"My father is a fat man, so it would be more troublesome to walk there. I wanted to go, but he refused, so I had to let him go.

I saw him wearing a black cloth cap. , wearing a large black cloth mandarin jacket and a dark blue cloth cotton robe, staggered to the side of the railway and leaned down slowly. It was not easy, but it was not easy for him to cross the railway and climb to the platform over there.

He clung to it with both hands and retracted his feet; his fat body leaned slightly to the left, showing an effort.

At this time I saw his back, mine. The tears flowed down quickly. I quickly wiped away my tears, fearing that he would see me and others would see me.”

I don’t know how many people were moved to tears by Mr. Zhu Ziqing’s “Back View”. I don’t know how many children are reminded of their fathers after reading this article. A lot, at least I am.

Parents and children are inseparable. Mother and child are extremely affectionate.

"The thread is in the hands of a loving mother, and the clothes are on the body of a wanderer. The seams are tight before leaving, and I am afraid that I will return late. Whoever speaks of the heart of an inch of grass will be rewarded with three rays of spring." "If parents are here, they will not travel far." These are our country's traditional filial piety culture.

However, a piece of news broke out recently. On the evening of December 2, a 12-year-old sixth-grade boy from Sihushan Town, Yuanjiang, killed his biological mother at home with a knife. On the morning of the 3rd, the neighbor discovered it and called the police.

You read that right, yes, it was a twelve-year-old boy who killed his mother. What kind of hatred can make a child so angry? Analysis of various media reports revealed the reasons.

Lack of family education. The child's mother is a single mother. Due to her own reasons, she is usually strict with her children. Most children educated in such an environment have psychological defects.

Children's long-term emotional suppression leads to children getting into trouble with others if they disagree. He is also obedient to his own mother. Over time, the child treats the mother who gave birth to him as an enemy in his heart.

We cannot bring back the lost lives, but we can try to reduce the occurrence of similar situations as much as possible.

Children are the continuation of their parents’ lives, not their parents’ enemies. Let education intervene. As a parent, you love your children. As children, respect your parents.

Scientific parenting. As parents, we have an unshirkable educational responsibility for our children.

Nowadays, there are many books on parenting on the Internet that teach people how to raise children. Follow the books to educate your children step by step, follow the rules of your child's development, and educate your children scientifically.

Celebrity Huo Siyan has done very well. Recently, she has been frequently searched for her parenting style.

Ahem’s love for his mother is also very enviable. The program crew asked Uhm if his mother is good-looking. He said that her mother looks good everywhere, with makeup, without makeup, and everywhere.

In daily life, I don’t let my mother do anything, I solve it myself, and I take the initiative to help my mother. I also say that my mother is a princess, and I and my father are princes, and the prince should always protect the princess.

Everyone says that Humph is a super warm boy and wants to sneak him home and wait for him to grow up. However, everyone knows that the development of a child's character is inseparable from the daily education of his parents.

Every kind of love comes from giving. The right method will get twice the result with half the effort. May all children be treated with tenderness, and may all parents be loved by their children.

We must believe that everything has a cause and effect. Such children are hateful and pitiful, and such parents are pitiful and hateful. In the final analysis, it is the imbalance of family education.

If the ecological environment is unbalanced, the growth of animals and plants will be destructively affected. If family education is unbalanced, the growth of children will also be threatened, and even have devastating consequences. More and more families are experiencing problems. More and more problems and contradictions, and tragedies have shocked us one after another. These have ruthlessly revealed the reality of imbalanced family education.

Parents often value knowledge over experience, expertise over interests, academic performance over learning motivation, diplomas over abilities, IQ over EQ and moral quotient, and their own face over their children’s feelings, which ultimately leads to Children lack childhood happiness, sunny personality, family interaction, life motivation, and self-reliance...

When these various imbalances continue, eventually parents and children will form a state of "eight nothings" , appalling:

Parents: "Inaction, ignorance, helplessness, boring, selfless, helpless, helpless, ineffective"

Children: "Heartless, helpless, helpless, innocent, Courageless, incompetent, useless, hopeless”

In this case, it may be light to fight with the parents, but serious ones will harm society, so we should pay more attention to the children’s emotions and psychology from an early age. Moral construction, regardless of whether you are talented or not, must be an adult, otherwise the more talented you are, the greater the harm. You should also pay attention to your own words and deeds, and use your better self to influence your children.

