All people in the world who accidentally make friends and suffer from it will probably experience this state of mind.

In this world, there is a kind of person called a villain. No matter how much he did to his friends, he always found a reason to excuse himself and finally became at ease.

In this world, there is a kind of person called a gentleman. No matter how good he is to his friends, he will inevitably be stabbed in the back by such friends.

Gentlemen and villains may become friends for a while. However, they will go their separate ways eventually.

People with different courses cannot make plans for each other.

One day in 2020, a young actor named Sean Shaw wrote a letter to Mr. Wan Fang, the daughter of Master Cao Yu, expressing his life confusion and asking the teacher for advice. They finally had an open dialogue face to face in the theater.

At that time, Sean was experiencing the biggest crisis in his life, his career was being hit hard, and his faith in his friends might be making him suffer. He sincerely read the teacher's play "Winter Journey" and listened carefully to the teacher's instruction.

Why did he learn to swim in winter? What does it say? Is it based on his own situation? I was curious, so I bought a book to find out. After reading it for the first time, I don't want to say anything, and my heart is inexplicably sad.

Now read it again. Only then did I find out how thorough Wan Fang's analysis of human nature is!

During my winter trip, I wrote a gentleman and a villain.

This gentleman's name is Lao Jin. The villain's name is Lao Chen.

These two people used to be good friends. After they got married, the two families were also very close.

When they were at school, Lao Jin once saved Chen's life.

Poor students want to go to the movies. When they have no money, Laojin sells the winter clothes prepared at home. Take the money to buy movie tickets and invite Mr. Chen and them to the movies.

Lao Chen's daughter-in-law gave birth to a baby without milk, and Lao Jin's daughter-in-law helped breast-feed. So Mr. Chen's son called Lao Jin's daughter-in-law godmother.

Lao Chen's son was in danger when he was four years old, and Lao Jin gave his life to save him.

Look here. Did you find it? Laojin is a pure good man, especially fond of giving, and very kind to his friends. Mr. Chen, on the other hand, has been enjoying the meticulous care of Laojin, and he pays the full amount of Laojin.

The break between the two took place in a cultural catastrophe.

The rebels arrested Mr. Chen and made him confess his counter-revolutionary crimes. Mr. Chen couldn't bear it anymore and gave up Lao Jin. He gave up Laojin, not because Laojin was really guilty, but because Lao Chen could exchange Laojin's "sin" for his freedom. The betrayal of friends has brought countless benefits to Lao Chen: freedom, work, reputation and family reunion. . .

Laojin was taken away. Laojin's daughter-in-law has no way to inquire about the news. In desperation, she hurried to find Lao Chen, hoping to know something about Lao Jin.

Obviously, Mr. Chen saw her outside the door, but he didn't open the door for her.

Mr. Chen was afraid that the rebel eyes would see him meet his daughter-in-law and arrested him again.

So, he refused to meet.

She kept knocking at the door, and Chen Jian never opened the door. The old daughter-in-law left crying. Later, she was mentally unstable and committed suicide by taking sleeping pills.

Lao Jin thought his wife committed suicide after despair.

Lao Chen thinks she just accidentally ate too much.

Lao Jin was thrown into prison. In those dark days, he was taken to the hospital because of his serious illness. Laojin, who was seriously ill, could not see the hope of life and chose to commit suicide. But fatally, he was blocked by the branches downstairs and his body fell apart, but he survived.

Lao Jin and Lao Chen are therefore strangers.

Chen Yizhi wants to find a chance to reconcile with Laojin. Laojin ignored it.

Until the two entered their twilight years. Lao Chen found Lao Jin again. Beg forgiveness from Kim.

This time, the excuse is that he wants to write a memoir, and he wants to express the evils of that era with the truest brushwork. He needs Lao Jin's forgiveness and redemption.

Mr. Chen never thinks that his villain's behavior is wrong. He thinks that is the inevitable choice for him to live.

He tried desperately to convince Lao Jin of his idea.

Facing Kim's aggressive questioning. Old Jin Chen made a wise sophistry.

He believes that Lao Jin's tragedy is caused by the times. And he was also a victim of that era. He finally finished his memoir and confessed the experience to the public. Lao Chen became a hero who dared to tell the truth. All his contemptuous behavior has won people's sympathy.

He became famous for his memoirs, signed books for interviews and was very busy.

Laojin found himself being used by old Chen Li again.

So when Lao Jin asked Lao Chen why his letter was also published in his memoirs, Lao Chen's first reaction was: Although the letter you wrote to me was published without your consent, it was not copyrighted. I have no right to violate you.

Lao Jin knew that he and Zhen Chen people came from two different worlds.

How can a nobody understand the original intention of your question? He is always calculating the gains and losses of interests.

While clutching his chest, Mr. Chen said to Laojin, I'm really sorry.

At the same time, there was another voice in my heart: What happened to me?

Yes! Chen, what's the matter with you? You ruined a friend's house, but you feel wronged and want Laojin to forgive you. How big a face, how thick a face and how hard a heart can be so consistent?

You said a sincere word for a villain like you in reality: I did betray my good friend, but I really had to!

The villain hurt his friend and asked his friend for forgiveness. Do you really want your friend's forgiveness?

That's not true. He just wants you to agree with the rationality of his bad behavior.

As long as you let go and express this compassion.

Then he got the redemption he wanted.

Did Lao Jin finally forgive Lao Chen?

Never.

"I can choose to let go, I can choose to forget, but I will never choose to forgive.

The word forgiveness, used on you, is really unworthy. "

So when Laojin found out that Mr. Chen had become Alzheimer's disease, Laojin changed his attitude and faced Mr. Chen gently. It seems that everything in the past has gone away from him. In fact, it is not the past that is forgotten. On the contrary, Mr Chen has forgotten the past. In his mind, things about evil have been swallowed up by disease. Laojin looked at him as if he were looking at a blank photo album with empty photos. Laojin finally showed pity in his heart.

At this time, Mr. Chen is no longer the sinful and unrepentant villain. But it's just a living dead man still breathing. Laojin won't care about such a walking corpse anymore.

Lao Jin is a good man after all. From beginning to end, he disliked Mr. Chen's villain behavior, not Mr. Chen's body.

All the resentment is finally over. The story ends here.

After reading: upright people are upright, while villains often feel sorry for themselves. Isn't that what we do in real life? Those who are thick-skinned and have no bottom line in life often find the right way and move up step by step; And those good people who insist on principles and refuse to base their happiness on the suffering of others are often struggling and excluded. But so what? If the road taken by good people is bound to be full of thorns, I believe that the vast majority of people in this world will still choose this thorny road and will never change the path of villains by opportunism.

In the movie Rashomon, I was deeply impressed by a line: "Only little people live well in this world. If people are not selfish, they may not live. " This is what a little man in it said. I think it should be the motto of villains all over the world. You can be selfish, you can also be a villain, but there must be a bottom line for selfishness, and many people have kept it. Why not have it alone?

Despicability is the passport of the despicable, and nobility is the epitaph of the noble. However, the noble soul is wrapped in kindness and justice. Being a mean person can't really make our life happy. Otherwise, why did Mr. Chen tirelessly seek forgiveness from Laojin?

Not everyone can defeat the inner devil, and the villain is the slave of the devil. We should be masters of ourselves.