"I basically rented a place at P J Clarke's," he said, referring to the bar in midtown Manhattan (one of the oldest and most famous bars in new york). "I'm always the last to leave, always with a cocktail in my hand."
For this popular business, such a role is of great help to his success. It was not until 20 10 that he decided to have a good rest and give up drinking for six months. As a result, health has improved, but performance has not.
"I want to call people who have good relationships and a large advertising budget and ask them if they would like to go out for a little get-together or get something to eat," he recalled. "But they said,' Do you drink? No drinking? Then forget it. "
There are too many benefits of sober living.
Although lunches with three martinis and staff meetings filled with whisky are increasingly difficult to find in real life outside TV, a large number of hidden rules in the United States still revolve around alcohol. Whether it's to win a customer, draft a deal, or just to prove that you are an easy person to cooperate with, for many jobs, drinking a tour is much more important than playing a beautiful golf game.
Professionals who don't drink at all-maybe for health or religious reasons, maybe they have given up drinking or just because of personal preference-in any case, as long as they don't want to leave it behind, it seems that their career will become difficult because of going up a stairs.
"Everyone wants you to drink, and drinking is part of your job. If you say no, everyone will be a little timid. " Link Christin, director of the special treatment program for legal workers set up last year in Ha Zeer, Minnesota's Alcohol and Drug Rehabilitation Center, said: "If you declare that you don't drink, you have to deal with people's questions about whether you understand the rules of the game."
If you want to understand this concept in reality, just look at this year's presidential election. In order to sell voters the idea that Mitt Romney, a sober Mormon, is incompatible with the American people, President Obama generously gave his "ordinary" love for beer.
"I went to the Expo yesterday, ate pork chops and drank beer," Obama boasted to the crowd in Iowa in August. The day before, he raided a beer stall and bought wine for himself and another person who went to the market 10. "That's great. I only drank wine today, but didn't eat pork chops. But drinking beer alone is also good. " The crowd greeted him with four bottles of beer! ) chorus (rick moranis's song-).
When Obama drank a bottle of homemade beer with a coffee shop guest in Knoxville, Iowa, the public asked him to tell the secret recipe widely. The White House took full advantage of this opportunity to collect 25,000 signatures for a petition. (In the end, the White House was merciful. After obtaining the signature of 1.2 million, it announced two brewing secret recipes. )
This strategy is rare among politicians. Edward m Kennedy accused Jimmy Carter of lack of alcohol in the 1980 presidential primary. In recent years, this has become a commonplace among pollsters: voters will vote for anyone they want to drink with. ([Gee W. Bush] This teetotaler who eventually won the White House should at least make sure to take a photo with a bottle of Odor's non-alcoholic beer occasionally. )
For public figures with low exposure, there is a saying that people who can't drink can't accomplish anything-or worse-it is not credible. This will hinder their career development.
"People will think you are incompetent," said an alcoholic, who is the editor of a lifestyle magazine focusing on wine tasting. He asked us not to reveal his identity, because most colleagues didn't know that he had just joined the "12 ladder drug rehabilitation program". )
The disadvantages of refusing to drink in the workplace are reflected in subtleties from the objective surface-the editor can only refuse a promising promotion opportunity because he can't attend the wine tasting.
"I often skip lunch and dinner with people in the industry now. I have participated enthusiastically, "said the editor. "I can't go out to dinner with a wine merchant and tell him,' No, thanks, I don't taste that kind of thing.' "
Even if your job has nothing to do with alcohol, you won't be unaware of it. John Crepsac, a new york therapist who provides counseling services to Wall Street abstainers, said that on Wall Street, where the lifestyle of "beauty and wine" prevails, non-drinkers complain that they "can't close the deal or even start early negotiations because they are not keen on drinking."
Social scientists call it "social capital": the economic potential that can be tapped in a person's adaptability.
A Wall Street trader who doesn't drink alcohol said, "Sometimes, I know my colleagues will go out with clients who can help me improve my career." . He didn't want to be named because the company forbids employees to talk to the media. "But it's hard for everyone to say,' We didn't invite him to the food we ordered, and he won't drink with us. "What should he do?" "
It is true that sobriety and success are not mutually exclusive. Warren Buffett, donald trump, George W. joseph robinette and Larry Ellision are all teetotalers for life. Whether Romney wins the election or not, he has succeeded.
According to the double standards in the past, women who don't drink may actually benefit from it. "People always want men to get together and run wild, but it is inevitable to frown at women who are keen on it." Crep Sack mentioned that few female patients complained that not drinking hindered their career development. "In the workplace, women may be discriminated against for various reasons, but it does not include drinking."
The research results still support the view that it is more difficult for non-drinkers to climb the promotion ladder of the company. Many surveys show that people who drink only a little alcohol earn more than those who don't drink at all, but alcoholics earn less than those who drink moderately.
The pressure to make a difference often makes alcoholics relapse. Because of this, Heatherton has set up a support group for lawyers who want to stay awake.
"In law firms, the pressure to attract investment is unprecedented," said Christine, a former litigator and successful abstainer. When a person has to choose between maintaining a family and drinking, it is very difficult to stick to it.
The teetotalers tried to create social strategies for not drinking. Some people will order a glass of wine and leave it alone; Some people will use humor to divert unnecessary attention. "I told everyone that I was pregnant." A Wall Street trader (male) said.
Lavin, who left advertising sales to write a book, suggested that the waiter put your drink in a confusing glass. "People will be much calmer if they see you drinking soda from a glass."
Fairness still needs to exist. Former mortgage company manager Joe McKinsey opened a rehabilitation clinic for senior executives in East Hampton, new york. He said that a few months after he successfully quit drinking and stayed awake at work, he changed from an object of ridicule to a close friend of someone who was also in trouble.
"Finally, someone will nag and ask,' Is there something wrong with me?' He said, "If you need to talk in private, I am a problem solver. "