Lanyang Listening Notes:

Listen to "Tsai Kangyong's Way of Speaking" with the Reading Academy

First listen to a story, according to the interpreter's words:

How high is Cai Kangyong's speaking level? Once in a variety show, Xiao S, who was very prejudiced against Lin Chiling, suddenly started his "venomous tongue mode". Xiao S said to Lin Chiling: I saw you bought so much chewing gum and mouthwash. You must have bad breath. What you said was merciless and the situation was very embarrassing.

Just when everyone was at a loss, Cai Kangyong stepped forward to smooth things over. He said, "Could it be that Lin Chiling bought it and wanted to give it to a boy?" In a simple sentence, he did not offend the little S at the scene. It also made Lin Chiling's embarrassment invisible and diverted everyone's attention. It seemed that this sentence revealed more information that could be dug out. The atmosphere at the scene suddenly changed from awkward to a lively scene with a full variety show feel.

It compiles and introduces seven secrets of speaking. The speech interpretation lasts for nearly 47 minutes. Take notes to summarize the core:

The first secret: Don’t pay too much attention to the words in the conversation. Win or lose.

Communication is to solve problems. It does not mean that there must be a winner in the debate. Sometimes you can also have a third choice, such as going to a hot pot restaurant. One likes spicy food and the other likes light food. Yuanyang The pot can satisfy the needs of both parties.

Second tip: Learn to answer calls.

Including accepting what others say and making it easy for others to accept what you say. You can think about the other person: Will he like to hear what I say? Or will it annoy him? Will I talk to death if I say this? If you think about similar issues more, embarrassing situations will be less likely to occur.

Chatting is a matter between two or more people, not just you. You cannot ignore others just to express yourself.

Tips: Use the word "I" less and more the word "you" in chats. For example, "I think this should be how this should be." You can change it to "What do you think this should be?" " will make people think that you consider the other person's feelings when you speak.

The third tip: be appropriately "provocative" and activate the atmosphere of the conversation.

For example, don’t be serious all the time, but also make jokes appropriately:, or tell jokes, “prank”, complain, or ridicule.

Hearing this, I remembered the joke that CCTV joker Zhu Guangquan recently told about the beginning of school: Classmates! After a long vacation, now I can’t speak Chinese, my math is broken, my biology is useless, my physics is heartbreaking, my history has not been memorized, my English is decadent, my chemistry is bad, my physical education is okay, and my martial arts is completely useless. This kind of pain goes straight through your heart and lungs, and makes you want to cry without tears. It makes you realize that time is urgent and opportunities are precious. Cherish the time. If you don't advance, you will retreat!

Netizens also replied: Zhu Guangquan is talking about me, so sad...

The fourth secret: humor.

Humorous people are more popular, which also reminds people of "Tucao Conference", which is full of various humorous atmospheres, which will make people enjoy listening to it more and not feel tired.

The fifth tip is to have fun (say what the other person is interested in).

For example, when chatting with elders, sometimes you don’t know what to say, so you can talk about what the other person is interested in. For newly added WeChat friends, if you don’t know what to say, you can get into the topic through the content of the other party’s WeChat Moments. If the other party doesn’t like to post in Moments, you can also start with his avatar and background in the Moments, and trust the other person’s background. The choice must be based on your own considerations.

The sixth tip is to tell stories (most of them tell stories, and a small part of them make sense).

Telling stories can set up suspense. There are two ways to set up suspense:

The first is to leave the suspense at the back. For example: We are all familiar with the fairy tale of Snow White. When Snow White ate the poison apple given to her by the evil queen and fell into a coma, if she stopped here, the people listening to the story would probably ask: 'What happened next? ? ’.

Here I also remembered that when watching TV series and movies, commercials often enter at critical moments. At this time, I also wanted to ask: What happens next? I don’t know if you will feel this way~

The second way is to set the suspense at the beginning. For example: It’s still the story of Snow White. You might as well try this beginning, “One day, Snow White ate a poisoned apple, but she didn’t do anything. She was still alive and kicking, as if she wasn’t poisoned.” The person chatting with you at this time People will be surprised and ask you: "Why is this happening?"

After understanding it, it feels like it is actually to capture the customer's curiosity and want to find out.

The seventh secret is to be consistent with your words and deeds.

The voice shared a romantic story. Xiao Ge and Gu Gu were a couple. After the two had been dating for a while, Valentine's Day came. Gu Gu had been looking forward to it two months ago. Xiao Ge gave her a gift. She hoped that Xiao Ge could bring her a sweet surprise, but she was also afraid of receiving an unsatisfactory gift. Of course, she also prepared a gift for Xiao Ge, which was a watch engraved with Xiao Ge's name, which represented her cherishment of Xiao Ge.

On Valentine's Day, Xiao Ge was surprised and moved when he received the watch. He expressed that he was satisfied with Gu Gu's gift from the bottom of his heart.

What Xiao Ge gave to Gu Gu was a thin envelope.

Although Gu Gu often joked about Xiao Ge in the past, saying, "If you want to give me a gift, just give me the money." But when he saw the envelope and imagined that there might be a pile of banknotes in the envelope, Gu Gu felt a little unhappy.

Amid anxiety, she still opened the envelope. There were no banknotes in the envelope, but a pile of exquisitely made cards. On each card, "Gu Gu Special Gift Certificate" was written. She counted them carefully. Count, there are fifty-two cards in one ***.

Xiao Ge saw that Gu Gu was confused, so he told Gu Gu, "There are fifty-two weeks in a year, and these fifty-two gift certificates are specially prepared for you. Only you It can be used only if I serve you. Every week I can fulfill a small wish of yours, such as letting me comb your hair once, letting me treat you to a late-night snack, and ordering me not to do anything when we quarrel. Talk back to you and go watch a movie with you that I don’t like..."

Although she felt that Xiao Ge was a bit childish, Gu Gu was still very touched. She appreciated Xiao Ge’s gift. I also feel warm in my heart.

In the next year, Gu Gu did use these gift certificates. Although even if she didn't use them, Xiao Ge would still meet her request. But every time she used a gift certificate, she could think of what Xiao Ge said on Valentine's Day and feel My heart is still warm, this feeling is so beautiful!

When I listened to this story, I felt so happy. I felt that this was also a good example of consistent words and deeds...

< p>After listening to a book, I also plan to take notes. I believe that a good memory is not as good as a bad pen. I will also share it with everyone, hoping to make progress together with everyone~