How far is the distance between people. People are alienated because of some things, and there is a distance between people, including the distance between strangers, the distance between people, and the alienation from familiarity to strangeness. Let's see how far the distance between people is.

What is the distance between people? 1 The closest person, although TA stood in front of him, talking and laughing, he felt like a stranger and couldn't understand what TA said. People who have never met simply talk on the phone, but they feel like friends for many years and know each other very well.

The eldest son of the second day of junior high school was sick and asked for leave at home, and he was almost unwell. Because he is contagious, he needs to be isolated for a few days. This rare time together is not as beautiful as imagined. We are always separated by a mobile phone. I don't know how to face my son who is addicted to mobile phones all day. So, before clearing my mind, I chose silence. This silence did not bring me the peace I deserved. On the contrary, a fierce quarrel broke out today because I was too depressed.

Looking at my son standing in front of me, I suddenly feel that this person is so strange. Is this still the child I grew up with? I have never seen the feeling of breaking a five-flavor bottle in books, but I finally realized it once today. ...

Seeing that this September is about to pass, looking at my promise when I first became a volunteer in the 007 writing community, I found that there are still many comrades waiting for me to communicate one by one.

After the greeting, I asked my comrades why they haven't written articles for a long time, and replied that they didn't have time to take care of writing because of some problems at work. Perhaps, it is because my child's repeated rejection has brought me frustration. When I heard that the other party had a problem, I asked him enthusiastically if he would mind talking more about his work and see if he could help.

Therefore, in nearly 1 hour of communication, we are like old friends who have known each other for many years, one talking, the other helping with analysis and making suggestions. After the call, the comrades-in-arms said on WeChat: In this society, there is a lot of vigilance between people. I really appreciate your willingness to help me.

Actually, I want to thank my friend. In our chat, it seems that I have been helping others. In fact, since he is willing to express his confusion and accept my help, I also got "help" from his acceptance, which helped me get out of my frustration when facing my children and helped me find out the reasons for my conflict with my children bit by bit. ...

In fact, the distance between people can be very close or very far. As long as we are willing, family members can become strangers and strangers can become familiar people.

In the face of children, I have so many grievances, anger, fears and entanglements in my heart that I forget my good skills and focus only on venting my emotions, but forget that the ultimate goal of chatting with children is to solve problems.

Facing my comrades-in-arms, I always remember that I wanted to help them solve their problems, so I put down all my judgments in my mind, listened patiently and fed back the information I received, and then gave my suggestions after obtaining the consent of the other party.

In front of the children, I am arrogant because I am familiar. "I am the queen, you have to listen to me!" " "Who wants to be at the mercy of others? The child escaped and became a familiar stranger.

Facing my comrades-in-arms, I lowered my posture because I was unfamiliar. As a listener, I try my best to understand each other's words and understand each other, and the distance is getting closer.

When we are willing to listen attentively instead of judging with our brains, the distance between people naturally becomes closer.

What is the distance between people? The farthest distance between people is three views.

Some people say, "The farthest distance between people is three views." This sentence makes sense. If you don't believe me, think back, once good friends, for no reason, became more and more indifferent, and finally lost contact. In fact, if two people have different views, although they can temporarily go the same way, they will eventually go their separate ways because of their different ambitions. It is a fish, swimming to the sea; It's a bird, flying into the sky, and mountains and rivers no longer meet.

Everyone's life trajectory is different, which can't be seen when they are teenagers, because the gap is not big, and this difference is highlighted after entering the society. Different choices determine different development directions. Even if the gap is small at first, it will become a big gap over time. Therefore, if you have experienced many things, you will understand that no matter who you associate with, if you have different beliefs or different attitudes towards beliefs, you will gradually drift away.

In these years, how many friends who used to be brothers have never been in touch again; How many couples sharing a bed have fallen apart. Maybe we met late, maybe we were inseparable at first, but in the end we were strangers because of different views. There are countless roads in life for us to choose from, and we can only choose one, and that is the road of our faith. Only with the people you meet on this road can you form a true friendship, because the direction is the same.

The so-called three views are actually beliefs. If two people's three views are consistent, even if they haven't seen each other for many years, their worries will not decrease. When one party encounters difficulties, the other party will not hesitate to lend a helping hand. The Most Merciful said, "The Most Merciful is the protector of the believers. He led them from darkness to light. The' protector' of the ignorant is a demon, leading them from light to darkness. They are all prisoners in hell, and they will live there forever.

What is the distance between people? The farthest distance between people is cognition.

There are always some people who live on two planets like us.

Luo Zhenyu said in an interview that in the past, the farthest distance between people may be factors such as age, identity and status, but in modern times, there is only one farthest distance between people, and that is cognition.

My friend Xiao Jing is very unhappy recently. Xiao Jing, 28, is also an older young woman. She attended many blind date parties, big and small, but she hoped again and again and returned disappointed.

Nowadays blind date will be more like a vegetable market, selling a person's hardware conditions everywhere, such as age, height, education, RV, monthly salary and so on.

