When children have problems, parents are less likely to look for problems within themselves and more likely to blame their children. In fact, no matter what the circumstances, parents cannot say the following three sentences when educating their children.

I have no choice but to control this child

Once, a parent cried bitterly on the phone and complained: "Teacher, this child is not obedient at all. I asked her to do As soon as she turned around to do her homework, she ran away. When I caught her, she sat down with her pen and showed it to you. I was so angry that I beat her. She looked like a dead pig and was not afraid of boiling water. I really couldn't control it. She is dead, please say a few words to me..." The other end of the phone was accompanied by the cry of a child. I analyzed the problem with this mother: She took care of it, but the way of taking care of it was too simple. Her child's learning foundation is not good, so she has to spend some time and guide her patiently and carefully. Parents should be their children's troubleshooters, not their abusers. Hitting will only make their children hate learning more. Besides, the child is only in the third grade. She said she can’t take care of the child anymore, so what will she do in the future? She said lightly, “I can’t, I can’t take care of the child.” In fact, it is a kind of careless education and an abandonment of responsibility.

I am very busy and have no time to take care of my children

It is a fact that parents are busy in order to make a living. Parents leave early and come back late or are away for a long time. Children can only arrange their own lives after returning home with a key hanging around their necks. Parents seem to be with their children every day, but in fact they have almost no chance to get along with their children, let alone communicate with each other. There is no parent signature anywhere on the home-school contact book, homework, or test papers. When talking about sharing happiness with his parents, the child's eyes were blank and he only remembered that his parents often gave him some money to spend. These children often show a sense of loneliness and lack enthusiasm for learning. I sympathize with the parents' hard work, but I don't agree with their views.

I very much agree with the parent philosophy of teacher Xue Ruiping from Hefei, Anhui, "Children always come first." Once, the school held a parent-teacher meeting at 7 o'clock in the evening. Teacher Xue hurried to the classroom after 7:30 because of the child's affairs. She frankly said to parents: "We are all parents, who doesn't love our children?

Compared with my own children, my students come first.

A If teachers don’t even love their own children, how can they give students real love and correct guidance?”

I don’t understand, I can’t teach my children

Some parents, for various reasons , the school education received is indeed relatively small. In addition, because the concept of the new textbooks is completely different from the education parents received when they were children, although it is some elementary school knowledge, a parent with a junior high school education may not be able to teach it. Therefore, while some parents do not know how to tutor, they also give up their responsibility to supervise their children's learning. Parents blame "I don't understand and can't teach my children." In psychology, this is called misattribution. According to this, Mao Yisheng's parents must be bridge experts, Li Siguang's parents must be geologists, and Zhu Kezhen's parents must be meteorologists... In fact, the most important thing for parents is not their knowledge, but their most important responsibility. It is to cultivate good study habits in children. Ye Shengtao said, "What is education? In a simple word, it is to develop good habits."