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In life, we often hear many vivid examples of parents who persist in implementing targeted education until the education is successful. After returning home, they also want to learn from other people’s good education. method, but it is still difficult to truly persevere.
If you originally thought that your child was very smart, but when he got to school, the teacher said that he was just a middle-class student and made small mistakes that violated disciplines from time to time. At this time, your good Will your mood be affected?
If your child cannot reach the score line you set - 95 or above, and you bring back 85-point test papers from time to time for you to sign, will your enthusiasm for cultivating your child be dampened?
If your child likes minor subjects but is not very interested in the main subject, will your enthusiasm for educating your child cool down?
What’s the key? The key is that we parents must establish the goal of our children's growth.
The high-level goal is to train our children to become people who contribute to society.
Intermediate goal: to cultivate children into a comprehensively developed person.
Primary goal: Cultivate children into people who make progress every semester, and allow children to advance in waves.
Parents must first start by achieving primary goals, because the vast ocean is formed by drops of water. If you ignore the realization of primary goals, you will reach the intermediate goals all at once. If you want to eat a big fat man in one bite, this will naturally be difficult to achieve.
In fact, if the primary goals are achieved many times, do you still worry about not being able to pass the college entrance examination?
Intermediate goals are the higher goals for raising children. Some parents think they have a smart child, so they are complacent and do not want to make progress, which is short-sighted. Knowledge is valuable only when it is applied to society. Besides, there is no limit to learning, and there is always a bright future. Children should be allowed to understand the principle of "don't take things for granted, as young people's heads will grow grey" and strive to climb to the peak of science. If education is relaxed easily, it will cause harm to children and be detrimental to their future. Setting goals in this way can help parents not be arrogant when they succeed and not discouraged when they fail. If they only focus on one goal, they will do irrational things when the situation changes.
In summary, we parents must consciously cultivate a spirit of perseverance, always have expectations for our children, and never be disappointed. When you find that one method is not suitable, you quickly change another method. "A good teacher uses 100 methods for one child, and a bad teacher only uses one method for 100 children." We should truly live and teach until we are old and succeed.
There is a very touching story. Sixty years ago, in a hospital in the United States, Lester was abandoned by his parents when he was only six months old because he suffered from cerebral palsy and was blind. Many people suggested sending this child who cannot cry or suck to a nursery. At this time, a kind-hearted head nurse adopted him and educated him. He kept talking to the child and massaging his body, hoping to restore his consciousness. Later, the head nurse used a radio and tape recorder to let him listen to music, and even bought a piano for him. She played the piano for him every day and taught him how to play the piano step by step. After more than ten years of unremitting education, one day a miracle finally happened. Lester suddenly played Tchaikovsky's Piano Concerto No. 1. He played it so skillfully and beautifully that the nurses shed tears with excitement. cried.
Since then, his performance level has continued to improve, and he has also learned to imitate various types of singers to sing loudly. People have invited him to hold concerts, and TV stations, universities, middle schools and primary schools have also invited him to perform. His music and singing often won applause and cheers. Lester's miracle has also puzzled some medical scientists. A demented child with a brain disease can actually have extraordinary talents in a certain area. In fact, it is not difficult to see from Lester's growth process that the sudden burst of his musical talent was actually the natural result of the long-term education of the head nurse. The head nurse's ability to raise someone else's child with such care and tenacity is truly an example for us as parents to learn from.
Persistent education in the family can enable children to achieve amazing results. It often happens in life that some parents are illiterate or have a low level of education, but their children are still very good. What is the reason? The Education Research Center of the Central Institute of Educational Sciences, with reference to the International Association for Educational Evaluation’s pre-school education service projects and my country’s national conditions, conducted a sample survey and interviews with 12,800 children aged 4-5 and 6 years old in urban and rural areas across the country, and statistically concluded that families have a negative impact on children. The impact of personality development is 70%, and that of early childhood education institutions is about 10%. It can be seen that the environment created in family education plays a decisive role in children's growth.
