Jiang Changjian: Know yourself in sadness.

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I watched CCTV's Let's Talk, and what impressed me the most was Jiang Changjian's Know Yourself in Sadness. Today, Jiang Changjian has already achieved fame and fortune: in 1993, he led the Fudan University team to win the prize in the first international college debate, and was awarded the title of "Best Debater". Now he is an associate professor of Fudan University, and also serves as the host of Jiangsu Satellite TV's super brain program.

people who are not in contact with the debate may not understand the great significance of the international college debate competition in 1993 in the history of debate in China. As one of the highest events in the Chinese debate, it has produced many famous speakers in today's TV circle, such as Lu Yiming, the famous host, Victor Gu Chian Peow, who was later known as the God-like Four Debates, Zhou Xuanyi, Huang Zhizhong and Ming Chen, all of whom were its best debaters.

But Jiang Changjian was not so successful from the beginning. He has experienced three major "tragedies" in his life-

Jiang once failed in the college entrance examination, and when he repeated his classes, his teacher commented on him: "According to my years of experience in remedial classes, you really have no hope." This kind of evaluation is a great psychological destruction for the repeat students who are under great pressure. Jiang Changjian, who was hit hard, felt that it was no use crying over spilt milk. He decided to make up the missing knowledge points bit by bit. He put all the high school textbooks together, counted the pages clearly, and then divided them by the 365 days of preparing for the exam, and worked out the number of pages he needed to read every day. "It shouldn't be difficult for me to do this." In this way, I bit by bit, and finally I was admitted to an undergraduate college beyond my own expectations.

the second sadness is his extremely embarrassed family. Before he took part in the college debate competition, he was very embarrassed financially. Every time he goes to the canteen, he will always stand in the position of the vegetarian dish, but his eyes will always be fixed on the stall of the meat dish. Sometimes he will think to himself, life in this field is also a failure, right?

The third paragraph is very sad and tortured. After graduating from the doctor's degree, although life is getting better and better, I will change into anxiety at this time. From then on, he had to fight with drugs. The doctor at that time told him that no one dared to stop using this medicine six months ago. He decided to try and see if he could be the only exception. At first, he felt that he couldn't do it, but once he received a notice that his bank account was abnormal, and he forced himself to go out in desperation, and then he came back quietly. When he finished this trip, he began to believe that he could overcome his anxiety on his own.

His doctor later said to him, "Chang Jian, don't cherish your feathers. Do you think many people in this world care about you?"

he said, "Isn't it?"

The doctor replied, "Not really. Chang Jian, can you stretch your personality a little? Do you think that if you make yourself angular, the world will undergo earth-shaking changes? "

Then he went on to say, "No, so, young man, stretch a little, spread a little. Don't try to cover up some small flaws you have done. It's not the original intention of life to be too tired. "

In these three experiences, Jiang Changjian said that the kind of sadness arises all the time, but he enjoys it very much. Why? Because in Gorky's My University, there was once a saying that the best remedy for a miserable life is fantasy.

the best way to be embarrassed is to plunge yourself into a kind of sadness. Because you will feel that there is nothing more bitter and embarrassing in life, right?

writing here reminds me of myself. For a long time, I felt that my life only had a real feeling in suffering.

For example, when I moved when I was a child, I would put myself in the sadness of losing my old home instead of getting the joy of my new home.

When I get a new friend when I grow up, I always put myself in the fantasy that I will lose this friend at any time, so as to try my best to show my heart to my friends and hope that they will not leave;

I always think that I am the worst one in the competition, and everyone else is better than me and stronger than me, so as to motivate myself to fight more bravely and not lose too suddenly;

When I study, I always think that I am stupid. Only by working as hard as an ox and being diligent, and learning while others are learning to play, can I do as well as others in the exam.

This mentality makes me unhappy. I often cry, but it allows me to protect myself in my so-called sense of security, and let me enjoy myself when no one approves, and get a little gain that only I can understand.

This mentality has been quite serious, even until now. I am now learning to be confident, to enjoy life, to be indifferent to other people's eyes, and to be what I want to be.

while changing, I am also thinking that the present life and mentality can be regarded as a good life for myself. What a sad and unhappy life it used to be!

so, why was I so hard on myself?

then, I realized that it was I who kept putting myself in a sad situation, a situation where you were inferior to anyone, you were worthless, and you were the stupidest child. Only then did I learn to cherish and gain friends who were really good to me, and then I could give a good account of my study career in the first stage of my life, have the courage to finish so many games, and be able to persist even when I lost more than I won.

The most important thing is that this mentality really makes me put myself at the lowest level and protect myself in a sad situation, while not giving up. Because, what could be worse than now? Big deal, roll in the mud, get up and pat your feet, or be a hero.

then why don't I do this anymore? Because when you need to put yourself in a sad situation, it is the time when you really need to "sow" and work hard. But when you come step by step and turn around and find that you have gone a long way unconsciously, and there are bursts of fragrant rice behind you, you will find that the sad situation has gradually left you.

You have to believe that

your situation and your mentality

will get better gradually.

Therefore, put yourself in a sad situation, know your ability in sadness, work hard in sadness, and then slowly get out of it.

sadness is not the goal, but getting out of it is our goal.

Finally, I quote Jiang Changjian's poem in his speech as a conclusion. Although the poem originally describes love, looking for a partner is actually looking for another value similar to yours, so "she" in the poem can also be understood as another self, a self with sadness and courage to fight-

"I hope she has blood in her chest like me,

and her heart is hurt;

Don't spend a full moon,

Don't have a flute and a flute;

to be poor,

as poor as tea, there is a faint fragrance in bitterness;

be proud,

as proud as blue, with autumn frost on your face.

I hope she, like me,

dares to wander in the white cemetery in the dark and

listens to the owl's long sound.

to chase the flowing fluorescence. "