Because today’s children grow up in the hands of their families, if they don’t go their way, they will cry and be willful. Their elders will spoil it and form a habit. .

1. When some children were young, they would hit anyone who provoked them. The adults would smile in response and agree to their conditions. This way, there would be recognition in the children's minds that I can do it. Hit parents. If you criticize severely the first time, there will be no next time.

2. Some children have been strictly controlled by their parents since childhood, but they are surrounded by an environment where their peers are playing but they cannot. Over time, they develop resentment towards their parents, which will explode when they get older. Come out and talk back to your parents.

3. He has not grown up with his parents since he was a child. He is estranged from his parents and has no parent-child relationship. He is inherently disgusted. Coupled with his parents' preaching, he hates his parents even more.

Because parents always want their children to grow up like what they imagine, study hard, not be naughty, know the rules when going out, and be polite when meeting others. But they rarely understand their children’s feelings. Therefore, children think that what their parents love is not their children but their face.

Some people say that children have become unreasonable now, but in fact parents have also become selfish and narrow-minded.

When children do something wrong at school, they can be punished by standing still or slapped on the palms of their hands. If a parent makes a mistake at work, can he be punished by standing still? Can you hit your palms? No, so adults can always forgive themselves and be strict with their children.

There is a middle school student whose attitude towards his parents has changed a lot. I had a chat with him. He said that his father was telling her how much pocket money he gave her every month at a party with friends, and she happened to hear him. Actually no, he thought his father was bragging. For the sake of raising her for so many years, she didn't expose him, but her father no longer had any prestige in her eyes.

Today’s children are superior to them in every aspect, but parents always think that giving them the best is enough, so they give their children whatever they want materially and financially, resulting in When a child opens his mouth, he gets food, and when he opens his hand, he gets money to spend!

In addition, some children are left-behind children, their parents are not around, and their grandparents are very doting on them, causing the children to have no respect for their elders and lack of discipline in family education, which in turn will lead to many problems for the new generation of children. , but there are some exceptions.

There are also some parents who don’t care about their children’s psychological growth. There is very little company for my children when I get home. Even if they are together, they each play their own mobile phones, computer games, etc. Never communicate with your children...

Therefore, it is recommended that parents try to discipline their children by themselves when conditions permit. When you are at home, put down your phone and communicate with your children, even if it is just a simple communication.

As a parent, you must undoubtedly set a good example. As a parent, you must first be a good yourself before you can talk about educating your children. "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" is the basic requirement of a role model, and it is also a manifestation of the "benevolence" of parents. For example, as parents, if you are free and undisciplined, you cannot blame your children for not obeying the rules; if your parents smoke, drink, and say dirty words, your children will They may be rude and annoying; if their parents don’t respect the old and care for the young, their children may lack basic love; of course, if their parents are clean, self-disciplined, self-respecting and self-reliant, their children will definitely become a comprehensive “moral, intellectual, physical, artistic, and labor-intensive” person. Excellent talents for development!

This is the difference in education methods, and the reasons must be found from the source. Some children are very sensible, excellent, and enviable; while other children have many problems, which is mainly caused by the lack of family education. Therefore, as a parent, you must always reflect on yourself, change your bad habits and education methods, start with me, and be strict with yourself. To a certain extent, children are another copy of their parents, so when children have problems, we need to reflect and change instead of just blaming them. It is important to have insight into the inner changes of children. Encourage them more often so that they can feel the warmth of home and the love of their parents, so that the so-called "enmity" will no longer be possible. Share this

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In this case, in addition to looking for considerable reasons for the child's growth process, parents should look for the reasons themselves and discover the problem from the family environment. Why "some children"? Why this kid and not the “neighbor kid”? What example do parents set for their children through their own words and actions? Are the relationships between family members harmonious? Are there any hidden dangers in the parent-child relationship between the child and the parent?

Once you understand these questions, you will have answers and solutions.

First of all, many parents know nothing about their children's education. As their children grow up, they intentionally or unintentionally instill many wrong ideologies into their children. If the child is left to be raised by grandpa or grandma, the necessary education and guidance during the child's growth will be even more seriously lacking. The consequences of intergenerational parenting are far beyond what many people imagine. The vast majority of children raised across generations easily become a burden to the family and society. If these children are compared to robots, then these robots are equipped with virus programs and too many Trojan horse programs.

Rules are developed since childhood, and the key is fairness

When one party is incompetent, they can only be forced to accept it;

Once there is something you think Ability will create resistance!