After two bottles of beer, Feng Ge, who was silent all night, said the first sentence:
"Well, I thought about it for a long time and decided to go back to my hometown."
Tone is very light, don't recognize any emotions. It's like a trip to this city, and now I'm going home.
This is Brother Feng's sixth year in this city. This place is the "food street" he discovered when he first came. He was once seen in every street stall, talking about love and ideals, with sparkling eyes and shining in the old night of the old city.
Six years have passed, and it has become more and more outdated. There is no love and no ideal. It's just that house prices have been rising.
"Go home and do what?" I asked him.
"Where is it different to find a job, marry a wife, have children and live?" His eyes were fixed on a dimly lit residential area in the distance. "As long as you don't become poor."
These four words suddenly made me lose confidence and I didn't know how to respond.
It turns out that I am not the only one, and I am embarrassed to find myself getting poorer and poorer-I want more and more things, but my upward expectations are getting thinner and thinner.
Younger, newly graduated, secretly wrote "How to get rid of troubles and get rich" on the signature of WeChat.
I'm afraid everyone feels poorer and poorer.
The first time I felt poorer and poorer was when I just came out to work and paid 3,000 yuan for my hair.
Originally, in the eyes of parents, as a graduate of 2 1 1 university, having a stable job in a first-tier city is enough to make them proud in front of their relatives and neighbors.
According to their life experience, I will soon be able to settle down in the big city, support myself and save money to support my family.
I didn't expect to go home for two years in a row, and I couldn't get much money to give red envelopes to the elders and the younger generation to subsidize my family.
Parents' disappointment and incomprehension are beyond words.
"You say that college students are so worthless now? You're not working hard enough! At your age, I bought a house for my family without reading any books. "
I opened my mouth, but I gave up. What is stress and what is nervousness, so even before graduation, I can't believe it.
Compared with my parents who haven't read any books, I obviously have been working hard, but I seem to be getting poorer and poorer.
Don't even think about buying a house, getting married or having children. The most ordinary life of my parents has actually become the "three mountains" in my life.
Unexpectedly, after the income is getting higher and higher, this feeling of "getting poorer and poorer" is still lingering.
To tell the truth, my income and opportunities have indeed increased a lot after I quit my job and became a freelancer.
However, every time people around me express envy, I always feel inexplicable anxiety: "I am worried every day, and I will be eliminated if I am not careful."
This anxiety makes my life more cautious-spending money carefully, glancing at my savings from time to time and estimating my ability to resist risks; Brush your circle of friends carefully, for fear of finding another peer around you stepping into the ranks of "winners in life".
A few days ago, KK just suffered a critical attack from the "winners of life" around her.
The project that their department is jointly responsible for met with the thorny Party A. The design and scheme were changed several times, working overtime and staying up all night. After a busy month, the other party was still dissatisfied and directly canceled the cooperation with their boss.
In the face of the boss's anger, everyone has a hard time, except a girl who just resigned and left.
Afterwards, KK anxiously asked about the girl. Unexpectedly, she didn't care: "I don't want to do such a thankless job for a long time." Don't worry, I just sold a suite and earned more than 2 million yuan, which is enough for me to rest for a while. "
KK gave a wry smile: "How could I worry about her? When can I be so confident? "
Everyone is obviously working so hard and gritting their teeth in progress, but this confidence seems to be in the foreseeable future.
As the saying goes, "The world doesn't reward those who work hard."
This unwillingness makes people don't want to give up, but they can hit people at any time.
In Zhihu, many people are also discussing this question: Are contemporary young people getting poorer and poorer?
The most popular answer is this: "It is people's desire that has become bigger."
In this era of consumerism, we want more and more in comparison and pursuit, which makes our experience strength more and more embarrassing.
Not Hermes and Chanel bags, not bags, just bags for things; Less than 300 lipstick is not lipstick, it will rot your mouth; A house below 200 square meters is not a house, and it can't hold the future and life.
More and more people believe in these things and naturally feel poorer and poorer.
In my opinion, people have desires when they live.
Getting poorer and poorer is not so much because of desire as because of contrast.
Compared with the previous life, the competition is more intense and the cost of living is soaring; Compared with "winners in life", there is no background, no background and no family property.
All our anxieties and reluctance have nowhere to go.
Simply put, it is to compare with yourself.
Instead of looking around and being extremely anxious about the success or failure of others. It's better to pay attention to your eyes.
Do what you want to do and do it well; I will try my best to realize my dream.
Whether you want to succeed or be stable and ordinary, it is a way of life, and no one needs to look down on anyone.
No matter what "getting poorer" or "getting richer", having your own inner peace is the real winner in life.