Totally unnecessary.

This way of thinking is the gambler’s thinking. Betting everything on uncertain things has a high probability of failure. Most likely, he sacrificed his career in vain, but failed to achieve the future of his children. Life is short, and many tragedies come from living for others. In fact, the center of all life problems lies in people. Improving and changing personal qualities is to change the destiny and the destiny of relatives and families related to it. In other words, parents who are positive, work hard, and teach by words and deeds are the best education for their children.

Generally speaking, a child’s growth is related to heredity, environment, education and one’s own efforts. Parents can only provide the best environment for their children within their own capabilities. Ultimately, it depends on the children's own efforts and struggles. After all, children have their own blessings. In fact, high-quality education may not bring a bright future to children. Unmatched education will devour children's interest and motivation in learning. Rather than over-education, it is better to let nature take its course.

If you are a father, please do not sacrifice your career, because a father gives his children strength, insight, and height, and serves as a role model for his children. The best way for you to love and educate your children is to let them know that their father is a person with a strong connection with society, a person with ideals, dreams, and career ambitions. A third-rate father complains about being tired all day long and doesn’t care about anything at home; a second-rate father has a sense of responsibility, takes good care of his wife and children, and can also take care of his career; a first-rate father can inspire the emotions of the whole family, and not only his career is prosperous, but his family is also prosperous. Relationships, harmony with elders, virtuous wives and filial piety, children take their father as an example and continue to work towards the heights of their father.

If you are a mother, please do not sacrifice your career. Being a stay-at-home mother is not necessarily easy, but will also bring about misunderstanding from the family. Only when a mother is financially independent and can stand up, can she better win the respect of the whole family and not simply become someone else's dependency. You may have a good husband, but most men may understand that it is not easy for you to work full-time at first, but gradually they will think that your sacrifice is natural, and you have thrown away your future. Even if they are not just working in ordinary positions, women in the workplace will come into contact with more people with colleagues and business contacts, which will keep women from being separated from society and connected to society. From a spiritual point of view, the gap between them and their husbands will not become wider and wider. Far.

So, if it’s you, please don’t do it. If your partner wants to work full-time, please don’t let him do it. Support him in having his own career. I can make progress together with you and move forward.

There is only one kind of love in the world, which aims at separation, and that is the love of children and parents. Sooner or later, they will leave your arms. When you look back on the past , you have devoted everything to your children in these years, and you have lived a miserable and worthless life. You will be very regretful and live a mediocre life.

It is okay to sacrifice something in your career for the sake of your children, but you have to make a comprehensive decision before making a decision, and you cannot just choose to give up everything. And whether it is necessary to work full-time depends on your family situation! For example, my wife and I both made some sacrifices selectively. We used to live separately in two places. After my children entered elementary school, I gave up my public job in a certain city and came to Guangzhou to find a relatively easy job so that I could stay with my children. My spouse had a chance to be promoted, but he had to be transferred to another department and would have to travel frequently. Now that my daughter is about to be promoted from primary school to junior high school, he is always there to help her with her thoughts when going to school. In order to accompany him to study, my lover gave up the chance of promotion for fear of delaying his child's further education. We have made sacrifices, but it does not mean we have given up our career. Maybe we don’t have the capital to give up our careers, because the education expenses for our two children require our work to support them. Before we were in third grade, we didn’t have any accompanying students, nor did we enroll in extracurricular classes. At that time, the children were handed over to day care at noon and evening. After the children completed their homework in the day care meeting, we came back from get off work to check the homework signatures. Of course, parents still need to have time to accompany them in the evening and provide guidance when necessary. This does not mean accompanying them to do homework, but when checking homework, they should find out where the problems are, such as sloppy habits, sloppy writing, etc., and correct them in time. The most important thing is to develop good study habits, such as correct guidance. If you have good study habits, your grades in primary school will not be much worse. My child started attending extracurricular classes only when he was in fourth grade. Therefore, I also think that a daughter in senior grade has more urgency to study than a son in first grade. There is no need for extracurricular classes in the lower grades, but they must have good study habits. Accompanying is aimed at good study habits, and children's study habits cannot be solved by training classes, so don't rely too much on them.

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If you want to train a child, first of all, you have to teach him to listen carefully in class. Why do some students taught by the same teacher have good grades and some have poor grades? Poor grades mean that there is a gap in the quality of lectures. Every time, preview before class - class - homework after class - review. This cycle is very important. As a parent, you may also be very busy at work. After returning home, Basically, I don’t put much thought into my children. I even want to save the energy to speak. I feel that I am too tired. I should tutor my children while working. When my children finish reading and I am older, I will look for If you don't have the career you like anymore, it's better to be busy now, make plans for tutoring your children, and act according to the plan every day. This will be more tiring, but after the critical first or two months, it will be good to be on track!

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I think as parents, we need to have a correct attitude. The child is one's own and cannot be judged by sacrificing oneself to determine whether it is worth the sacrifice? Everything is done according to the wishes of the parents. Including, parents are willing to work hard, parents are willing to have children and take care of them, and parents are willing to let their children develop freely. It’s all parents want! The opinions given by others are two-sided. The key is what you think. And the parents chose to accompany them.

