I would like to ask, if the man does not sign for the abortion, is it okay for the parents to sign for it?

I am now nearly 10 years old, and I feel most clearly about the blessings and evils in my life. They are definitely the concrete manifestations of karma. I will briefly talk about them below. Blessings in my life: I have many blessings in my life. For example, I was transferred from a factory and mine that suffered losses every year to work in a national institution; I was promoted from an apprentice to a technician, and then from a technician to an exceptional promotion

Promoted

(No college diploma, just an exceptional promotion) Intermediate technical title (equivalent to the first-level technical position of an engineer); and has won various awards and honors many times, such as the "95 National Cultural Relics of the Year" in 1995 I have won the honorary title of "Advanced Security and Protection Worker"; I have also won several awards in art. For this reason, local newspapers, TV and other media have reported on me many times, so I am still considered a local A slightly famous person. In addition, although I am not a high-income earner or very rich, I now have a house and a car (two sets of them), and I have plenty of food and clothing... I know very well that these blessings are all This is the result of the good karma I have accumulated in my past and present lives (because there are many, I won’t go into details here

). But I know that no matter what kind of fame, status, money or wealth, it is not permanent, it is just a temporary illusion, so I will not be obsessed with these blessings.

However

However, the evil retribution I suffered due to miscarriage and miscarriage in this life was greater than the good retribution. After suffering several serious illnesses in the past two years, the retribution was extremely painful. , recalling the evil karma I have created in my life and the various good and evil karma I have personally experienced,

It is like waking up from a dream. Among the evil retributions I have ever encountered, nothing is the biggest and most miserable. The evil retribution of adultery and miscarriage has come to an end. I have been very interested in women since I was a child, and I even had unwanted thoughts about my sister. At that time, I was with several little girls.

They played house and treated two of them as "wives". Although they were not sexually mature as children, they understood the love for the opposite sex and the love between men and women. They actually had sex with those two girls in an empty room. That kind of thing was later witnessed by a co-worker at my father's workplace and he went to sue my father. I was beaten up before I dared to do it again.

Later, my family moved to another place, and this happened again with a little girl. When I was in elementary school, under the instigation of an older child in the hospital, I learned to fuck, and sometimes I would do it in class. I would also put my hand into my crotch and have sex. When I was in junior high school and high school, although I didn’t have sex in class, I often had sex at home. Because of the bad habit of having sex, I I often have delusions of having sex with someone of the opposite sex. When I was in high school and I was in love with a girl in junior high school, I put my hand into her crotch and touched her vagina

Because I was a student at the time, I was afraid of getting pregnant. , so I only had a very superficial contact with her, so nothing happened. Later, because her parents objected, she and I broke up. In 1970, I was recruited into a suburban ceramics factory as an apprentice. This ceramics factory had many new female workers, so it was called "Tao Family Garden" ", because I was a handsome boy with many talents who could sing, dance, write and draw, so there were several girls in the factory who liked me, and at least two or three of them took the initiative to pursue me, so Some people say that I am "Jia Baoyu" from "Tao Family Garden", but I only love one of the girls who looks like "Lin Dai

Yu". Not long after we fell in love, we had sex. , and she was pregnant, because it was stipulated at that time that students who had not become regular workers could not become regular workers if they got married and had children. We had a child before we got married, and we were frightened

We had no choice but to I thought about the miscarriage (called Gua Wa'er at the time), and because I was afraid of being known locally, I had to take leave to visit relatives. I took her to a nearby county and asked an acquaintance at the hospital to take care of the three-month-old fetus. It was done.

According to the doctor, it was a son. In this way, I killed my son in a daze and committed the biggest sin in my life.

