1. The Wangs fell down. As we all know, A Dream of Red Mansions is based on the decline and fall history of Jia, Shi, Wang and Xue. But throughout the book, the Jia family is rich in brushwork and ink, and the other families have their own situations, which are actually hidden in brushwork and metaphor. The word "crying till Jinling is sadder" not only points out the ending of Wang Xifeng's character, but also implies that the ending of the Wang family (Wang's hometown is in Jinling) is "sadder". Jia Lian and Wang Xifeng are husband and wife, colleagues at work and "competitors" in managing Fu Rong. In the heyday of Wang Jiaxing, both Jia Lian and Jia Jia would benefit from marrying Wang Xifeng and trying to maintain this marriage. So even if Jia Lian is dissatisfied with Wang Xifeng, he will bear it. Besides, his aunt, Jia Baoyu's mother, happens to be a member of the Wang family. For various reasons, perhaps fearing the influence of the Wangs, perhaps for the reputation of the two families, or considering the many benefits brought by the strong marriage between the two families, Jia Lian will not divorce his wife easily. Only after the decline of the Wang family and Jia family did Jia Lian finally "ignore" and realize his wish for many years before he dared to divorce his wife. And it is only because of the decline of the Wangs that Wang Xifeng will "cry more sadly and go to Jinling" after her divorce. Otherwise, even if she divorced, Wang Xifeng would not be so sad and helpless.
2. When dealing with Jia Baoyu's marriage choice, they had different views and positions, which led to the final disagreement. As we all know, Wang Xifeng is in charge of Jia Fu's financial power, so she will definitely try her best to keep more profits, and even the authorities will try their best to make Qian Shengqian. Therefore, on the one hand, her pockets are getting more and more full, on the other hand, when the Wangs are gradually declining, she still has spare capacity to help. How can a daughter forget the mother in the world? This is one of the reasons why Mrs. Wang insisted that Wang Xifeng marry her. No minor disaster, no major disaster, politicians and senior officials are always with you, and the political situation is unpredictable. Who can predict the future changes? Moreover, money makes the mare go, and they are also planning and preparing for it. However, when the Jia family was short of money at first, marriage was the biggest business opportunity. Therefore, Wang Xifeng chose Xue Baochai, whose family is getting richer; Jia Lian supported Jia Baoyu to marry Lin Daiyu. Why did Jia Lian support Lin Daiyu? Is there anything on him? At this point, Jia Lian's slip of the tongue (if only he had sent another two or three million dollars) has exposed the handle, that is, Lin Daiyu's property was actually misappropriated by him: after Lin Daiyu's father died, Jia Lian took Lin Daiyu back to his hometown to arrange the funeral, and counted the Lin family's property and brought it back to Jia Fu. Because Lin Daiyu is young, her property should be kept by Jia Lian. In order to decorate the facade, the Jia family repaired the Grand View Garden. But where does the wealth come from? The clever Jia Lian suggested misappropriating Lin Daiyu's property. Then when it comes to Jia Baoyu's marriage, Jia Lian prefers to "let the meat rot in the pot", that is, let Jia Baoyu marry Lin Daiyu. But how can a dude beat the shrewd Wang Xifeng? To this end, Wang Xifeng even threatened Jia Lian: If Lin Daiyu gets married without a dowry in the future, when everyone asks about her property, Jia Lian will bear all the responsibilities! The sentence "husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and when disaster strikes, they fly separately" implies this.
3. The standard of marriage: Jia Lian is too controlled by Wang Xifeng, unable to take concubines, financially unable to be independent and many other factors lead to Jia Lian's unbearable. Most men in feudal society had three wives and four concubines, but Jia Lian, as a noble child, could not take concubines, and even the financial power of the family could not be moved. In addition to Wang Xifeng's strong desire for control and jealousy, there is another important reason that husband and wife get along normally: before marriage, everyone can't wait to pay more for each other, but after marriage, they are worried about whether the other party pays more for themselves, which means that they still love themselves, whether their position is firm and irreplaceable, and whether their dignity can be preserved ... The way to improve happiness index is not to have too much, but to care less. In addition, it is because of family finance. Many people know that families also need to operate, so how to operate? In fact, why not treat the family as a company? In this way, every month, all the income of the family is remitted to an account, which can also be called family fund (password * * *, everyone has supervision), and then every member is paid an appropriate amount of salary. When something important happens, everyone meets to discuss and make a decision. Only in this way can life be orderly and disputes be reduced.
The above humble opinions, I hope to benefit everyone.