Every time she cooks, her husband and children go home for dinner after work, and she never leaves. I don't think she'll leave, so let her say you go to my house to eat. She said, oh! No, I'll eat at your house. I really don't want to cook alone. In this way, she has eaten at my house every day since then, but to be honest, no one cares about her food now, but the question is who hasn't bothered for a long time?
It doesn't matter if we get used to it later. I don't think it's a big deal if you come whenever you want. It turned out that she was good at pleasing my daughter-in-law. As soon as my daughter-in-law comes home from work, she talks to her endlessly. I thought to myself, as a neighbor and aunt, is it necessary for you to do this? Because my daughter-in-law seldom talks to me, but every time she sees me, she is very affectionate, which makes me feel embarrassed and uncomfortable.
Later, because her son was going to get married after graduating from college, I asked my daughter to be her maid of honor when her son got married, because I was also very happy for her that she finally got through it. However, shortly after her son got married, she wanted to be a sofa cover because she just bought a new sofa at home. She came to my house to borrow scissors and I gave them to her. A few days later, she returned them to me. I let it go without looking at it. A few days later, a neighbor said that he bought a pair of trousers for me to change, so I went home and took scissors to cut the trousers. As a result, once I cut scissors, I couldn't cut them at all When I take a closer look, this pair of scissors is not my old scissors at all.
Later I told my husband that a pair of scissors is not much money. I don't think it's worth it Maybe she took it wrong? So I went to her house and asked her, I said, did you hear wrong? That pair of scissors is not mine? As a result, people said that the scissors were yours. There are no scissors at home. As soon as I saw her say that, I wanted to forget it. Don't let this little thing affect our harmony. Who knew I wanted to forget it? I haven't done it yet!
Then she looked at me and said over and over again, Xiaoping, look, the scissors are yours. You must be mistaken. I said, forget it. That's it. Never mention it again. As a result, she told my husband that I was unhappy now. Because I'm in charge, and you keep talking like you treat us like idiots, which makes me very uncomfortable. I said to her rudely: I told you to forget it. Why do you keep doing this? Do you think you are smart and everyone else is stupid? Is it? You don't have scissors at all. Did I steal your scissors? You said this pair of scissors is not yours. Where's mine? No matter how stupid I am, I don't even know what I have used for decades, do I? I gave you a grandson. Please make yourself at home. Do you still keep saying that you think I'm too stupid and easy to talk to? After that, I never talked to her again, because I felt bored.
I've been worried about this these days! As the saying goes, "A distant relative is better than a close neighbor". I have lived in this old saying for 20 years and lived in harmony with my neighbors upstairs and downstairs. However, recent events have added a trace of indignation and contempt to my heart! The woman next door is a few years older than me and has retired. His son and men are both quiet people. When you go in and out, you and the man call you "Li Shifu, you are off duty", and he just nods at most. It has been normal for 20 years, and the woman talks a lot. At the door, she likes to talk endlessly. Our family seldom walks around, but she always gets along well. Usually I give him a bag of vegetables, but she can't pass. Basically, we communicate at the door. I invited her in and sat down. She has been in there several times, complaining about someone. Although it was a long story, I listened patiently and comforted her. We went out to work, and no one took care of us at home. Ask her to pay attention to what is going on at home. She did a good job, too. Always say the reason when you come back, so always thank her a little and send more. Unexpectedly, when I was out the other day, a relative came to look after the house for me. As a result, the neighbor's woman talked to my relatives, and my relatives invited her into my house to talk and chat. Even my relatives didn't expect that the neighbor's woman sat on my sofa, ate my snacks, nagged me, spoke ill of me, and some even made rumors. Other relatives are speechless, I can't believe it. When I come back, can my relatives not tell me? At this time, I also have indignation, hatred and contempt, but I know this is the real villain. I am patient and don't want to make bad friends with her. There is no need to clarify anything, but I know what a bad neighbor is from now on! This kind of thing can't be hidden. From now on, we should take precautions everywhere. It's a good thing you didn't get closer to her before I guess this kind of person is a talkative woman and jealous! Inferiority!
It depends on who the other person is. My family has two typical neighbors. First of all, I am not only wonderful, but also poor in quality. Since the renovation of the house, I have been throwing cigarette butts at the door of the house, or littering in the corridor, never greeting each other, and I am unemployed. I heard that I don't want to pay that kind of property fee every year. Anyway, I am comfortable, regardless of other people's life and death types. The second one is my neighbor downstairs across the street. I just moved in for a year. We kept in close contact after I sent them dessert myself in the evening. Now that my child is in kindergarten, it is convenient for her to take my home back and solve many things for me (I am an office worker). Occasionally, I will prepare a meal for our family. Of course, we are also polite. I like this neighborhood relationship, like friends and relatives.