What's even more serious is that he helped others commit the same crime: it turned out that another girl in the factory became my lover before I got married, and we often had that kind of affair with her, but I I couldn't have two wives at the same time, so I had to introduce her to a friend of mine. Not long after she got close to that friend, she also got pregnant and had her baby shaved. Later, her family objected to her

and That boyfriend forced them to break up. Shortly after the breakup, she found out that she was pregnant again, which frightened her even more. Since she used to be my lover and talked to me about everything, she had no choice but to find me and let me pretend to be Her boyfriend and she went to the hospital to have the baby aborted, but I was afraid that it would be troublesome if my girlfriend and others knew about it, so I had to write a letter and introduce her to a nearby county. (My cousin is engaged in medical work there), I asked my cousin to help find an acquaintance to do it for her

That baby committed another crime of abortion and killing. Later I heard that she used It was made after my girlfriend’s name. At that time, many young people were pregnant before marriage and had miscarriages, so I knew nothing about the sin of miscarriages. On the contrary, I thought I was smart, but I didn’t know. Not only did I commit the sin of sexual immorality, but I also committed the sin of killing. In addition, the sins of sexual immorality I committed were not limited to those mentioned above. After I got married, I started to get along with my wife fairly well, but as time went on

As time went by, I slowly discovered that she and I were not like-minded, like-minded partners. We didn’t have any sexual language or similar hobbies. Quarrels became a common occurrence in our family life, which led to sexual intercourse between husband and wife. It’s very awkward.

Because I have a lot of artistic expertise, I am deeply admired by many women. There are no less than ten women who have approached me and pursued me. In addition, I have had sexual thoughts since I was a child, and I am also influenced by the "sexuality" of today's society. Because of the influence of "Liberation", I thought that it was natural for husband and wife to find a lover outside the home, so I separated from my wife in disguise. I had several lovers before and after me, but they broke up because the other woman was also a fickle and flirtatious woman. , the last one I found in 2004, I think she is the most loyal and ideal lover in my life. I have been obsessed with her for almost ten years, and I even bought some pornographic CDs and learned from her while watching them. ***, until after June this year. After suffering several strange illnesses, I realized that it was the karma of sexual immorality.

So I decided to cut off the relationship with my last lover, whom I had been with for almost ten years. However, due to the difficulty of quitting the evil habit, I bought an inflatable doll online and often had sex with it. I thought that since the inflatable doll was lifeless, it was not a violation of the precepts. Little did I know that it was also an evil act like sex, so I committed sexual immorality again and again. sin.

That’s right

It is because of the grave sin of sexual immorality and miscarriage that I encountered the biggest and most miserable retribution in my life. Let’s talk about the retribution in my family first: I gave birth to two children one after another after I got married. One girl and one boy, two children. They were fine in elementary school and were both good students. But after junior high school, they often got into trouble and neglected their studies. Later, the daughter worked outside and had many problems, such as drug abuse. Fortunately, she quit later, but she traveled all over the country but failed to make a difference, so she had to go home and sit without a job. Now that she is married and has a child, she can only be a housewife. What's worse is the younger son. This son is just like coming for revenge. After graduating from vocational high school, he didn't find a job, so he hung out with some unscrupulous young people. My wife spent a lot of money to let him I learned to drive, but in the end, I still didn’t do my job properly and was still fooling around. It was like learning in vain. I had no choice.

I found a lot of friends to help me and spent a lot of money to open up his joints and send him to the army. Because of his height He was tall and handsome, so he was selected by the military band of the army, and because of his art expertise, the army asked him to also do propaganda work. At that time, we learned that the army valued him very much, and we thought that this time Well, he must have great hope and a bright future, and our whole family is very happy. Two years later, the army chief originally wanted to keep him, but he insisted on being demobilized and returned home. After he was discharged from the army, he had no job for a long time, and he hung out with some unemployed young people in the society. He often indulged in drunkenness and flirted with women, losing one after another, but we had no choice but to communicate with relatives and friends and sent him to work at a traffic toll station in Shenzhen

Although the unit was very good and the leader reused him, But within two months of working, he had a falling out with his boss and was sent home. After he came back, we went to many departments and spent a lot of effort to place him in his mother's city

Art Troupe As an actor, I think this time he will turn around and start a career in art.

