People who are too honest and too soft-hearted often end in misery. My views on this issue.
It is not unreasonable to say that "people are good at being bullied and horses are good at being ridden". If a person is too honest and too soft-hearted, he will easily be led by the nose, and he will often be asked to do many things that he doesn't want to do, which will make him unhappy and even sacrifice something of himself.
I remember my colleague said that she wanted to be as hard-hearted as another colleague and not take on things that didn't belong to her. After the commitment, she got nothing but made herself more unhappy! Sometimes you have to take responsibility for things that don't belong to you.
But every time something comes to her, she will promise and carry it out.
It's not that people who are too honest and soft-hearted will end up miserable. Many of them are kind and disappointed. I don't mean to be honest and kind in the future, but I hope to have a degree. Honesty and kindness is a virtue, but it is easy to be used.
May your kindness be restrained.
If people are too honest and too soft-hearted, will the outcome be miserable?
I don't quite agree with this sentence, although there are many such people in real life.
The human heart is insufficient, and the snake devours the elephant. Some people never know how to be satisfied. If you help him, he takes it for granted. I'll blame you when I don't help. Therefore, people are used to it.
Being honest and soft-hearted shows that this person is kind but not stupid. There is no need to accommodate again and again, just refuse directly, and don't take my kindness for granted.
I once saw a news on the Internet that two colleagues, one driving to and from work every day, and the other wanted a ride. After sitting for a long time, my colleague who was driving got up late and asked another colleague to buy me breakfast for me to eat when I picked him up. Another colleague agreed. Later, the colleague who bought breakfast by car asked the colleague who drove on WeChat for this month's refueling ticket, saying that his wife could reimburse him. Speaking of this, the colleague who was driving was a little unhappy, but he didn't say anything. Finally, the one in the car added that when he refueled my plane ticket, he also gave me the money he bought for breakfast last time. Therefore, the driver stopped picking him up and directly refused all his requests so as not to offend honest people.
They are kind to others, not stupid, just treat you as a friend, but if you push your luck and have no bottom line, we can still say goodbye.
Love seven points, leave three points; Too good for people, leaving troubles. Don't be used to it, both ungrateful people and kind people have a bottom line.
I have been engaged in 10 years. According to my personal experience, honesty and softness should be analyzed separately.
People are too honest, see who you are to.
Personally, I think we should be honest when dealing with colleagues or friends who have good relationships.
2. Be flexible and not too honest with the leader, otherwise the leader will think you are too rigid and don't come to work.
Being too soft-hearted is also from two aspects.
1. Treat family members, such as wives, children should be soft-hearted, coax, and can't treat them crustily.
2. If you are a manager and are too soft-hearted, the following employees will think that you can't be the boss, bully the weak, have no leadership ability and will not obey you. Treat employees both hard and soft. I have been a manager for several years, and it is taboo for managers to treat employees too soft, which must be changed.
Finally, to sum up, people are too honest and too soft-hearted. Personally, I think the ending is not so bad.
I am a very honest person myself. I have never cheated anyone since I was a child, and even regarded my friends who worked together as my own brothers to help workers with difficult families. Because I am honest, many people will like me wherever I go. But when I got there, I also met those little people who calculated and used it. It is said that people are good at being bullied and horses are good at being ridden. I think the problem is that we don't pay attention to family and social moral education. Many people's minds are still locked in ancient times and their minds have not been liberated. My family is the same. If I started a business when I was young, they would support me. Today, my life will not be like this.
I'm honest, but I'm not soft-hearted, but my eldest brother always says I can't do great things. I'm asking my father for money to start a business, but my eldest brother always stops me. He always says that he is smart and capable, but he can't do anything, saying that I am kind and honest. I don't know why my eldest brother looks at me like this, and I don't know whether the human world can only have wealth status if it is smart and knows how to disguise itself. Now that I have entered old age, I have lost too many precious things in my life, and now I can't get them back no matter what I do; But I want to say that people who are too honest are the people that human society needs most in terms of civilization.
Honesty does not mean incompetence, as long as you have goals and ideals.
Kindness does not mean weakness, as long as you have the ability to protect yourself.
Too many people worship hypocrites, which will cause a vicious circle to mankind.
Yes, this is an unchangeable fact. Because human nature is destined to be like this, it can't be changed, and it can't be changed. I suffered a loss once, but I thought about changing it after the last one, but I didn't know there was another one waiting for you. After a long time, I forgot the pain, so I said that every time I was very painful and annoyed, I would understand that the world was not as simple as I thought.