I also hate being sent around by my neighbors, and I am very reluctant to accept other people's kindness. No need!
Just like a colleague of mine, she is very enthusiastic. She has always been close to her neighbors.
For example, she once had a family across the street, and the children were just as old as her children, so she stepped up her walking and the two families walked like a family.
The children are together almost every day, sometimes at her house and sometimes across the hall. Sometimes as soon as she gets up, her children will knock on the opposite door. Neighbors have said that they can't stand having their children study at home. As for her, she has always been careless, just letting the children play in the past.
After school, her neighbors sent her children to another school in order to leave her.
If she wants to play across the hall again, she will be very reluctant to do so. She mumbled that the children had too much homework.
In fact, she didn't realize it until later. It turns out that people feel afraid of delaying their children's study!
Later, the children were admitted to a key high school together, and the neighbors actually took the initiative to transfer the children to another class. I just feel that the two children are together every day, playing too high. It will delay the children.
She gradually realized. People hate themselves so much.
Getting along with neighbors is also a kind of learning. A bad relationship will bring many disadvantages. Neighbors can't walk too close, too close, and have no sense of distance. If they are too realistic, it will be counterproductive. So you'd better get along well with your neighbors, but don't get too close and keep your distance.
Just now, the neighbor's old lady knocked at the door. She went out to get something at the door, and the door closed automatically, so she couldn't enter the house. She didn't bring her mobile phone, but wore slippers. Where did she go in the cold weather? So she knocked on our door. According to the clues provided by the old lady, the daughter helped her contact her son. My daughter and I talked to her. After more than an hour of hard work, her son came back.
At ordinary times, our two families have a very good relationship, with specialties of our hometown and so on. Sometimes we play together for the children, but we never stay at anyone's house to play together.
Although this matter is not big, it shows that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. This is a big deal. Why not help each other?
As the saying goes, "A distant relative is better than a close neighbor." It is a very harmonious thing for neighbors to live in harmony.
Once, I went to work. My 3-and-a-half-year-old son didn't go to kindergarten because he was unwell, and his mother took care of him at home. Suddenly received a phone call, the mother cried and said that her son was dying and hurried home.
My heart tightened and I didn't ask anything. I just told my colleagues to ride a bike. When I got home, I found the door open, the room was in a mess, the floor was full of water, the big fish tank was broken, and several koi fish were jumping around on the floor. There is no one in the room. I am sweating. Jumping out of the house, I saw the door of my neighbor's uncle's house open and shouted a few times, but no one responded.
I ran to the door of the unit like a headless fly. Who is there at this time? People who do business at work are very busy. I was worried when the phone rang. It was my mother. "Mom, where are you?"? How is my son! " "It's all right! All right! We are at the gate of the community hospital ... "
Before my mother finished, I ran to the community hospital. Seeing me coming, my mother burst into tears: "You can come. If my grandson is drowned, my old bones will not live ... "
The neighbor's uncle and aunt quickly advised her: "Oh, old sister-in-law, don't say this. Is your nephew not good? " I saw the bad boy naked and playing with the nurse.
It turns out that there is a big fish tank on my coffee table. Without the cover, my son can stand at the table and tease the fish with his little finger through the glass. That day, he had a whim. While grandma was heating milk in the kitchen, he moved a small stool and climbed onto the coffee table to catch fish. His hand slipped and fell into the fish tank.
My mother is paying attention, calling his name while warming her milk. Shouting, shouting, no answer. When I ran out, it was broken. The boy is soaking in the fish tank to drink water. Because the fish tank was too high and the little guy was heavy, my mother was so scared that she couldn't get it out and cried loudly.
Uncle neighbor, aunt is at home. When I heard the wrong sound, I came in a hurry. Uncle saw a kitchen knife on the table to cut watermelons, broke the fish tank at once, and ran to the hospital with the little guy in his arms ... In fact, the little guy just choked a few mouthfuls and fainted.
If there are no neighbors, or the relationship with neighbors is not harmonious, this matter will be in trouble. Therefore, it is a good thing for neighbors to move around normally and help each other. Don't have ulterior motives, let a neighbor turn against you, how can you live without looking up when you go out?
It is better to guard against extremes. Neighborhood harmony, mutual assistance and love, respect for the elderly and love for the young are the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, which must be carried forward. However, human nature has two sides, evil and good. The good side is outside the table, and the bad side is inside the table. When the situation changes, evil will reveal clues and must be guarded against. For example, in the early 1980s, when a rural resident applied to build a house on non-cultivated land, he first applied by himself. The village party secretary asked every household in the village to sign and seal it, and the village committee discussed and approved it, and reported it to the township for approval. The things approved by the township have always been in the hands of his son. His son was at home at that time, and a new township cadre came to check the approval procedures for building houses. The old man replied, "When my son comes back, I will show you the examination and approval procedures." Which township cadres frowned at that time, loudly accused, and even threatened that "there is no examination and approval procedure, it will be handled according to regulations and fined ...". When my son came back and sent the approval formalities stamped with the red seal to a township cadre, he said politely, "I'm sorry, I didn't understand clearly and hurt you." It can be seen that it is right for neighbors to make up and keep their distance. As the ancients said, if you harm others, you don't harm yourself, and if you prevent others, you don't prevent others.