In the process of communication, they rarely ask about your hobbies, your experiences, spiritual level, cognitive level, three views and so on. They only care about the matching of external conditions.

This is just like a person with a monthly salary of 20,000 must find someone with a monthly salary of 1 10,000 or more, and a person with a bachelor's degree must find someone with a college degree or above. This is the correct match.

Different people have different cognition, so the questions are different. That's how chickens and ducks talk. My colleague Wang Na and I exchanged parenting experiences at lunch, and I found that we came from two different worlds.

I said that I often let my child do housework, which can exercise his self-care ability.

Wang Na said, I never let my children do housework. What if he grows up and falls in love with housework and becomes a cleaner?

I said that many educational experts have proved that children who do housework are smarter and have better academic performance.

Wang Na said, don't listen to those education experts, it's all a lie, maybe to get you to buy his books.

I was speechless at that time, and my cognitive level was different. It's useless to explain more.

Different people have different experiences, different perceptions and different landscapes. The person who stands the highest, the person who has the longest vision and the person who stands the lowest has only his own small world in front of him.

My mother-in-law once came to my house to help take care of the children, but because of our different cognition, there was a contradiction in a few days.

Every day, when her mother-in-law goes out for a walk, she has to hold her child in her arms to prevent her from running and jumping in the field, saying that she is afraid that her child will be tired. In a few days, the child won't want to walk by himself, and has been held by adults.

Mother-in-law likes to take her children to the supermarket and buy many snacks for them. After returning home, the children eat snacks as meals, no longer eat them, and there are cavities.

When the child was ill, her mother-in-law didn't take her to the hospital. Instead, go to the window and shout the child's name and let the child come back quickly.

I told my mother-in-law that the child couldn't adapt. Go out and let him go by himself. Don't always give him snacks. It's bad for your health.

Mother-in-law's point of view is that if you love your child, you must obey him and give him whatever he likes. It's good for your children.

As for my mother-in-law, no matter how I explain it, I show her parenting knowledge, but she never delves into it. Instead, she complained to her son, which triggered a war between husband and wife.

I read an article saying that the farthest distance between people is three views. Compared with the three views, I think cognition is the biggest gap that hinders communication between people.

The same thing, you see Yangchun Baixue, he looks at Liba people. You told him it was Chun Xue, and he said, You're talking nonsense.

My friend has worked in the Civil Affairs Bureau for many years, specializing in divorce procedures.

She said, usually, if the husband and wife divorce and quarrel, such a marriage can still be saved. The biggest fear is that the two will come quietly, and it is useless to mediate this marriage.

Jing Li's signature on WeChat is that the most terrible thing between people is the cognitive difference. When she wrote this passage, she had separated from her husband.

Li Jing and her husband Meng Wei are colleagues in an office. When they were engaged in a project, they got married a year later.

Couples who are on the rise in their careers after marriage work overtime late every day and go home without saying a few words.

Li Jing's mother-in-law is anxious to have grandchildren. In order to have a baby, the mother-in-law moved in to take care of the young couple's life. Li Jing's mother-in-law forces Li Jing to drink all kinds of Chinese medicine soup every day, and often asks about Li Jing's physiological period. This kind of behavior makes her very disgusted.

Once Li Jing went out to go to the bathroom before going to bed. Opening the door, I found my mother-in-law lying on the door listening. Li Jing was scared to death. She was disappointed in her mother-in-law. They quarreled.

Li Jing's mother-in-law hanged herself as soon as she cried, but she went to teach Li Jing a lesson without saying anything, saying that it was not easy for the old man to let her go. Meng Wei asked Li Jing to apologize, but Li Jing refused, and there was a rift between husband and wife.

Li Jing's mother-in-law began to suspect that Li Jing would not have children, and asked Li Jing to go to the hospital for examination. Under Meng Wei's carrot and stick, Li Jing went to the hospital. After examination, the doctor said that Li Jing's fallopian tube was blocked and needed surgery.

After returning home, her mother-in-law threw down her face and urged Meng Wei to divorce. All this was seen by Li Jing. Meng Wei promised Li Jing that she would never leave even if she could not have children.

Later, Li Jing had an operation, and before she recovered, her mother-in-law urged Meng Wei to have sex with her. Li Jing, fed up with her mother-in-law, finally suggested that Meng Wei should choose his mother or his wife. Finally, they divorced.

Zhang Yuneng said that people's cognitive ability is closely related to people's cognitive process and can be said to be the product of people's cognitive process.

I remember reading such a picture, reading can improve one's cognitive level. The man who reads the most stands the tallest, and the world he sees is the blue sky above the clouds.

People with average cognitive level see the rabble of this world, while people with the lowest cognitive level see a simple world.

The farthest distance between people is cognition, and the greater the gap in cognitive level, the farther the distance between people.

Everyone's cognitive level is different, and no one needs to improve their cognitive ability, but I always feel that the cognition of 2 1 century is more important than the three views. Different roads lead to no common goal, and this road is the road of cognition.