Unexpectedly, something happened again not long after he started working. Because the working hours of the art troupe were not very regular, he formed a gang with a group of people and often ate together. They drank, had fun, played with women, and got into fights. As a result, he was accused of participating in that He helped others kill and injure the leader of another gang and was sentenced to two years for intentional injury. For this reason, he was expelled from the art troupe. After he was released from prison,

We thought that after two years of prison reform and education, he would definitely He changed his ways and repented, so we asked relatives and friends to help him find a job in Kunming. We thought that this time he would turn around and start a new life, but we didn't know that he would not be able to do it. A few months ago, for some reason, he stopped working again and went to work elsewhere. He didn't make a living, and he went home to hang out with some unscrupulous people in society. He and I have never been like father and son. , just like a hater

He can't communicate, so no matter how I educate him, he never listens to a word, and he doesn't do his job all day long. In addition to surfing the Internet, he goes out to drink and play with a bunch of people and play with women. What's even worse is that he got into the habit of taking drugs and engaged in drug trafficking. As a result, he was arrested and imprisoned for a long time. After he was released, he still refused to repent and remained lawless. He had a falling out with his brother-in-law not long ago. I'm away from home and don't know what I'm doing. I recently heard that I was arrested again for some reason. I

I don't think of such an unfaithful, unfilial, law-breaking, and misbehaving son, and I can't control him. , I can only let him suffer and fend for himself. I know very well that this is a major evil retribution for my adultery and miscarriage.

My

evil retributions are not limited to this, and the evil retributions that appear on my body are even worse. Not to mention other things, let’s just talk about my ears. When I was young, my right ear was damaged. If the disease was not treated in time, it would become chronic otitis media, but it would not lead to deafness. However, in middle age, the symptoms in both ears would gradually develop into otitis media, and the hearing loss would become worse and worse. By 1985, the symptoms of ingrown ears in both ears were I had granuloma, and there was no way to cure it at several major hospitals in the provincial capital and Beijing, so I had to resign myself to fate. As I grew older, my hearing in both ears became worse

and now I am almost completely deaf in my left ear. Wearing a high-power hearing aid does not help. My hearing in my right ear is also very poor. Only by wearing a hearing aid can I avoid being forced to hear people talking. Due to my deafness, not only can I not participate in many activities, but also in daily life

It is difficult to communicate with others, and I am often discriminated against, ridiculed, and scolded as deaf, which is really pessimistic. In addition, I have suffered great consequences in my career: in 1999, I worked as a *** in the children's art class at the Municipal Art Museum. Teacher, I met the mother of a child. This woman is very kind to me. She often takes the initiative to invite me to her home, and often invites me to dances and outings. She seems to mean something to me. Because she is a college student, has good literary talent, and is somewhat like-minded to me. I also have the idea of ????finding her as my lover, but because her husband treats me as his child’s teacher and treats me very well, so I The couple has always maintained a good relationship with her and has not gone out of line. Later, she saw that the unit I worked for (museum) was an industrial unit that many people envied, so she tried every means to transfer her to my unit, because at that time, my unit did not have redundant staff and someone had to retire. Okay, she knew that I wanted to retire early in order to arrange my son's job (later I didn't retire), so she often pestered me and said something like, "She wanted to be transferred to my unit because she wanted to accompany me more often." I was deceived by her sweet words and mistakenly thought that she really fell in love with me. I also had the evil idea of ??finding her as my lover, so I applied for early retirement to make way for her. I also helped her find connections with several departments and let her be transferred to my unit. Because of my evil thoughts, I suffered unexpected and heavy losses in my career: If I

don't do it for her To retire early, firstly, I could have been promoted to a senior professional title; secondly, I could get special national allowances; thirdly, I could get a two-level salary upgrade (at that time, advanced workers at the provincial and ministerial level or above could get two-level salary upgrades, although I was) p>

National advanced workers, but those who retire are not promoted) Because I retired early for this woman, the above three blessings were not divided. After she was transferred to the museum, many people criticized me for giving up the establishment for her. I couldn't understand it at all, and they all said she was my lover. They often talked about her having a relationship with me behind her back, and some even accused me of being self-sacrificial and lustful. However, I later found out that she didn't love me. She didn't mean to be my lover. She just used my evil thoughts to sacrifice my career for her. So she became estranged from me after she achieved her goal. I now know very well that I am in my career. The retribution for suffering a heavy loss was entirely the result of having an evil thought towards that woman.

Only now, after studying Buddhism, do I understand that the evil retributions I have suffered in my family, body, career, etc. in this life are all the evil retributions of evil thoughts and miscarriages in this life! It is completely self-inflicted and deserves it. I will never blame anyone but others. I can only repent completely from the heart and change my past mistakes!

