1. February 9, 1930 happened to be Cai Yuanpei’s 70th birthday. People from all walks of life in Shanghai held a banquet for him at the International Hotel. At the banquet, he humorously thanked him and said: "Come and help me." Happy birthday, it’s just a few more years of doing things. I’ve lived to be 70, and I feel like I’ve done something wrong in the past 69 years. p>

When the guests heard this, they burst into laughter, and the whole banquet was filled with laughter. Just imagine, if he put on a serious look and gave a serious speech of thanks, there would definitely not be such a relaxed and happy atmosphere. However, when using the "lubricant" of self-deprecation, you must pay attention to the scene and situation. It is not suitable to use this kind of self-deprecation to make people laugh in serious situations or in sad atmosphere.

2. After the victory of the Anti-Japanese War, Zhang Daqian returned to his hometown in Sichuan from Shanghai. Before leaving, his friends held a farewell banquet for him and specially invited Mei Lanfang and others to accompany him. At the beginning of the banquet, everyone asked Zhang Daqian to take the first seat. Zhang said: "Mr. Mei is a gentleman and should sit in the first seat. I am a villain and should accompany the last seat." Mei Lanfang and everyone else did not understand what he meant.

Zhang Daqian explained: "Isn't there a saying, 'A gentleman talks, a villain uses his hands'? Mr. Mei uses his mouth when he sings, and I use my hands when I paint. I understand that Mr. Mei should sit first." The guests laughed and asked them to take the first seat side by side. Zhang Daqian laughs at himself as a villain, as if he is self-deprecating, but "the drunkard's intention is not in drinking", which not only shows Zhang Daqian's open-mindedness, but also creates a relaxed and harmonious conversation atmosphere.

3. The British writer Jestadong is a fat man. Due to his excessive "volume", it is often inconvenient to move. But he is also like Romulo who is not ashamed of being short and "wants to be a dwarf for the rest of my life" and is not ashamed of being fat. He once said to a friend: "I am a man three times more kind than others. Whenever I give up my seat on the bus, it is enough for three ladies to sit down."

4. Once, Chen Yi went to a relative's house to celebrate the Mid-Autumn Festival. When he entered the house, he found a good book, so he concentrated on reading it, marking it with a brush while reading. The master urged him several times to go to dinner, but when he didn't go, the master brought glutinous rice cakes and candies. While he was reading and eating, he actually put the glutinous rice cake into the inkstone, dipped it in the ink, and put it into his mouth. The relatives laughed heartily when they saw it.

But he said: "It doesn't matter if you eat some ink. I just feel that I have too little ink in my stomach!" People like Chen Yi. Isn't it related to his open-minded and humorous nature?

5. A man was about to go abroad for further study. His wife said half-jokingly: "When you go to that colorful world, you might fall in love with other women!" He smiled and said: "Look at how dignified I am. Rong: With a face like a tile, bow-legged, I’m afraid people won’t even turn their eyes when standing on the road!” This sentence made my wife laugh.

Everyone is taboo about mentioning his flaws in appearance, but this husband is able to accept his inherent shortcomings and doesn't care about exposing them. This kind of self-deprecation embodies a sugar-candy attitude and life wisdom. Isn't it more effective than solemnly swearing to your wife that you will never flirt with women? At this time, he must have become beautiful and lovely in the eyes of his wife.