Neighborhood relations are very important in life. If the relationship is harmonious, it means more friends and relatives. People often say: a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor!
I remember my neighbor when I just bought my first house. At that time, the child went to kindergarten and was the same age as his daughter. The two girls like to play together, so the two families get to know each other quickly. The neighbor's hostess is very diligent, and the stewed ribs are delicious. She always sends a plate to my house. My family works as a wine agent and gives her two bottles on holidays. Every once in a while, when both adults have time, they take their children out for dinner. We are about the same age, and our personalities and tempers are very compatible. One year, two adults went to the northwest by car. Later, we changed houses and moved, and our children went to different universities. Although the contact is not as frequent as before, but the heart is still close, occasionally meet outside, feeling endless words.
Now the neighbors are also very good. She has a little teddy at home, and she is worried that the puppy will pee on the mat in front of the door. She also changed new mats for our two families. I often exchange specialties, bring fresh things when I go out, and send one to each other. It feels very warm.
When neighbors get along, they must respect each other. If you don't look up when you go out, one more friend is one more way! Combine your own outlook on life, grasp a good sense of proportion, and have a good relationship with your neighbors, and life will be warmer!
Mr. Xie Wukong invited!
Is it a good thing to be close to neighbors in life? Is it a bad thing that extremes meet?
There is a lot of learning in getting along with neighbors. Everyone says that "a distant relative is better than a close neighbor", but relatives are still relatives and neighbors are always neighbors.
Neighbors can wear a pair of trousers at first, and then turn against each other. Examples abound, and the cause of the quarrel is nothing more than trivial words.
I have an example here. The Han family and the Ma family live next door. Once it rained heavily, the Ma family went to help the Han family grab rice from the threshing floor. Han's family thinks Ma's family is fine. From then on, the two families were as good as a family, often eating, drinking and having fun together, and helping each other when something happened. Later, Han's youngest daughter was born, and Bai Ma's family was michel platini's godmother, and a banquet was held for relatives and friends. The good times didn't last long, and the Han family quarreled because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Ma Jia-nan felt that he was not an outsider, so he put on airs and said how Korean women should honor their elders and how they should not, which angered Korean women at once. The consequences can be imagined, and the two families turned against each other.
Neighbors are not friends or relatives. They can help each other when they are in trouble, but they must never interfere in internal family problems. Too much participation will only be thankless. More can't think that the relationship is very good at ordinary times. Like brothers and sisters, call a spade a spade. If their family members say something wrong, they are just angry and ignore you for a few days. The neighbor said something wrong and regretted that there was no place to buy medicine.
We can encourage neighbors to help each other, but we don't advocate interfering in internal affairs. In a more popular way, the thing we can help outside the door is the family affairs behind closed doors. Of course, in addition to domestic violence and criminal acts, we must stop or call the police when we find them.
Everyone has everyone's feelings, and I don't want to get too close to my neighbors. First, there is no time, and there are enough things at home. Mothers need services and sons need counseling. Things at work need to be digested by yourself after work.
There is no time to increase the feelings between neighbors, and I don't approve of being close to neighbors. After all, it is better for two families to have a proper distance. Keep good relations without involving others' privacy.
Our classmates are an example. We are like a family with our neighbors. Eating and drinking are particularly harmonious regardless of feelings. They quarreled and my classmate tried to persuade them. As a result, they made up On the contrary, my classmates can't say anything to sow discord. Let the students laugh and cry.
Sometimes you must know that you are an outsider and treat your neighbors wholeheartedly. There is no need to care too much. Maybe what you think is a good thing becomes an attempt in the eyes of others. Facing the neighbors is sometimes like watching the scenery. You have to choose a suitable place to see the good scenery. If you are far away, you can't see the characteristics of the scenery.
Family is an individual's private space, so it's best not to intrude too much. I am an outsider to myself, always paying too much attention to it, giving people a sense of oppression. People will resent it after a long time. For others, a person who is too involved in his family will leave himself and his family with no suitable space to relax.
Be a man in moderation, and have an appropriate degree for yourself and others. Just as cooking with more salt will be a little salty and less tasteless, mastering the degree of cooking is also a way to respect yourself and others. # Emotional writing assistant #