Through

My family was not in a good situation, my husband and I were not getting along, and we were noisy; my son was unfaithful and unfilial, breaking laws and disciplines; and in my middle age, I suffered from deafness, tinnitus, and constant health problems. Serious illness, heavy career losses, and a series of other evil retributions. Only now did I truly wake up and understand the principle that "excess is the first of all evils." I truly felt the tragic retribution of miscarriage and miscarriage. From then on I vow to study and recite the Buddha's name wholeheartedly, repent completely to the Buddha and Bodhisattva from the bottom of my heart, and pray to the Buddha and Bodhisattva to forgive me for the sins I have committed. At the same time, I also express my condolences to the spirit of the infant who was killed by me and all those who have been harmed by me. I completely repent, pray for their forgiveness, and vow to abstain from sexual immorality forever; learn the five precepts, practice sincerely, promote Buddhism, and speak out my own words based on my own personal experience of karma.

, to persuade the people I know who have evil habits to give up sexual immorality, (including my lovers who have had sexual intercourse with me) and try my best to turn them (her) back from evil to good, to give up sexual immorality, learn to recite the Buddha's name, and take refuge in the Three Jewels! If the divorced man is not present, can his parents sign on his behalf?

No, they cannot sign on his behalf

Marriage is a personal act

Outsiders are not allowed to interfere

Otherwise, the house transfer will be deemed invalid. Can it be done without one spouse signing?

Yes, but you need to go through the transfer of ownership. If my wife doesn’t sign the compensation for the death of my husband in a car accident, can it be ok if his parents sign it?

From a legal perspective, this is not possible. Close relatives of the deceased, including his spouse, children, and parents, must all come together and reach a consensus. If I have an abortion at the age of 20, do I need my parents’ signature?

No need

Is it illegal for the woman’s parents to have an abortion without the man’s consent?

This should not be a crime. It seems that there is no such regulation in the law. Said it was immoral and inhumane. The relationship between a man and a woman breaks down and the woman aborts the child privately. Is it against the law if the man disagrees with the woman? Is it okay if the man does not sign?

Article 9 of the Judicial Interpretation III of the "Marriage Law" stipulates: The husband claims that the wife's unauthorized termination of pregnancy violates her reproductive rights. The people's court will not support a request for compensation for damages; a dispute arises between a couple over whether to have children, resulting in a broken relationship. If one party applies for divorce, and the people's court fails to do so after mediation, the marriage should be based on Article 32, paragraph 3, of the Marriage Law. The provisions of item (5) shall be dealt with.

In summary, it is the wife’s right to terminate pregnancy

The woman is not breaking the law. Does a 17-year-old girl need her parents’ signature to have an abortion?

Don’t have an abortion. Abortion is very harmful. It will not only have a great impact on your physical health, but also your future family harmony, career development, fortune, etc. Before you make a decision on whether to have an abortion, please learn more about the risks of abortion, the harm to your body, the impact on your future life, the harm to your child, the reputation of the hospital, and what the abortion process is like; think about it. Why can't I give birth to this child? What difficulties do I need to pay for it with my child's life? What you have taken away is your child's living life. You cannot make hasty decisions.

I found that in our real life, many people know very little about the harms and sequelae of abortion! Not to mention those of us who are not married or who are underage, even our elders may not know much! I asked many of my friends and classmates who study medicine, and I heard some chilling things! Generally speaking, for girls who are no more than 20 years old (especially those between 16 and 18 years old), their bodies are not yet fully mature. If they have an abortion at this time, it will be extremely harmful to the body. They will suffer from many gynecological diseases in the future. The chance of getting sick is several times greater than that of normal women. Indiscriminate abortion during pregnancy is not only highly risky, but may also produce serious sequelae. Kaohsiung City Xiaogang Hospital recently received three cases of infertility due to incomplete abortions and residual embryonic bones or tissues in the uterine cavity. Doctors say that with the liberalization of sexual concepts, there are more and more cases of unexpected pregnancies, and there is even the so-called "September abortion wave". However, artificial abortion can cause infertility sequelae such as bleeding, inflammation, and uterine cavity stickiness. Symptoms and, in severe cases, death. Kaohsiung Municipal Xiaogang Hospital recently discovered three rare cases of infertility caused by bone residue after artificial abortion. The first case is a 24-year-old woman surnamed Lin. She has been infertile after marriage. The doctor performed an ultrasound and found that her uterus had abnormal imaging similar to that of an intrauterine device. However, the woman surnamed Lin did not have a uterine device. contraceptive device. The doctor further performed a hysteroscopy and found a residual fetal bone in the uterine cavity. After questioning, it was discovered that the patient became pregnant out of wedlock 6 years ago and underwent an abortion when she was 4 months pregnant. The doctor concluded that it was caused by the miscarriage at that time. sequelae.

