"This absurdity is what life is like

It makes you tortured, painful and thirsty

You feel like you have no way to go and no place to hide

Asking for nothing and getting nothing

When I was drowsy and shaky

But I learned to let go of wrong, right and wrong

If I ask for nothing, I will come back with a full load."

——"If you ask for nothing, you will return with a full load"

There is nothing in life that cannot be let go. When you come to this world, you will come in vain and leave in vain. Therefore, why bother to persist and why be reluctant to let go? , why can’t you let go, just like this song, “Learn to let go, wrong and right, right and wrong, if you ask for nothing, you will return with a full load.” The more you ask for nothing, the more you can return with a full load.

During the period of learning to be calm and focused, I slowly observed life, myself, and others. I found that people have desires, pains and worries, and their own thinking inertia and Lifestyle, everyone's life is the result of their own thinking and choices.

Continuously sit and meditate, constantly learn to think and practice, and constantly live according to the guidance of the heart. Now I am better able to observe myself and control myself. When my attention is biased, I will Start rational thinking immediately, correct your thoughts, and focus your thinking on meaningful and correct things.

Among them, I corrected my obsession with giving. Everyone wants to have the idea of ????"paying and receiving." This is normal.

When you are working, you must be paid accordingly and respected for your hard work and time; when you get along with others, you must treat each other sincerely and sincerely, and you must respond sincerely; Keep investing in yourself, keep learning, and you will need to grow and so on. Even if you pay hard, you will want to gain and expect to gain.

These mental states are normal, but I have found that if you expect too much about the results after your efforts, you will focus on the results, just like being attracted to something. Always looking forward to results. If there are no results, you will be disappointed and feel uncomfortable. If you do not adjust yourself in time, you will think more and more and fall into a painful whirlpool.

For example, when I was taking exams, after working hard, I was always looking forward to the results and rewards. If I made a mistake in the process, it would be easy for me to feel resentful and unable to let go of the mistakes I had made. Allow yourself to get into trouble.

Also like posting to Moments, every time I post to Moments, I expect a response. I will look at my phone from time to time, as if I am controlled by my phone. The more this happens, the less I find myself able to calm down. If you focus on your current life, it will be easier to lose yourself.

There is also the problem of adjusting the abnormal fetal position recently. I need to adjust the posture for 20 minutes every morning and evening. When I first faced this problem, I worried about it for a long time, but as I improved every day, After the adjustment, my mentality has improved a lot. I think, "I do what I should do every day, the right thing. No matter what the result is, I can accept it, let nature take its course, and let go while giving."

I also made pumpkin pie again recently. The original intention of making pumpkin pie this time was entirely for the people around me. The first time I made it was to try and out of curiosity. When making pumpkin pie this time, there was a lot more work than the first time. My mother-in-law steamed the pumpkin in the morning and joined me in the afternoon. From kneading to frying, it took more than 3 hours, and the whole process was done while standing. Yes, after a long time, I felt sore even when standing and sitting, and felt all kinds of discomfort, but in the end I still insisted on finishing it. After finishing it, I distributed it to people around me one after another. My mother-in-law said: "It is easy to eat but difficult to make."

In this sharing process, I will also have expectations after giving, looking forward to their praise, looking forward to their good comments, etc., but being obsessed with this expectation will make me lose the ability to make pumpkins. The original intention of making cakes is to make the people around me happy and taste the delicious food I make, and the process is also a state of enjoyment. It is not to get something, so you should not be obsessed with expectations, and you must "give and let go" , can make yourself happier.

Moreover, I will also learn from my mother-in-law. She is in her 50s. She cooks carefully every day and smiles. What is she pursuing? What does she expect from the children she worked so hard to raise? Will you be obsessed with your own efforts? My more understanding is: "No", she will not impose her ideas on her children, and will not force them to do things. She cares and loves her children more, and then starts her own business every day. She does her own thing happily and is not afraid of hardship or tiredness. She does not think about what she will get after giving, but just keeps looking forward.

"Give and let go", the past is in the past, as long as the current state is happy.

After truly understanding "pay while letting go", I found that this has a lot of meanings. This is "If you ask for nothing, you will return with a full load":

① It can better eliminate distracting thoughts and focus on Think about the present

Whatever you give, you have already given. If you are not obsessed with gains and rewards, you will clear your mind of distracting thoughts, just like a full glass of water, learn to pour it out, and then you can hold more. something. Because the brain is clear, you can focus more on the present moment, pay attention to every breath and every move of the moment, and pay attention to what needs to be done at the moment.

②Be more able to focus on the present and the future

Put aside efforts and be more able to focus on the present, do the present things well, and continue to accumulate for the future. Everyone has to move forward. Look.

③Be more able to follow the heart, accept the guidance of the heart, and do things with heart

Don’t care about the effort, live according to the guidance of the heart in the process, and you will be happier. This is the most important thing .

④It is more difficult to relieve worries, reduce the pain of persistence, and release stress

Without care and persistence, there will be no self, and worries and pain will naturally be reduced.

There is a lot of pressure in life. The more you need to let go of the efforts that cause you stress, accept the normality of the world, and let yourself go, the more relaxed and happy you are to welcome every day.

⑤Be able to concentrate more and put time and energy on meaningful things

In this way, constantly control yourself, give and let go, and your attention will become more focused. Concentrate and save time and energy on meaningful things, why not?

Life is a practice, life is the best teacher, everything is the best arrangement, if you ask for nothing, you will come back with a full load, focus on the present, give with your heart, and let go after giving, every moment You are the best version of yourself, in the best condition, believe in yourself, come on!