As the saying goes, a dragon gives birth to nine sons, all of whom are different. The same goes for the children. Although they are siblings from the same mother, they still have obvious differences and different personalities. My two babies are also very different in appearance and personality. Sometimes I wonder if the hospital carried them by mistake because they don’t look like they were born to the same mother.

Let’s talk about the appearance first! Dabao is a super white type, with white and rosy skin. It is so tender that you are reluctant to touch it, for fear that if you use too much force, it will leave a piece of oily skin. No matter where you take her out to play, she will be the center of attention. She is a completely beautiful baby. The baby was different. His skin was dark and rough. When he was born, his mother held him in front of me. I turned around and was shocked. He was dark, thin, and looked like a monkey. The incision hurt so much that I said yes to my mother. It's ugly! Take it away quickly, I don't want to see it anymore. Mom was angry. No matter how ugly she was, she was still born to you. As a mother like you, after saying that, she hugged the baby who couldn't put it down and said softly to the baby, "If your mom doesn't look at grandma, what a handsome baby." Later, after confinement, I discovered that besides Hei, Xiaobao was also very beautiful. His facial features were even more beautiful than Dabao. I felt guilty secretly and hoped that Xiaobao would forgive his bad mother who judged people by their appearance.

In fact, Xiaobao cannot be blamed for his dark skin. It has certain genetic factors. The other reason is that I am a lazy mother. When I was pregnant with Dabao, I was treated very differently in my hometown because it was my first child. He can reach out for clothes and open his mouth for food. As long as his parents can do it, he can eat what he wants as soon as he opens his mouth. One time I wanted to eat a kind of rice cake. My father rode a motorcycle for an hour after get off work to buy it. After buying it, I suddenly lost my appetite. When I looked up, I looked at my father, whose hair was standing on end because of the wind. He reluctantly ate it. Got a piece. Not to mention fruit, a watermelon would cost 40 to 50 yuan, which made many rural old men and women shake their heads. It is more expensive than meat. It would be great to eat some meat. What a waste! And Dabao seems to particularly like to eat fruits. After eating I don’t vomit or anything, so I eat more and my skin becomes whiter.

Liang Taboo, I don’t mind anything as long as it can fill my stomach. In this way, sometimes I want to rest even when Dabao is asleep, but I simply go hungry and am too lazy to eat. Moreover, Erbao didn't seem to like fruits. He ate an apple with his front legs and immediately vomited it three minutes later. He even vomited all the contents in his stomach after one bite. His stomach felt uncomfortable for a long time after eating other fruits. So I gave birth to a dark-skinned baby, and every time I took him out to play, people said he was so cute. Every time Xiaobao cries, Dabao shouts: "Mom, Xiaohei wakes up, Xiaohei wakes up!" I was so angry that I didn't know who taught him.

Let’s talk about character. Dabao is well-mannered and has a gentle and calm personality, like a gentle and delicate girl. Maybe it's the eldest child. We love him like a star, and he takes it for granted. He never takes the initiative to reciprocate, nor does he take the initiative to be intimate with us. He just smiles happily when we kiss him. If there is anything delicious, he always raises his little hand and stuffs it into my mouth. He is such a warm-hearted, kind-hearted and good boy. He didn't cry or make trouble in kindergarten. When I looked back at him, he secretly wiped my tears with the back of his hand. It made my heart hurt and I wanted to cry too. When I got home, I asked him if kindergarten was fun. Did the teacher criticize him? He said, Mom, I have to go to kindergarten when I grow up. Mom has to take care of her little brother. It’s too hard for her alone. I never told him this. He is such a good and heart-warming boy.

I feel very sad every time I see Dabao who is too young to be sensible. Since I gave birth to my baby, I have had to devote most of my energy to taking care of him. He has silently learned to dress and wash himself, eat and sleep by himself. I also know that he needs love and care, but I don’t have the energy to do so. I can only hug and kiss him after he falls asleep. He smiles happily.

But Xiaobao is completely different. He seems to be born to ask for love. He has been like a little bully since he was a child. He needs attention every minute, clinging to you and asking mom, do you love me? The baby loves me very much. It's yours! Yesterday when I was eating melon seeds, I picked one up and he refused to let me go. I suddenly had the idea of ??throwing it away. He is just a little wolf cub, always fighting for his parents, food, and toys with his brother. Although he is not lacking in these, he always seems to be not enough.

Sometimes Dabao would complain, I gave up my mother to you, why are you still crying for mother? Isn’t this your mother? Watching Xiaobao crying so hard, I collapsed. I cried so hard for three months in kindergarten. Every time the teacher forcefully hugged me in, the teacher was depressed, and I was even more depressed. But he cannot be soft-hearted. He must learn to control his likes and dislikes, learn to share, and learn to love and be loved.

As for Dabao, he is a sensitive and sensible child. Whenever he makes small mistakes, I am not too harsh on him. I remember when Dabao was two years old, I helped him get dressed after bathing. He excitedly threw his coat into the basin. I smiled and said, "Baby, if you throw your clothes into the water, you will have nothing to wear." He was stunned for two seconds and cried loudly, unable to be coaxed. He realizes his mistake but is unable to deal with it, so he can only vent his regret by crying. Such children cannot be treated violently, otherwise they will only become more cowardly and timid. I picked up the clothes from the basin and told him that they could be dried in the sun and that he also had other clothes. But drying clothes and looking for clothes is a waste of time, which is a bit tiring. I can't throw clothes into the water in the future. The baby said he understood and would never throw clothes away again. I also didn’t expect that my words would hurt my child. When he makes a mistake again in the future, I will think about how to let him know his mistake, and I will no longer just scare and threaten him.

Xiaobao is different. He has a stubborn and twisted temper and will not give up until he achieves his goal. When he was a little over one year old and eating dumplings, he was probably hungry, so he grabbed the dumplings in the bowl with his hands while Dabao and I were holding them. It turned out to be a little hot, but that's okay if it's Dabao, and there was no redness, swelling or broken skin. Just when I wanted to look at his hands, he threw the dumpling bowl on the ground. I was shocked. This is a child with a strong sense of self. Now every time he makes a mistake or acts up, I ignore him, and he slowly starts to cry for an hour at a time. When he calms down, I will reason with him and he will listen. Children like Xiaobao cannot be indulged, otherwise it will be even more difficult to discipline them when they grow up.

No one teaches us how to be mothers, because every child has his own innate personality and characteristics. So many times when faced with children's various problems, I feel confused and helpless, but I can't give up, because this is love and responsibility, so I cheer up and fight with them.

I often see the two brothers happily playing games together, reading comic books with their heads next to each other, and hugging each other as they fall asleep. I will be very touched and forget all the fatigue and pressure. As long as they are healthy and happy, I am not afraid of them no matter how hard or tired they are. My baby, mommy loves you so much.