"Everyone has his own advantages ..." In the past, when others had no confidence, they were encouraged to look for their own advantages. But for my own advantages, I didn't calm down and think about it and write about it. Take the opportunity to finish the task today and think about it seriously.

I used to keep a diary. I haven't insisted on it since I gave birth to two children. I am ashamed that I seldom write my own articles except when I need them at work. Thank you very much for joining the Fandeng Reading Club, so that I can study with many outstanding people and grow together! I also thank myself for maintaining a high enthusiasm for learning! That's right, let's talk about one advantage that I think is very important for personal growth and development: I have a strong desire to learn, hope to change the status quo, hope that I have the ability to get happiness, and hope to benefit more people. For myself, I pursue "self-improvement, tranquility and far-reaching", which is also the signature of my circle of friends.

I am a mother of two children now, and I started to get married and have children in the second year after I graduated from college. Actually, I'm still not used to the role of mother. But now that you have children, you have to think of them out of a sense of responsibility. But I am not willing to be busy with daily chores. I often listen to books and watch videos to learn while doing housework such as washing dishes, washing clothes and cleaning.

Since my eldest daughter went to kindergarten, she often fell ill. I know it's no use being anxious. First of all, I think of learning, learning some basic theories of Chinese medicine and the usage of common Chinese patent medicines. Because I am eager to learn, I got to know the massage teacher in the community and several doctors. Tuina introduced some online courses to me, and I read them carefully and benefited a lot. During maternity leave, I often help my children to do some massage. Unfortunately, after work, there were many things, and my study was interrupted. Now I continue to work hard. Learning has made me understand some principles of diseases and the thinking of Chinese medicine. Although I still don't understand them, I am not so anxious. I know how to observe children's daily life at ordinary times and know the reasons behind some diseases.

I am weak, so I can't stay up all night. When I stay up all night, I get a virtual fire. But after having a second child, I slept very little and became very thin. 163 cm high is about 84 kg. You don't look well either. In addition to seeing a doctor for conditioning, I also insist on exercising myself. However, after delivery, the rectus abdominis is separated and can't exercise. Fortunately, because I am eager to learn, I know a group of friends. Learn to stand on piles and meditate. It's been going on for more than three months. Before it was winter, my feet were cold. If I didn't soak my feet, even if I hid under the covers, I wouldn't be hot. Now take a few breaths and practice your mind, and your feet will start to warm up. I was surprised by this improvement myself. I am very lucky to meet such a group of partners and meet father sheep. In addition to being lucky, I think the reason why I am lucky is that when I encounter problems, I will actively look for solutions instead of avoiding them. And when I treat one thing, I can generally persist in it. Some things, such as learning massage and Chinese medicine, have been interrupted because of many work things, but I will always remember them in my heart and think about how to squeeze time to stick to them.

Because I focus on learning and improving myself, I can treat trifles with an open mind. Since I was a child, my relatives and friends all thought I was a very good-natured person, and I really seldom lost my temper. Because there is nothing to be angry about. I would rather spend my angry and sad time studying, reforming myself and helping others. However, this situation changed after giving birth to the second child. Reading less books, doing more things, being in poor health, and being inconsiderate by my husband sometimes make people crazy. The quarrel gradually began, and I couldn't help it when I was angry. Actually, I'm not good at communicating with my husband. It is easy to be depressed after giving birth to two children, and it is a little victim psychology. There are many things, all choose to bear silently. For the health of the family atmosphere, I tried to communicate with my husband and let him know my thoughts and needs. My husband has always wanted a boy, and he also has the idea of male chauvinism. He is a careful person, taking care of housework, big things and small things. If he can't stand a little thing, he will blame others, and his language is very poisonous, and sometimes he is really hurt. I tried to communicate these things, but I still kept quarreling for life, work and parenting. I don't want to be narrow-minded, and I don't want to make life so boring. I also worked in Wechat business for a while, and experienced different jobs, and my mentality really became open and stable. Later, my family didn't want me to continue my part-time job, so I didn't do it.

It is also because, in order to seek change, I got to know Fan Deng and fell in love with Fan Deng after being recommended by my friends. I often listen when I do housework. I'm glad to meet so many excellent people now. In front of everyone, I feel that I need to learn too much!

on the one hand, I have the courage to face difficulties directly, and at the same time, I have anxiety and fear of the unknown. To my satisfaction, I didn't let my timidity stand in my way. I am full of curiosity about life and the unknown. If you want to see the rainbow, just go through thick and thin. I believe that the harder I work, the luckier I am. I believe that everything and everyone are trying to achieve a better self. Come on!