On July 28, 1997, An Jinpeng, a senior student from Tianjin No. 1 Middle School, won the gold medal in the 38th International Olympiad Mathematics Competition in Argentina.
When the news was broadcast by China National Radio and China Central Television, many parents and knowledgeable people in the education field showed extremely strong interest and concern in An Jinpeng's path to success. People want to learn more about the laws of healthy growth of children through An Jinpeng's growth path. What's the reason? It turns out that An Jinpeng was born in a rural area. He was not living in an intellectual family as people imagined. He had an elegant environment, superior learning conditions, better economic conditions, and guidance from famous teachers. An Jinpeng is the son of an out-and-out farmer. He lives in Dayoudai Village, Wuqing County, Tianjin. Both his parents are farmers who make a living by farming and do not have much education. However, in such a family with nothing to grow, he An Jinpeng trained into a world mathematics wizard. From An Jinpeng's growth trajectory, people know that An Jinpeng has the best mother in the world, her name is Li Yanxia. She holds up the sun of her son's ideals in life with her extraordinary firm belief and tenacious perseverance.
Li Yanxia’s biggest wish is to train her children to read, and she will not change her original intention no matter how difficult life is. My parents-in-law are sick all year round, which makes my already tight life even more difficult to make ends meet. It becomes more and more difficult day by day, and I have racked up a lot of debt. Li Yanxia believes that no matter how poor her family is, she cannot delay her children's studies. With no money at home, An Jinpeng found it difficult to buy pencils to write on. He could only pick up pencil ends thrown away by others and tie them with thin threads to small branches to write. In such a learning environment, An Jinpeng was surprisingly smart and very sensible. He has an extremely strong interest in learning and has extraordinary understanding and analytical skills. No matter what kind of exam he encounters in school, he always comes first and always gets full marks in mathematics. He has a very strong self-study ability. He learned fractions and decimals when he was a child, he completed mathematics and physics in junior high school in elementary school, and he completed mathematics, physics and chemistry in high school in junior high school. Whenever An Jinpeng showed his excellent report card to his mother, her mother said: A happy smile would appear on his tired face. Therefore, with the encouragement of his mother, An Jinpeng became more energetic and happier as he studied. Because of his outstanding intelligence, he was admitted to Tianjin No. 1 Middle School in June 1994.
After hearing the good news, Li Yanxia was not filled with joy, but with sadness on her face. The family is so poor, what can they do for their children to go to the famous Tianjin No. 1 Middle School? My parents discussed it for a long time, and my mother said, "There is a donkey at home, let's sell it!" After thinking deeply, my father said, "No, that donkey is a good helper in our lives. It is indispensable for transporting crops and selling food. Besides, how many people sell donkeys?" What's the use of a hundred yuan?" This seems reasonable. The mother said categorically: "We can't let poverty delay the future of our children. Even if I sell the donkey, I will be willing to carry it on my shoulders or pull it in a cart." . In this way, the family's only donkey was exchanged for 600 yuan, and An Jinpeng was able to start a new academic career. As the saying goes: There are unpredictable circumstances. Soon his father became seriously ill again, and the family lacked a strong labor force. There was no other way, so mother Li Yanxia had to shoulder all the heavy burdens of life on her shoulders. On the one hand, she borrowed money from various sources to raise money to treat her husband, and on the other hand, she also farmed. When the harvest season came, she had neither a donkey to help her nor money to hire workers, so she had to cut the wheat by herself and thresh it on stones. , I was so tired that I couldn’t stand anymore, so I knelt down to do it until my knees were bleeding. When An Jinpeng came home, he learned that his mother had completed the harvesting and threshing in a primitive and tragic way. He was in great pain and cried in front of his mother and said, "Mom, let me come back. I can't read anymore." ..." The family is short of helpers, but no matter what, we must not let our children drop out of school. With tears in her eyes, the mother looked at this smart and sensible child, and a happy smile appeared on her wrinkled face.
