or obligations. When the children are older, they should also have their own sky to soar. What parents have to do is to wave goodbye bravely, watch them leave and bless them from the heart.

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Everyone will experience parting, aging and reconciliation. Finally, when people leave the building, they will realize that family is the best gift in life. All people who say that they are suffering from family background are eager for family affection in the final analysis.

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Farewell, independence, growth, waiting. Life is lonely, and the people in the book are not happy, but they have reconciled with themselves.

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No matter how bad fate is, life is still worth living.

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Reading is an immersive enjoyment, and the plot and feelings in the book often fluctuate with the author's mood. I am honored to come to the ancient city of Kashgar, because my sister Xiao Ai and I became attached to each other because of a round fan painted by my husband. Ordinary acquaintance, but there is a warm touch. When Xiao Ai's sister said that she would send me a book, she was full of expectations. What stories will I meet soon? After breakfast on Wednesday, I began to read quietly, because this is the first time I have received a book signed by the author. I am too excited to describe. It took me nearly four hours to finish reading Xiao Nan's Before You Leave, and I suddenly felt what it was like in my throat, because my heart was too heavy. The story in the book is warm and moving, and tears have burst down her face inadvertently. At the same time, I think more about my parents. Those warm words, in Xiao Nan's delicate pen, have become warm and healed. I am full of joy and envy. My uncles and aunts are really nice. Their great love and tolerance have made Mr. Bi so warm and caring since childhood. Of course, there are also various contradictions or omissions between parents, and then reconciliation with parents. It seems that a simple process also takes a long time and perseverance. It seems that everyone is making progress in this process, so as to improve themselves and reach the moment of reconciliation with themselves. In the story, we can't regard all the vivid characters we meet and all the things that happen as destiny takes a hand, but he is like the reincarnation of the person who gave us life. When he was a child, he went home to take care of his elderly and sick parents. As a parent, I try my best to save my children ... at this moment, as a child, and at present, as a mother of a two-and-a-half-year-old child, what role am I playing? For children, yes, giving selfless love is the instinct of human beings to feed their offspring. So, what about parents? When I saw this topic, my heart was sour, because just thinking about losing them would make me feel that my spiritual world was completely collapsed. But in the end, as Mr. Bi wrote at the end of the book, there are some roads that we should learn to move forward by ourselves and say goodbye to. Love is heavy. Compared with my love for my parents, I have many regrets. A father who should be tall and brave plays more roles in his heart. Without education, he never beat up my mother, my sister and me rudely, so it is a bit difficult for him to escape the oppression of reality and win sympathy. Mother, a very kind woman, takes care of this family with great love, making this family full of laughter and more hope. For us, for a complete family, she is wronged but strong. For maternal love, I always feel indebted on the road of growing up. Reading this book, in my heart, I am reconciling with myself, forgiving by reconciliation, and fearing those who give us life. I stood beside my mother and told myself to forgive my father. Because people always have to learn to remember the beautiful moments that happened in life, it is easier not to let themselves have regrets before their parents leave us. I often look at my father's white hair and his bent back. I understand that their time is drifting away, and some memories can't be opened again, otherwise tears will blur my eyes and make my cognition more biased. Perhaps, they treated us in a way that they thought was love, but little did they know that it was a kind of harm to us. Bad love, wrong love, will stop at some stage in life. After all, it is also the first time to be a parent. Thanks, the warm stories in the book gradually dispelled the inner haze. Thank you, meeting in the distance, let us always meet the unknown and better ourselves on the road. Thank you, Mr. Bi. Thank you, Miss Ai.

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As a child, I always feel that parents should know everything. But slowly I realized that just as we stumbled when we were young and didn't know how to face growth, our parents actually didn't know how to grow old with dignity.

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I used to think that most parents in the world are the same, affectionate and human nature. As I grew older, I realized that it was only because I was lucky. In this world, parents are worried and children are complaining.

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