Only bees talk about their opinions.
"People, too honest and too soft-hearted, often end up miserable" is not entirely correct.
In my friend's old mahogany furniture factory, there was a painter who was very skilled and honest.
How honest is it? My friend gave him all the keys to the workshop, office and warehouse. He goes to the factory first and leaves last every day. Seldom take time off.
Never be lazy at work. When the hourly wage is paid, people who work together either spend half an hour in the toilet or go to the rest area to smoke and run four or five times a day. He is the only one who insists on doing it. One person is worth two. When it comes to piece-rate wages, his goods are always finer and finer than others.
Whether it is the boss or a colleague, as long as he is asked to help, as long as he can do it, he never refuses. Sometimes, his fellow villagers who work in other factories will ask him for advice when they encounter technical problems. After work, he will personally demonstrate and guide. When a fellow villager who is in a hurry to catch the goods asks him for help, he will also take time to help.
He has worked in this industry for more than 20 years, and is recognized as an honest man with good skills and good people in the circle. Later, my friend switched to other industries, and many bosses paid high salaries to rob him. Now I am a painter in a medium-sized mahogany furniture factory.
Reality shows that in today's society, people who do things in a down-to-earth manner and be frank and honest may sometimes suffer a little loss and finally get the reputation and wealth he deserves.
However, the premise is that he must follow the people who appreciate him and do the right thing together!
If people are too honest and too soft-hearted, the end will be miserable. I think so, too. There are two kinds of honesty. The first kind of honesty is wooden, conservative and stubborn. Such honesty is passive all his life and can only be doomed to mediocrity all his life. The second is that I say honesty because people are kind, considerate of others and afraid of hurting others. I am cautious, afraid of offending people, and I am patient everywhere. Sometimes in life, some people regard these kind and honest people as soft persimmons and always like to push their luck. No matter in pronunciation, they are sharp and mean, and they like to make small noises in behavior, which seems to be better than anywhere else. I have no self-cultivation. Honest people don't understand, but they just don't like haggling over every ounce and being careless. After all, they don't look up together and feel meaningless. In fact, excessive tolerance will only condone the recklessness of these people. These people will politely let her go three times at most, and then we must seize the right moment to teach her an unforgettable lesson and fight back with the Jedi. Don't scratch your boots, it doesn't hurt, you must hit the snake seven inches. Only in this way can we kill two birds with one stone and set an example, and others will not dare to bully us. It is our traditional virtue to be kind, simple and kind, but kindness must have a bottom line. In the face of cruel reality, we must see people and things clearly. Life is not resigned to the fate to determine the quality of life, but the character reflected in every word and deed in daily life. We can't be tactful, but we must properly safeguard our own interests. In this way, we can get the respect of others, be kind to ourselves and others, give people roses and leave incense in our hands!
How to treat "people who are too honest and too soft-hearted often end up miserable"?
Is there a saying that people who are too honest may be bullied? People are good at being bullied, while people are evil at being struck by lightning. People are kind and don't bully the sky. Be kind and flexible in your ways.
Honesty in virtue and quality. For example, honesty, filial piety, kindness and responsibility have been passed down for thousands of years because no matter how the society develops and people's ideas change, some basic virtues in human nature are indispensable. "Despicability is the epitaph of the despicable; Nobleness is the passport of the noble. " If a person lacks virtue, even if he is extremely clever, he can count on fingers. In the end, there is still no place to stand, and it may be rebellious.
So; "People, in virtue quality, to be honest. You can't cheat and pretend. But in dealing with people and things, we should pay attention to methods and ways. Be kind, honest and upright. When doing things, we should be down-to-earth, serious and realistic.
In life, "people" should be square and round, big and small, flexible and elastic.
You can't be too honest or too stupid. But it can't; "Cheating, cheating.
Nor can you be too soft-hearted; But you can't be cruel. I hope I can help you. I wish you a happy life.
Men are soft-hearted and poor all their lives, while women are soft-hearted and sent with belts. Many times, honest people will lose a lot if they can't bravely fight for themselves when it comes to their own interests.
Now, not everyone will be kind to you, and your kindness will be bullied by some people. What you need to do is to keep your kindness and let people know that you are not easy to bully!
One more thing, God will care for those who are kind-hearted. Really, if you do too much evil, you will be punished sooner or later!