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For children, it is actually best for parents not to tutor them in their homework. To be honest, textbooks are different now, they are not the same as they were back then. And most of the problem-solving ideas we remember are from junior high school and high school. It can be said that the more tutoring parents provide, the worse their children's grades may be. One is to influence them to develop the habit of independent thinking. One is that what parents teach may conflict with current primary school textbooks, leaving children at a loss as to what to do. Parents are responsible for supervision. Let your children do their homework. If you can't do it, let your children ask their classmates and teachers for help.

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Parents are the most direct role models for their children. If you have clear goals, a positive attitude, and a successful life, your children will naturally learn from you. This in itself is the best education.

Maybe you will consider the story of Meng’s mother’s three moves. This story is different from yours, because for Meng’s mother, she could only make a living in a very low-level occupation, and it would be the same wherever she lived. , but for Mencius, the difference in living environment was very huge. Therefore, Meng's mother's three moves did not have any impact on Meng's mother's own career development, but it had a huge impact on Mencius' future development.

Everyone has only seen the impact of the environment on Mencius during Meng’s mother’s three moves. In fact, there is another key factor, which is Meng’s mother’s own attitude towards children’s education. This is actually a more critical factor. The impact is even greater than the environment. If Meng’s mother was an ordinary person who just wanted to make a living, then Mencius was also very good in the first two environments and could make a living. But Meng’s mother wanted to cultivate He was a real nobleman and a truly successful person, so Mencius' success was not only due to the influence of the environment, but also to Meng's mother's ardent expectations and sincere teachings.

Therefore, whether a child’s future education will be successful depends not only on the surrounding environment, but also on the attitude of the parents. What best represents the attitude of the parents must be the parents’ behavior. Please use your own successful behavior to inspire Children to succeed.

I think these two topics are not the same. Children’s education is children’s education, and your career is your career. Without the support of your career, children’s education can continue better. ?

People live in this world in order to live. To live, you must have money to maintain this happy beauty. Well, for the future education of children, I think it can be done in terms of hardware facilities. He implements better care, which of course requires him to accompany and take care of his children more. While he is busy with his career, he uses his spare time to take care of his children and carefully helps them with their homework. I think this is the best. I cannot attribute my unsatisfactory work, pressure in life, etc. to taking care of my children. I feel that this is not a person's responsibility and responsibility.

In fact, if you think about it carefully, if a family does not have a good career for the parents to support, do you think the family will still be very happy? Can children’s education be protected in the future? Your child's education is his own business. The most important thing for you now is to work hard to make money to create a better educational environment for your child. Whether he can become a successful person or not depends on his own destiny. What parents can provide him now is As an auxiliary condition, the most important thing is to look at yourself. External conditions are not the only one, subjective conditions are the most fundamental.

Everyone has their own things and space. Although it sounds very touching to give up your job for the sake of your children, if you think about it carefully in real life, it really depends on your life. Spectrum? If your child still fails to become talented and develop better under your education, and you also lose your career, then this is called losing your wife and losing your army. Such an outcome will have a huge impact on your family’s future expenses. Wait, it all has a big impact.

Therefore, we should not look at the problem too one-sided, and we should not resolutely quit our career to educate our children because of impulse. I think you can use your time after get off work at night to carefully teach your children and guide them in their lives. When the child is in need, I think it is enough to help him in time, give him a certain amount of care and love, take good care of her, and fulfill the responsibilities of a parent. Because as a parent, you are not only responsible for a child, but also responsible for the family.

Therefore, when it comes to right and wrong, you still have to make your own choices, and you must not be impulsive and cause yourself to do something wrong.

This question reminds me of an interview with a female entrepreneur. She was very tired of others always asking her "how to balance family and career." Under the same conditions, men would not be asked this question.

The person I want to ask is most likely a mother.

It is difficult to balance family and career, although there are successful cases. A popular joke goes, "Today's society requires Chinese mothers to be superhuman, and they cannot be full-time mothers, nor can they reduce their care of their children." But most moms are not superhuman.

Both family and career require time and energy, but manpower is limited, so choices are inevitable. How to choose, you can only ask yourself. The answer given by others belongs to others and will definitely suit you. This can be inspired by Maslow's hierarchy of needs. From bottom to top in the hierarchy of needs, in addition to physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, esteem needs and ego needs. If you sacrifice your own good career and focus on children's education, and you can still get the above needs met, especially the satisfaction of social needs, esteem needs and self-needs, then you can consider choosing children's education. But if this kind of sacrifice makes you lose the respect of others, especially the respect of your husband, and give up yourself, then it is recommended to think twice before doing so.

Most mothers are not supermen. Don’t let other people’s opinions affect your choices. No matter how you choose, mothers who are self-respecting, confident, and self-reliant will be the best role models for their children.

Children and career seem to have become a multiple-choice question for many Chinese parents. For young people born in the 1980s, they have entered their thirties. Most of these young people with higher education have higher pursuits for their careers and futures. Raising children has become a big burden for them. The pressure of life and the helplessness of childcare make the post-80s generation in a dilemma and miserable.