The second case is a 26-year-old woman surnamed Li. She underwent an abortion 4 years ago due to fetal death. She later developed abnormal bleeding and dysmenorrhea. However, the woman surnamed Li did not pay attention. Recently, she suspected that she was infertile. When she went to the hospital for an ultrasound examination, the doctor also found abnormal imaging of the intrauterine device in her abdomen. After a hysteroscopy, the doctor removed 7 fetal bones from the abdomen of the woman surnamed Li. Abnormal bleeding and dysmenorrhea disappeared after surgery. The third case was a woman in her 20s who was also examined for infertility. It was found that there was calcified embryonic tissue in her uterus. The doctor's inquiry revealed that she had been pregnant for 8 years when she was a teenager more than 7 years ago. , 9 weeks, and then underwent abortion. Chen Shengzhong said that the retention of bones in the uterine cavity usually causes abnormal uterine bleeding, heavy menstruation, dysmenorrhea and infertility in women. Women who have undergone artificial abortion should pay special attention if they have the above symptoms; he also recommended that women who have undergone artificial abortion should pay special attention to the above symptoms. If patients experience abnormal bleeding or dysmenorrhea during their first menstrual period after surgery, it is best to get tested. If a woman has had more than three abortions, you can ask experienced gynecologists. They will tell you that you can get pregnant, but it will be difficult for you to have another baby in the future! Baby will automatically miscarry you at 7-8 months of pregnancy! Because after more than three abortions, a woman’s uterine opening has widened, and now the condition is good and the nutrition is good, the baby is heavier, the uterus cannot hold the baby, and the baby is miscarried naturally! Once there was a girl who was a sophomore in college. She had had three abortions. When she had the fourth abortion, she told the doctor: I want to give birth to the baby! The doctor told her it was impossible, and she burst into tears! There are many more, I won’t mention them, an example will illustrate the problem! So first of all, I would like to suggest to those men, please take care of the girls around you, and don’t cause lifelong harm to girls just because you are greedy for temporary happiness! At the same time, I also recommend girls to take good care of themselves! There is nothing wrong with paying for love! No matter you are a man or a woman, you will get married in the future. No matter who you love more or each other, one day you want a baby, but you find that it is impossible for your wife or you to have your own baby. I don’t know. What do you think? This is a social problem. You may know that many developed countries abroad have to ban abortion by law. I didn’t understand it at first. In fact, if we look into the reasons, if abortion spreads, it will be a serious social problem. Maybe it is not obvious now. But after 20 years, it will be like a volcano erupting. For example, China's population problem has already erupted! I wonder when China will enact a law banning abortion? Can the divorced man's parents sign on his behalf? The man cannot be found, and there is no trace or family. , can the man’s parents sign on his behalf?

No. Marriage is between you and your husband, and his parents cannot sign it on your behalf.

If you can't find the man, then you can go to court to file for divorce.

When you file a lawsuit for the first time, wait for the court to register the case for you. After a few days, go to the court to withdraw the lawsuit on the grounds of giving the other party a chance. The court will give you a decision to withdraw the lawsuit.

Wait half a year before filing a lawsuit. Make a copy of the decision to withdraw the lawsuit as evidence, and then go through the procedures.

Because if you file the first lawsuit and you don’t have enough evidence to prove that your relationship has broken down, the court will not divorce you. However, if you file the lawsuit for the second time, the court will consider that your relationship has broken down and basically can Judgment separated.

I just want to ask, does a parent’s signature be required for underage abortion?

It only requires the signature of an adult over the age of 18, of course parents are best

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