Right or not, we haven't been in touch for a long time.
Then I began to think, when did we slowly lose contact? Finally, I was disappointed to find that I didn't remember it at all.
No more contact has long been a tacit thing.
I have been busy with work in recent years, and WeChat is full of people. Sometimes you have to add a new one, you have to double it first, and then delete one. Generally, you are looking for people who are not familiar with names and avatars. Look around the circle of friends. This is really a horizontal line.
When and why did you add WeChat? I don't remember.
This should be a microcosm of contemporary social relations.
It may take several layers to take the bait. Not a friend, but a "friend" in WeChat. The old and the new are superimposed on the list where many pages are not at the end. Without comments, you can't tell who is who.
I have to admit that the relationship between adults is actually very fragile.
When I was a child, I said angrily, "I don't want to play with you anymore." Next second, I may share it with delicious fart. However, in many adult relationships, the final tacit understanding is that no one has asked why, but no one has contacted anyone.
Only when children delete WeChat from each other, adults will stop talking.
I have a lot of WeChat, and there are many people, acquaintances and strangers in many WeChat.
Most of these strangers are old friends who listen to my program and read my words. Among these old friends, there are children and big friends. They will tell me some happy and unhappy things that happen in daily life or have great significance.
I found a lovely rule.
People who talk to me about love and hate are often children. They will tell me:
"Mu Zi, my best friend blacked me out. What should I do? "
"Mu Zi, I quarreled with my boyfriend. I blacked out his WeChat, but he didn't come to me. "
"Mu Zi, can you publish an article to make adults respect children's opinions, or what will happen if adults don't listen to their children?"
……
Usually I ask first, "How old are you?"
The replies received are often fifteen, nineteen, or even sixth and second grades.
Thankfully, there is no kindergarten, otherwise I should be more careful when coding words, especially when talking about hot articles. I always take it as my duty to try my best to correct the three views of the next generation.
That is beside the point.
Children are naive, but really cute. They also have the kind of persistence that can break the casserole and have time to be willful, entangled and even messed around.
The adults are gone.
"Mu Zi, yesterday, my high school deskmate got married, not to mention the bridesmaid. I didn't even get an invitation, but it's normal. After so many years, there are new circles. "
"Mu Zi, my predecessor came to add me to WeChat. I didn't pass, but I stayed for a long time for this application. Second time around. "
"Mu Zi, my son said he would take his mobile phone to the Internet for class, but he secretly played games to watch the live broadcast and spent tens of thousands of dollars to go out. His father is away from home all the year round. I don't know who to tell these words ... "
If the world of children is a beach mat, the reality of adults is reinforced concrete, which is not exquisite and uneven, and the knees will be bruised.
It is not that I don't want to do anything, but that I don't want to do it. I understand that sometimes we meet and part, and it is lucky to have it, but it is normal not to have it.
You mean cowardice? Still timid, miserable? It's sad, too, but it's the same. No one can escape.
Children are soft and sharp, adults are Buddha and slippery. Those soft and carefully hidden in the stomach, those sharp stuck in the throat.
Because, the vast majority of adults are not and have no choice but to live for themselves.
A friend of mine went to the north alone a few years ago. From the beginning, he lived in a small compartment. Later, his work improved. He talked about a boyfriend whose hometown is in one place and they moved into a whole rental house together. The house is not big, but at least he can bask in the sun.
She told me: "The city is very big, but I feel very happy to have him around."
But then they separated.
The boy was tired of Piaoping's life, so he chose to go back to his hometown and choose a relatively comfortable lifestyle.
He asked more than once, "Do you want to go with me? Let's go back to the third-tier cities and buy a house of 150 square meters. Maybe we can also build a yard and find a job with low salary but not so tired, ok? "
She doesn't talk every time. She doesn't know how to say it.
At the end of the day, the boy packed his things and bought a ticket back to the north. She just silently bought a breakfast, then went to catch the early bus and opened the door after working overtime at night. This is already an abandoned room.
We haven't seen each other for more than half a year. We went home for the New Year, met by chance and passed by with a smile.
She said: "I used to hate to delete WeChat, but now I find it unnecessary to delete it."
I didn't delete it, there was no darkness, there was no connection, I didn't say I would leave with great fanfare, I just quietly retired from each other's lives.
What did you say?/Sorry? Not good either. There will inevitably be regrets after the year, but it doesn't matter. Finally, it's all decent
I remember in Ruyi's Love in the Palace, Ruyi finally said to Gan Long, "Your Majesty, do you know the phrase' Orchid Fruit'? When I was young, I only felt sorry. Now I understand that flowers bloom and fall. "
She said "I", not "male and female servants". The last thing she said to him was "Have a good trip".
When I was young, the green cherry blossoms and Li Hong became the past tense after all.
When watching this drama, I was also annoyed that I was as silent and forbearing as I could, but I couldn't protect the people around me. But in the end, I have to gasp in admiration. It is really rare to remain sincere all my life.
Ruyi did lose a lot in this life, but at least, she never lost herself.
Flowers bloom and flowers fall, and sometimes people really have to jump out to see them in order to be cleaner and more comfortable.
Whether it's love, friendship, work relationship, or blood relatives, whatever you try is demanding. Many people have a lot of things, so you don't have to explain them clearly.
This is not a bad thing.
"Heaven and earth, rivers and lakes, the sun and the moon, don't leave a name, don't read, don't talk", let's stop here.