We have many general acquaintances, and some people especially want to know more about them. How can we get to know each other quickly and deeply? Psychologist Yasin summed up 10 super useful questions, which can help you quickly understand each other's psychology.
(1) What is one thing you want to change about yourself?
This question is mainly to help you understand how the other person views yourself and the future. Can help you judge whether the other person is narcissistic, self-motivated and so on.
(2) What can make you feel a sense of accomplishment?
Judge the other person's inner value orientation and see what the other person has been pursuing.
(3) What was the best/worst stage in your life?
Knowing a person's past will help you understand his present. A person's best time determines the upper limit of his psychological quality, and the worst case may be the lower limit of his psychological quality.
(4) What will you do if your parents don't like your other half?
Test a person's independence. An independent person is terrible, at least you should understand your position in his heart.
(5) If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to stay alone or find someone to comfort you?
The easiest way to judge introversion and extroversion is that if you directly ask the other person whether he is introverted or extroverted, it is generally difficult to get an accurate answer, because the other person often doesn't know it himself.
There is no doubt that a person is introverted, while seeking comfort is extroverted. Extroverts can recover their psychological energy in social interaction.
(6) Have you ever kept a diary?
People who keep diaries are often sensitive and emotional, so their external performance is likely to be camouflage. Keeping a diary at the same time can show that this person has good perseverance.
(7) What's your favorite book/movie?
What a person likes can reflect his three views.
(8) What misunderstandings do people have about you?
Misunderstandings are often caused by the inconsistency between performance and reality. You can judge whether you are good at interpersonal communication from this question.
People who are good at dealing with interpersonal relationships generally overestimate him (this is also a misunderstanding). If you are not good at dealing with interpersonal relationships, it is often a negative misunderstanding, and different people have different misunderstandings.
(9) What is the craziest thing you have ever done?
This question can show a person's lower limit and the other person's ability to control emotions. For example, drunkenness is not because of drinking, but because of one's own madness genes.
(10) What do you like to do when you are alone?
When a person has no constraints, he can best see his essence. A person is very happy, mostly introverted; A person is anxious and has poor psychological quality. A person is self-disciplined and usually ambitious; Lazy people are lazy.
Of course, if you want to understand other people's psychology through these questions, the way of asking questions is also very important, not necessarily so straightforward. If you want to enter a person's heart, you must do it step by step. If you are too abrupt, you won't get the real answer once you cause the other person's rebellion or vigilance.