Li Yanxia also pays attention to cultivating children's non-intellectual factors. She often says to her son: "My son, she doesn't have much education. But my mother remembers Gorky's words that the teacher read: Poverty is the best education in a school." You have to remember that you are full of poetry and literature." Encouraged by his mother's education, An Jinpeng has been ambitious since he was a child and has never felt inferior because of his extremely poor family. He is the only student in Tianjin No. 1 Middle School who cannot even afford vegetarian food in the cafeteria, the only student who does not use draft paper, and the only student who has never used soap. He always regards his mother as an example in his heart. There is no glory in fighting.
When An Jinpeng encountered difficulties in his studies, Li Yanxia often educated and provided guidance to his son. An Jinpeng's English performance was not very satisfactory because he stuttered and was educated in a rural middle school. When An Jinpeng told his mother about his difficulties, her mother smiled and said: "Mom only knows that you are the child who can endure hardship the most. Mom doesn't like to hear you talk about difficulties, because it is not difficult for you to endure hardships." An Jinpeng remembered his mother. If you want to speak English, you would pick up a pebble on the road and hold it in your mouth while reading and reciting the English text. Sometimes the pebble and your tongue would rub together, and blood would flow down the corner of your mouth. After half a year of hard work, An Jinpeng's English scores skyrocketed and he ranked among the best in the class. Li Yanxia's education helped her son miraculously overcome the English learning barrier.
Although Li Yanxia is only 48 years old, her temples are gray. Her perseverance in overcoming numerous difficulties makes people cry.
She is just an ordinary peasant woman, but the principles of life she teaches her children can inspire them throughout their lives. Although she does not have much education, she has unique insights into cultivating and educating children. She is a great educator and also We are role models as parents.
In current family education, parents pay too much attention to knowledge education, ignore the development of observation, imagination, and thinking skills, and one-sided emphasis on memory development, which will cause imbalance in the balance of intellectual structure. The famous Nobel Prize winner Pearl Buck once said: "The purpose of education is not the accumulation of knowledge, but the enlightenment of mental abilities." Parents should pay attention to enlightening, assisting and supporting their children so that they can have more knowledge. opportunities for independent thinking and judgment. Xu Wenchang, a writer of the Ming Dynasty, was extremely smart and clever since he was a child, but his parents also paid attention to playing games with their children. One day, his father led several children of similar age in the village to a short bamboo bridge, took two wooden buckets and filled them with water, and said, "Children, who of you can carry these two buckets of water across the river?" Going? Whoever succeeds, I will give him a package of gifts." The children looked at the bridge. It was short and small, and the two buckets of water were so heavy. No one dared to do it. Xu Wenchang said: "I can do it." He tied a rope to the bucket at both ends. He held the rope in his hand, and the bucket moved forward with him in the water, and reached the other side of the river lightly and skillfully. The children all clapped and praised when they saw it. Xu Wenchang reached out and asked his father for a gift. His father shook his head and smiled and said, "The gift is on a bamboo pole, but you are not allowed to climb high or place the bamboo pole horizontally. If you can get it, it will be yours." Xu Wenchang used his brains, took the bamboo pole to a well, lowered it vertically from the well mouth, and got the gift happily. The ancients could pay such attention to games, but our parents should pay more attention to discovering this kind of game that not only increases intelligence but also increases intelligence. Games that increase family bonding allow children to grow up healthily in a relaxed and happy way.
There is a very interesting experiment. When people grasp sand with their hands, the tighter they squeeze, the more sand will leak out. . In arranging children’s after-school time, if you are too tight and control too much, and use an adult model to restrict the children, the children will lose their unique children’s perspective to perceive the possibilities of society. The result is often the premature decline of curiosity, the loss of personality, and the lack of imagination. Even prodigies will become mediocre. , you will be able to succeed.