For the sake of their children, there are many mothers who can make such sacrifices. This is a phenomenon I have observed in some places. I have never been in favor of this approach.

After all, a child’s study is his own business. We may be able to take good care of him in life, but we can’t expect help in his studies. For children who can really learn, I believe they can find their own learning methods and solve their own learning confusions. The initiative to learn is a state, and as parents, we can clearly perceive it. I believe he is also reluctant to let us interfere with his studies.

As the child grows older, his independent thinking ability will become stronger and his autonomy will become stronger and stronger. We can ask for the child's wishes. I don’t think most kids would approve of their parents making such a sacrifice.

As elder parents, having your own good career also includes having your own lifestyle. I think most people are unwilling to give up their original life. After all, this is the world that I have worked hard for. Children will always have their independence, and children are not everything in our lives. "Mom, when I grow up, I will send you to the best nursing home." Of course, if we make reasonable plans, I believe that we should try our best to achieve "work and family balance".

In fact, in many cases, educating children and focusing on career are not contradictory. Children need to be accompanied, but we hope to provide high-quality companionship to achieve twice the result with half the effort. It’s not that parents have no time to spend with their children, it just depends on whether you have the time to spend with your children. Many people with successful careers have not delayed family education because of their careers, such as Bai Yansong, Lei Jun, etc.

It’s not unnecessary, but don’t!

The most ideal result of school education is that students can fully learn book knowledge, while the ideal result of family education is that children have role models to learn from, so family education is more inclined to teach by words and deeds! Children's learning is their business, not yours

In China, it can be said that thousands of mothers (especially in rural areas) have given up their jobs in order to take care of their children. Some powerful ones even It wasn't until I brought my children to junior high school that I realized it was no longer easy to find a job, so I had to start a small business. This actually sets up a very bad image for the children, that is, the mother does not have her own career or job, and everything is focused on the children. It is difficult for such children to have independent personalities when they grow up.

If you are afraid of missing something, you will definitely miss something

Learning is not indoctrination, and education is not forced on children.

The best state of learning is spontaneous, and the happiness of progress can be obtained through learning, and the sense of gain will serve as a steady stream of motivation for him to continue learning. So you find that there is no need to sacrifice your career at the expense of your family. This has nothing to do with the parents' career.

Throughout the ages, no two successful people’s lives have been limited by a certain fixed education model, so don’t be afraid that your children will miss some of the education they should have at some stage, as long as they grasp the education The most fundamental things - spontaneity, interest, and a sense of knowledge acquisition, children will definitely get better and better. At the same time, if parents give their children a very good role model, for example, parents can also achieve good results or success in their own fields, this will provide their children with a vane in life. I believe that an excellent parent will bring incomparable self-confidence to the child, allowing the child to be healed by childhood throughout his life.

Be careless about your children’s education and be more serious about your career

You must separate your own life from your children’s lives. You should have your own ideals and life, and your children You should also have their ideals and lives. Don't regard your children's lives as your own, and don't lose your own life for your children.

When everyone is well, it will be a sunny day.

Come on!

1. Children’s growth has its own rules.

There is no necessary connection between the quality of children's academic performance and the success or failure of education and their parents' careers. On the contrary, the more parents' excessive care and meticulous help affect the children's self-learning ability.

In terms of the relationship between internal and external factors, the main role in a child’s growth and progress is the individual child, and the rest are all external factors. The primary factor in determining a child's academic performance is the individual, not the parents.

2. Career is the foundation of parents, and doing a good job is also an example for children to learn from. Career is the foundation and source of life for each of us. It is also the embodiment of everyone’s spiritual pursuit and life value. Being at ease with your duties and doing a good job is also a role model for your children.

For the sake of your children, there is no need to give up your personal career and pursuits. On the contrary, we must do a good job and make achievements, which is the capital to educate our children. I advise every parent not to give up your career and personal pursuits for the sake of your children, otherwise you will lose more than you gain.

3. Giving up your career for your children may not necessarily lead to good children. If we give up our personal career for the sake of our children. From a personal point of view, if you give up your career, you may become depressed and have an irregular life because you have no personal pursuits. Not only do you fail to take care of your children, but you also destroy yourself.

From a child's perspective, if parents lose their jobs and careers, they will have no living resources and material security, which will cause a certain amount of mental pressure on their children.

In short, it is best for us to negotiate well as parents, so that both children can take care of their careers, but their priorities are slightly different. For example, the father can focus on work, while the mother can only focus on her work. It is mostly used in children's learning and education.

I feel that this is the best way, because you can’t give up your work, and you can’t neglect your children’s studies. Parents are lazy with their children today, and they will have no chance to make up for it in the future. Mr. Li Ka-shing said that no matter how successful a person is in his career, it cannot make up for the failure in educating his children.

As long as you plan well, it is actually not that difficult to deal with this problem. As parents, we can carry a heavy burden and don't care about hardships and tiredness. We can educate our children well while working. We can do both.

As the saying goes, teaching by example is more important than teaching by words. I believe that as long as parents are upright, their children will also work hard!